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My self-summary
Ok, you visual creatures...settle down...I may happen to be sexy...but I chose an idiotic username like "sensualnfun", I've been unsuccessful in finding a LTR thus far. (Huh!? She did NOT just turn me off by admitting THAT!)

Not seeking marriage, just a dependable & profoundly enjoyable companion who "gets me", lol....a man that would rather periodically quip in disagreement with me (assuming the sex is off the charts!)...than settle for complacent mediocrity with another.

A lackluster love life is deadly.

That being said, This profile I created 4 years ago has done nothing but conveyed too much of the wrong idea...cuz I'm equally sm-aahh-rt & strong & driven!

(Sheryl Crow sings an amazing accurate song "Are you strong enough to be my man?" Come on guys! me you're willing to give, as much as you receive!...cuz I'm EVERYTHING I state and appear to be. Why is commitment such a dirty word?)

But yes.....I am also as stated.

I'm "sensual".... which is not necessarily the same as being "sexy".

(Sexy is a by-product of having long blonde hair, big blue eyes, and being hereditarily busty, lol. )

Being "sensual" is different! takes brains & a giving nature. Sensuality involves making the other person feel special...thus, it's a feeling, not a look!

And yes, I just said "feelings", so pullleeeeze don't contact me if you're seeking emotionless casual sex! ( With today's STD stats for baby boomers who don't think before dipping, nothing should be casual about sex. )

As for "fun", I'm moreso funny....which creates the mood for fun. I'm up for adventure & spontaneity!

Oh, and I'm witty as hell!
(So if you're thin-skinned, keep surfing, slick!)

I'm strongly considering shutting down this profile soon. Time to stop the search. Kinda.

... I actually really love this dating site... because you can read the Q&As.... that truly reveal a person's personality.... as opposed to the glowing paragraphs they write about themselves ....that we ALL write about ourselves, lmbo!

It's not because I haven't met some really terrific men in the last 4 years ...because I have. In fact, two and a half..yes, a particular, I fell in love with.

The kinda head-over-heels love crap from the movies. Soul mate crap!
(Sadly, I never used to believe in that...but yes, I succumbed to it. Dammit.)

But in the end...after analyzing why none of these relationships worked out...which wasn't entirely my...nor their fault....

It was, in part, my flaw naming myself "sensualNfun"...because despite my conditional comments trying to convince readers/suitors that I was seeking a true relationship, all they saw were my attractive pics...and ridiculous misleading name!

Thus, i realize I'm attracting men who think i just want a "good time"....but equally explainable is that they never wanted a relationship. Too funny.

So ciao, baby!
(Btw! The pet name "baby" seems to be used by all "players"! Again, too funny.)

Signing off soon.
What I’m doing with my life
Being a verb, instead of a noun.

I'm busy creating my own happiness, now that my 2 adult kids are college educated & have great jobs.

My job is done....well, mostly...and it's time to worry laugh perfect my body's strength & abilities ...and to work my new craft! (Massage Therapy. A-hem! Professional massage!)
I’m really good at
Being kind.
Oh. And cracking you up.
The first things people usually notice about me
...that I make others feel comfortable and accepted.

Oh. And my long locks.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
My favorite musicians are STING...and Annie Lenox. Favorite bands Coldplay & Maroon 5.

But also immensely enjoy Megan Trainor, Lady Gaga, Rianna, Katy Perry, Tony Bennett, Michael Buble, Alanis Morisette, and Sarah MacLaughlin.

Talking Heads n BNL wrote hilarious lyrics! Al Jarreau and Chris Botti top my list for favorite jazz artists.

There's hardly anything I won't listen to...except twangy country. If that's your fav, we're probably not gonna work.

But! If you know what Zydeco is....and have appreciation for opera...yes, OPERA...we gotta talk!
Six things I could never do without
***My 2 grown kids
who truly complete me and bring me pride beyond words

I never plan to be without a dog in my life. Don't HAVE to have a relationship...but gotta have a dog (or 2 )! Besides, dog spelled backwards is god!!! Funny, huh?

absolute magic to your soul....and heals more than u realize.

no explanation ness, lol!

***My smartphone

****humor and quirkiness!!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Why men lie?? Wait, pardon me. Why ppl seeking a relationship lie, as I know plenty of women lie too, sadly.

Evenso, it's irritating to waste time...and to be misleading. It's unecessarily hurtful!

I have three different profiles on three different dating sites and the number one personality trait every single man lists.... that he insists on from a significant HONESTY.

...which is certainly vital...but oddly what I have encountered time & again, as LACKING in the men who've pursued me. Yep!

(I don't pursue men, btw. I've learned you guys all adore "the chase", despite what you say.)

THUS, why do people lie? If you're not into me, please tell me before disappearing...or rudely ignoring my texts. It's the decent thing to do. It's what I say to hopeful men who reach out to ME on dating sites if I'm not interested.

I simply take the TIME to respond
"thank you for your kind message, but sadly I don't see us as a good match. All the best finding your lucky girl!"

One guy actually said "Wow! that's the most thoughtful rejection I've ever received! Thanks. All the best to you too! "

And men? Please... PULLEEZE tell the girl you met, but don't intend to see again, that she won't be hearing from you...have the DECENCY to admit that!

Just be HONEST and please tell her! Don't make her wonder. Don't ghost her, that's rude!

Etiquette counts. It's what makes others feel good. It shows character.

There's a song that says "in the end, only kindness matters."

That says it all.
On a typical Friday night I am
Kicking back, having a cocktail, and/or watching a movie.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm annoyed that my OKCUPID personality traits below list "kinky" first....yeah, THAT makes a great 1st impression, YIKES!!

Actually, I'm the perfect combination of sexy, smart, and super funny!
You should message me if
You're character-laden, kind, and concerned about your appearance & health.

(A wee bit 'o bad boy would be highly appreciated...sensually speaking only, lol. )
The two of us