27Christchurch, New Zealand
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My self-summary
I am a polyamorous guy who loves practising yoga and debating philosophy, law, and politics. I really enjoy learning other peoples point of view and discovering the way different people think. I love pleasing the people in my life, doing the little things that would make someone smile. I like dressing well and have a penchant for waistcoats and pocketwatches.
I seem to spend most of my time in an office at uni at the moment but I also procrastinate by kinda jumping at any opportunity to go do something new, whether it is simply going to a new restuarant down the road (like Kinji in Bishopdale, it is amazing) or exploring a forest with friends, getting lost and spending hours trying to find our way out. I especially enjoy doing new things with new people.
At the moment I am involved with a group of lawyers and investigators (boring types I know) and we are helping people in prison who claim to be innocent to appeal their case.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm at university doing an Honours degree in Philosophy and a law degree and somewhere in there attempting to remain a somehat normal person. I am trying to become a ethical lawyer (whatever that really means) to the sake of and justice?. I know it sounds really cheesy and cliché but I really think its important and to be honest I think its pretty cool. At heart I am really quite nerdy...

Occasionally I work as a librarian (not the Librarian) for the university which is pretty fun because books are always cool.

I am slowly working on my yoga practice with the hope of one day learning to become a qualified instructor, not because I want to teach people but just because I enjoy it.
I’m really good at
Philosophical debates, yoga, and longboarding. Oh and snuggles, I am an absolute pro at snuggling. The thing that I get complimented on the most is my cooking which I love because not only is if fun to cook, its also a wicked way to make people happy.
The first things people usually notice about me
Possibly my mismatched socks. After a while people notice that my baby blue eyes seem to change to grey depending on my mood. If I am honest with myself it's probably that I wont stop arguing about one thing or another, and always have a devilish little grin/smirk on my face while I do so. I can't help it, I just love hearing other people defend different ideas.

I seem to have an opinion to share on almost any topic which some think is because I think I know everything, but really it's because I know an incredible range of seemingly useless information that happens to fit into most conversations. How well it fits in is another story....
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Sophie's World, The Master and Margarita, Lord of the Rings, Fight Club, Bill Bryson's Short History of Nearly Everything, Siddartha ....everything else I seem to read is text books or academic journal articles...

Music: I really enjoy electronic music, its hard to be more specific than that because I rarely listen to the same thing more than a few times so my taste is always changing. However, I always like minimal sounding ambient music....I guess I like elevator music...But at the same time I also like classic rock, some country music (hey dont judge me), smooth jazz, old school hiphop, blues...I am desperate not to say the boring old 'i like everything' but I certainly enjoy quite a range.

Films: The Help, Cashback, any Studio Ghibli film, Brothers Bloom, Persepolis, Breakfast on Pluto, Winter's Bone, essentially if its weird and quirky I will probably enjoy it.

Food: Coffee, Tea, any range of curries (Indian, Thai, Japanese, Kenyan..). I dislike most breakfast foods because they just seem so boring, I would rather a nice sirloin steak with a pumpkin and kumara mash with steamed brocolli and fried courgettes, and a garlic sauce and I would be happy to get up an hour earlier to make it instead of cereal. I enjoy new flavours and different ways of doing the same dish. However, I also simple meals and certainly do resort to fast food when I am feeling too lazy so I think I can say I am not a foodie...either way I am not judgemental of what others cook (to be honest the idea of someone cooking for me sounds like such a treat I don't know if I would take any notice) I simply like creating new things and sharing them with people.
Six things I could never do without
Philosophy! I love talking about different ideas and theories and reflecting on the way that other people think. Enjoying philosophy so much tends to make people think I am argumentative but really I just want to know what other people think about a topic
Practicing yoga on the grass as the sun rises
Socrates, the great and noble thinker...well actually I mean my little black and white cat whose name is Socrates who always sits with me when I read.
Time set aside in my day to cook a nice meal; whether it is an Indian curry, a batch of fresh gyoza (japanese dumplings), or simply a nice steak, either way I absolutely adore cooking (especially when I get to cook for other people).
My duvet is quite possibly the most comfortable thing in this world, it is like being in a cloud but made of feathers instead of rain...actually being in a cloud would be really wet and cold so that is a terrible yea.
I am also a real sucker for long, deep, and meaningful conversations that go on into the wee small hours so I would hardly survive if I didnt have people to talk with (I would be stuck talking to myself and then everyone would know I am completely mad).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to solve all the worlds problems on my own (essentially ethics and law and politics). Or about how big the universe is, it's so incredibly if you lay in the grass at night and stare at the stars and try and comprehend that you are glued to the bottom of a rock, hurtling around a burning ball of gas, coming from nowhere andon the way to some other nowhere (essentially astrophysics). Or why a group of squids is not called a squad, it would be such an awesome name and is such a missed opportunity.

How relationships work and why people muck them up. Being polyamorous (having multiple relationships) has meant that I spend heaps of time reflecting on what I want out of the different relationships in my life. This in part turns into a reflection on human nature and the way that societal norms distort it.

The way that things work is another thing I spend a lot of time thinking about. I grew up on a farm so I spent my childhood fixing different things that were broken, and sometimes taking them apart to see how they worked an breaking them in the process but I swear I fixed them all in the end. Well maybe not all but I got most of them. I once spent about half an hour explaining to a friend why feeler guages are such an interesting probably dont want to ask about that, it is most likely more boring than it sounds. At some point in life I would really like to make a watch because they are such awesomely intricate little machines that it blows my mind that people make them by hand.
On a typical Friday night I am
Possibly reading a book on the couch, possibly hurtling madly down a steep hill on a piece of wood or maybe standing in my kitchen trying to think of what to make next. I love going out and partying but being a poor student seems to make that less viable than I would like so it usually turns into drinking cheap (but tasteful) wine on the lawn and watching the stars come out.
You should message me if
The kind of person I find most attractive is someone who is passionate about something and is interested in sharing that passion with someone new. It really doesnt matter what it is I just love seeing the sparkle in someones eye as they talk about something they really enjoy. I prefer someone who isn't too afraid to speak their own mind when someone disagrees wth them and who can entertain different points of view to their own.

If you are interested in polyamory then I would love to talk with you about anything that you might want to know.

If you want to explore a forest, or a mountain, or a cave, or even some new cafe you havent been to then I would be honoured to invite you to join my new Explorers Club which currently consists
The two of us