50Oak Park, United States
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My self-summary
Single man looking for local friends, dating & casual fun with other single folks. Want a LTR eventually but no hurry.

If you voted for or support Donald Trump in any fashion please pass me by. We are not a match.
What I’m doing with my life
I work in IT. Educational background is in health care and considering a return to that field. I love computers and gadgets. I like collecting and listening to music, karaoke, reading, movies, thrift stores, bicycling, cooking and baking, camping. Other stuff I collect: tiki kitsch, vintage advertising, PEZ, Day of the Dead folk art & Halloween decorations.
I’m really good at
Sex, kissing, massage, listening, making lemon pound cake & cherry clafouti, finding media online, collecting & organizing, mixing tropical cocktails from scratch, singing in the shower and acting a fool.
The first things people usually notice about me
My big red beard, then my hillbilly twang.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
books - Eclectic taste. Cut my teeth on Stephen King & Clive Barker. Margaret Atwood, Joan Didion, Kelly Link, David Sedaris, "J.T. Leroy", Fannie Flagg. Southern humor, horror, scifi, slipstream, sociological history, etc.

movies - David Lynch, David Cronenberg, Catherine Breillat, Todd Solondz, Todd Haynes, Robert Altman, Marina de Van, John Waters, Doris Wishman, Gregg Araki, Lars Von Trier. Horror, suspense, sci-fi and documentaries, especially anything about the arts. Foreign films, indie, comedies, cult & oddball, B movies.

shows - @Midnight. Twin Peaks. Harlots. The Handmaid's Tale. Imposters. Mary Kills People. Rick And Morty. Fleabag. Lady Dynamite. One Mississippi. iZombie. Difficult People. You're The Worst. Orphan Black. Stranger Things. The Leftovers. Better Call Saul. Silicon Valley. Orange Is The New Black. RuPaul's Drag Race. Futurama. Broad City.

music -
- funk, R&B and psychedelic soul
- Prince
- vintage psych & folk rock, sunshine pop, bubblegum
- electronic music, vintage and current
- soundtracks: blaxploitation, horror, porn
- female blues & jazz singers
- exotica & lounge
- "dirty" blues
- outsider artists & assorted oddities

food - Enjoy cooking & baking. I like steaks or burgers on the grill, southern cooking & soul food, Chinese, Thai, Vietnamese, Mexican, Italian, Polish, Middle Eastern, you name it. Adventurous palate & love international grocery stores.
Six things I could never do without
"Things" precludes people, so:
internet access: I was internet dating in the pre-WWW era when nobody I knew owned a computer, sonny! Things were much more civil when it was just us geeks online.
I spend a lot of time thinking about

Let's talk about sex, baby.
I like women, men, transmen and couples. Especially seeking long term connections with other poly folks.

With women I enjoy just about anything sexually. I am Dom in any kink play but that's definitely optional.

Top/vers with men. I like sub bottoms, vers tops and occasionally even a total top.
On a typical Friday night I am
Entertaining friends at home or out with friends at karaoke.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
See the rest of this page.
You should message me if
You are poly.
We have some things in common.
You are looking for a friend, with or without benefits.
You are 420 friendly.
The two of us