25Pleasant Hill, United States
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My self-summary
I was born and raised in the Bay Area, like my father and his father and his father's father and so on when, in the 1870s, our clan of English giants settled The Valley of the Heart's Delight. I went to college in New York but finding the crowding and weather untenable, took refuge once again in the temperate homeland.

"My tongue, every atom of my blood, form'd from this soil, this air/Born here of parents born here from parents the same, and their parents the same."

I found out that when chimpanzees fight over a branch of blackberries, the elders take it and lead the chimps into the hut, where the branch is divided. Most chimps get some blackberries. This gives me faith in the capacity of humanity for sharing.

People like to tell me I have a "strong personality." This never seems to be a compliment but on paper it sounds pretty good.
What I’m doing with my life
Trying to find the things that make life beautiful and meaningful.
I’m really good at
Quoting authors more talented than myself. Also, crafts, acquiring vices and then quitting them, emotional intelligence, collecting bruises/running into corners, public speaking (both because I am comfortable with it and because I have a deep voice that carries like it has a built-in microphone).

My transatlantic accent is on point.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I LOVE to read. Here are ten books rated 5 stars on my Goodreads list: The Gift by Hafiz trans. Daniel Ladinsky, The Good Earth by Pearl S. Buck, City of Women by Christine Stansell, Americanah by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, The Ethical Slut, Unaccustomed Earth by Jhumpa Lahiri, Age of Innocence by Edith Wharton, Beloved by Toni Morrison, One Hundred Years of Solitude by Gabriel Garcí­a Márquez, and The Gold Cell by Sharon Olds
+I adore the work of Pablo Neruda and Louise Gluck, among many other poets, and that of feminists Angela Davis, bell hooks, and others
I'm trying to read more women authors, but I'm running into a roadblock with female poets. Help!

T.V. staples: Archer, True Detective, 30 Rock, Mad Men, Parky Rec, New Girl, Broad City, Jeopardy, Masters of Sex
Honestly, I love T.V. and am happy to watch a wide variety, although I can't sit through cable news or anything by Shonda Rimes.

Movies: His Girl Friday, It Happened One Night, Singin' in the Rain, My Best Girl (1927)

A selection of ten recently played songs:
River- Leon Bridges
Come On in My Kitchen- The Roots
Rhiannon- Fleetwood Mac
Just Friends- Musiq Soulchild
Send my Love- Adele
Devil's Whisper- Raury
No Love- Erykah Badu
Gold- Kiiara
A Case of You- Joni Mitchell
Just Like a Baby- Sly & the Family Stone
Six things I could never do without
Learning and continuing opportunities for education
Old friends
Wild laughter
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to find humor in the mundane, absurd, tragic

The substructures of history, society, culture, and authority
On a typical Friday night I am
I am, I am, listening to the old brag of my heart.
You should message me if
You are genuine, you want honest connection, you are warm or sensitive or open-hearted, you are too tired of jaded people to bother being jaded

Your partner is an awesome lady I should know
The two of us