couldbehoneycomb
31Portland, United States
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My self-summary
Dreamy-eyed and divinely practical performance artist and creatrix, attracted to playful and visionary beings of all genders. Calling in those who can meet me emotionally/spiritually/intellectually, relationships of evolution. ☆

About me: intuitive dance practice, astrology, plant medicine, multidimensional consciousness. All-weather bicyclist, haphazard songstress. Relationship anarchy / ethical non-monogamy. Not available for casual sex, yes to sparkly chemistry that may evolve, yes also to just-friends and all nature of beautiful sacred sincere intimacy.

Hello!

I am looking for folks who have visionary, expansive creative minds. A sense of direction and a definite sense of self / the self-in-evolution. A strong sense of "play," curiosity, and joy. Clear, compassionate communication. An understanding that we are co-creating reality, here, and a willingness to build relationships that prioritize active alignment with the heart and higher self vs. relying on traditional norms.

I believe that romantic affection can be cultivated sincerely and wholesomely with more than one person. The philosophy and ethics of non-possessive open relationships is very important to me, even as I don't date around much and may just have one partner for extended periods of time. My interest in open relationships, as I envision them for myself, comes from a place of understanding my own abundant capacity for love, the belief that I have much to learn from and share with multiple human beings, and an understanding of the power of romance and sexuality to facilitate and cultivate those connections. Relationship anarchy is a model that makes sense to me: each relationship being valued unto itself vs. put into a hierarchical ranking system. I have a realistic understanding of the fact that while love scarcity may not exist, time scarcity does, and that different relationships do elicit different levels of time and energy devotion. I think there is a way to balance this so that every participant is valued and having their needs met, but it requires a willingness to try and clear compassionate communication. But isn't that a cornerstone of all healthy relationships?

Romantic and sexual chemistry happens organically and the pathway for me is always friendship. Let's release expectations and enjoy the sparkly piqued-interest wonder accompanying meeting any new soul. Come as you are. We'll see what unfurls.
What I’m doing with my life
I am a witch and I am a healer, mover, and shaker. My spiritual path is central to my life. I'd like to call in people who can see and honor that reality, and also, ideally, those who know where they are on their own sacred paths.

I am compelled to create / co-create art that gives voice to unspoken emotional necessity, embodied empathy, intuitive wildness. I am a professional performance artist with an intuitive dance practice, and you can find me on stages around Portland. I train in butoh, a practice which has liberated my body and galvanized my artistic and spiritual evolution. I also keep a humble daily practice in fusion bellydance techniques and vinyasa flow yoga. I sing, and am stepping more and more into my musicality. I performed living statuary professionally for ten years, and am generally game for whatever weirdo installation piece my artfriends and I might concoct. And I write, lots.

I share my home with two tuxedo kitties! A 2.5yr old named John Furie Zacharias, a very intense little man who loves to shout and purrs up a storm, and The Smith, a self-aware and distinguished 13yr old gentleman made of 90% floof.

I am a year-round all-weather bicyclist, and I have very strong emotions for my bike, a cute little red steel 1985 schwinn named Darla. She gets me everywhere.

I crave adventures. I love being immersed in interesting natural environments. I love going to the mountains and learning about plant medicine, and seeking out rocky coves along on the coast that have a Pacific wildness that I have come to appreciate. In Portland proper, I enjoy the wet greenness, towering trees and luminescent mosses of Hoyt Arboretum and Forest Park. I'm not a hardcore outdoorswoman - I just need fresh air, an active body, and beautiful views as much as I need good food and solid sleep in order to feel whole and healthy. I don't have fancy gear or technical training, but I have willingness, strength, and chutzpah!
I’m really good at
Conscious self-creation and shaping my own path. Expressing myself through language and movement. Creating safe/sacred spaces for loved ones and also bringing levity and a wry playful perspective in times of need. Bringing levity generally, really. And being a melodramatic karaoke rockstar.
The first things people usually notice about me
My wardrobe is cute-comfy-functional. My hair is a little curly, a little floofy, a little hobbitish, a little rats nest.

I have a presence that commands attention, without being overbearing. I can be reserved on account of shyness in unfamiliar social situations, but I am confident and comfortable in myself. I don't want fluff, let's talk, let's meet each others eyes, get to the marrow, give me some truth.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Kate Bush. David Bowie. Nick Cave. Cocteau Twins. My go-to "easy listening" is 80's goth rock.
For shows, I like innovative noise music, or, really expert theatrical embodied performance in any style.

Books include -
Imajica, Clive Barker. Sandman, Neil Gaiman. Wuthering Heights. I was raised on Tolkien.

I have an annoying inflammation reaction when I drink beer or wine, though sometimes I do it aaaanyway. General speaking I'm a mixed drinks girl. I only eat food that's made of food and that makes my body feel good, but I don't have any stricter doctrine than that.
Six things I could never do without
"Never" is some strong language.
Right now, the answer is:
dance, soul connection, compelling art, trees, space for solitude, ever-deepening the knowledge.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
My loved ones. How can I consciously use my voice/platform/connections/art to heal and uplift myself and my human community. How can I be more myself.

This Toni Morrison quote and its wide-ranging applicability:
"I tell my students, 'When you get these jobs that you have been so brilliantly trained for, just remember that your real job is that if you are free, you need to free somebody else. If you have some power, then your job is to empower somebody else. This is not just a grab-bag candy game."
On a typical Friday night I am
Adventure / date night, having tea with a friend, karaoke'ing, or spending the night in burning incense, yoga'ing, dancing, singing.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
sun - virgo
moon - pisces
ascendant - libra
mercury - leo
venus - leo
mars - leo
jupiter - aquarius
saturn - scorpio
uranus - sagittarius
neptune - capricorn
pluto - scorpio
dark moon lilith - taurus
north node - taurus / south node - scorpio
..... I can go into a lot more detail than that, but I'll exercise some control.

INFJ, or so the internet informs me.
You should message me if
you think we could enrich each others lives.
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