selcouth_
24 Pleasant Hill, United States
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My self-summary
My ability to define myself seems to deteriorate as time passes.

I was born and raised in the Bay Area, like my father and his father and his father's father and so on when, in the 1870s, our clan of English giants settled The Valley of the Heart's Delight. I went to college in New York but finding the crowding and weather untenable, took refuge once again in the temperate homeland.

I found out that when chimpanzees fight over a branch of blackberries, the elders take it and lead the chimps into the hut, where the branch is divided. Most chimps get some blackberries. This gives me faith in the capacity of humanity for sharing.

I belong to the Wobblies.
What I’m doing with my life
I work at a fabric store and I sew things. I have been described as a "fabric nerd." I am as interested in the geometric construction of garments as in making pretty, soft things. Likelihood is high I will touch your clothes and start examining how it's made.

I also launch myself into a lot of self-improvement projects that work some of the time because I am at once restless and lazy.
I’m really good at
Quoting authors more talented than myself. Also, crafts, acquiring vices and then quitting them, emotional intelligence, collecting bruises/running into corners, public speaking (both because I am comfortable with it and because I have a deep voice that carries like it has a built-in microphone). Conversely I am uncomfortable at parties.

On a related note I do a decent Liza Minnelli impression, which is to say my Judy Garland impression sounds a little drunk.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I LOVE to read. Here are ten books rated 5 stars on my Goodreads list: The Gift by Hafiz trans. Daniel Ladinsky, The Good Earth by Pearl S. Buck, City of Women by Christine Stansell, Americanah by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, The Ethical Slut, Unaccustomed Earth by Jhumpa Lahiri, Age of Innocence by Edith Wharton, Beloved by Toni Morrison, One Hundred Years of Solitude by Gabriel Garcí­a Márquez, and The Gold Cell by Sharon Olds
+I adore the work of Pablo Neruda and Louise Gluck, among many other poets, and that of feminists Angela Davis, bell hooks, and others
I'm trying to read more women authors, but I'm running into a roadblock with female poets. Help!

T.V. staples: Archer, True Detective, 30 Rock, Mad Men, Parky Rec, New Girl, Broad City, Jeopardy, Masters of Sex
Honestly, I love T.V. and am happy to watch a wide variety, although I can't sit through cable news or anything by Shonda Rimes.

Movies: His Girl Friday, It Happened One Night, Singin' in the Rain, My Best Girl (1927)

Music: Erykah Badu, Billie Holiday, Aretha Franklin, Creedence Clearwater Revival, Neil Young, Otis Redding, Adele, Leon Bridges, Fleetwood Mac.
The six things I could never do without
Lovingkindness
Literature/poetry/art
Crafts
Learning and continuing opportunities for education
Old friends
Wild laughter
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to find humor in the mundane, absurd, tragic

The substructures of history, society, culture, and authority
On a typical Friday night I am
I am, I am, listening to the old brag of my heart.
You should message me if
You are genuine, you want honest connection, you are warm or sensitive or open-hearted, you are too tired of jaded people to bother being jaded

Your partner is an awesome lady I should know
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