54 Indianapolis, United States
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My self-summary
I think I’ve always known that I was polyamorous … before I found a word for it.

I have known that I was bisexual since I was a teen.

Sexuality has intrigued me since I was about seven. Sensuality has intrigued me for even longer.

I got married at 35, I was divorced at 40 and we remained friends. At 45 I realized that I had completely immersed myself in my career and closed myself off from my sexuality since my divorce. I decided to dive into sexual and sensual exploration … it was a blast! Shortly thereafter, although I wasn’t looking to get into a LTR … I met my current partner and we’ve now been together for over 8 years. We are polyamorous.

I am also involved with a polyamourous, bi-sexual woman that I expect will be in my life for years to come.

So, here’s the deal … I am older, and heavier than ever before (well duh on one of those!) I am a pretty amazing person … and I am very human. Right now my humanity ties in to my self-esteem and body issues. I am shy until I get to know people, and I am a little socially awkward. I am self sufficient and independent. I have many friends and I deeply value my friendships. I am creative, inquisitive, visual, and enjoy positive touch. I am a geek, I am eclectic, I like board and card games, I like to make things, and I enjoy theatre, science fiction and fantasy, showtunes and burlesque.

I am looking to meet people and build friendships that could lead to more. I am not looking for a replacement to my primary relationships, I am looking for more ways to both feel and express my love. I am amenable to men, women or couples.

I am a non-smoker and social drinker - I do not like getting drunk or being around drunks. I try to be kind and non-judgmental in all things. I am looking for people of a like mind.
What I’m doing with my life
I am currently in committed ethical, non-monogamous relationships with my two partners. I am exploring/questioning where I fit in the kink world ... and where it fits in mine. You can learn more about that part of me and my life on FetLife.

Quite frankly, I've been through some difficult times and am still very cautious about who I will open up to. I will do much "vetting" before anything happens and anyone that I am meeting must be willing to meet my partners at some point. If you are in a relationship with someone else I would expect something similar.

I am step-mom to two boys and being a good parent is very important to me. We do not hide the fact that we are in nontraditional relationships from our sons.
I’m really good at
Seeing more than one side of a situation.
Loving people for their unique self.
Listening without judging.
Being imperfectly human.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm quiet.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books - I love to read ... mostly fiction and fantasy, some science fiction ... and from time to time biographies ... but I'm not great at remembering names ... I'll add on to this as I have flashes of what I consider favorites!

Movies - (see my note above about my memory) ... Shortbus; The Princess Bride; The Professional; Holiday Inn; Philadelphia Story.

Shows - Television ... Dr Who; Star Trek (TOS, NG, DSN, Voyager); Once Upon A Time; Wonderfalls; Firefly; Hot In Cleveland; Charmed; Supernatural; Buffy the Vampire Slayer; The Dollhouse; Pushing Daisies; Big Bang Theory.

Shows - Stage ... Wicked; Man of La Mancha; Avenue Q.

Music - about anything that has a melody ... particularly blues, jazz, standards, big band and broadway.

Food - Mediterranean; Indian; Micro Brews; Thai; Korean; Greek; Vegan; Vegetarian; Coffee; Pizza.
The six things I could never do without
Something to write on & with.
Something to make/create
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How I can help other people find their own peace and place in the world. Teaching others about being open and accepting of things outside the boxes we were taught to stay in.

How to be true to myself and how to separate the true me from the face and expectations that I put on for most of my life.

How to find peace in myself and move forward from grief and losses in the past few years.
On a typical Friday night I am
Nothing is typical anymore!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
There are lots of things ... but generally I'm an open book ... if you ask - I'll tell you.

More and more I'm becoming enchanted with the idea of being a sex-positive advocate.

I am passionate - about a lot of things. My emotions are very close to the surface, I laugh easily, I cry easily - and it's all okay.
You should message me if
You are interested in building a friendship.

You like the idea of discussing healthy sexuality, communication, relationships, polyamory, costuming, theatre, crafts, child-rearing, world domination, relaxation, erotica, bondage, self-worth, freedom or good food and wine.

You are willing to accept my quirks and share yours with me, knowing that sometimes my family commitments come before my personal time online and with friends - it doesn't mean I don't care.

You are able to be honest with me and accept that I speak my mind and believe in living transparently.