41Shanghai, China
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My self-summary
I am intense, a bit odd, too smart and struggle to remain within what should constitute a suitable level of snark. I am passionate but cautious. Intellectual but frivolous. Goofy yet practical. I live like I dance: enthusiastic, clumsy and absurd. Shanghai is my home, it has been for a long time, and this city is my great tumultuous love.
What I’m doing with my life
Currently day job as an arts and culture journalist, side projects...also as an arts and culture journalist. Social life, arts and culture. You get the idea.
I’m really good at
- Swimming very long distances slowly
- Sleeping
- Reading
- Entertaining cats
- Making martinis

I am NOT, at all, good at:
- Suffering fools
- Cleaning
- Balance
- Any sports involving balls
- Small talk
The first things people usually notice about me
I tend to be pretty reserved at first, but if I get comfortable enough with people then it's no holds barred. I prefer fewer, better friends than gobs of casual ones, but I do enjoy being a facilitator of people.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I mostly read nonfiction, but more articles than books.

I am a China history nerd, and my favorite China writers are Jeff Wasserstrom and Lynn Pan and John Gittings. And Qiu Xiaolong, and Duncan Hewitt, and Alex Harney, and Wang Anyi, and...and...

I do enjoy genre fiction, and television. I currently watch: Doctor Who, Bojack Horseman, Lady Dynamite, Outlander, Crazy Ex-Girlfriend, Portlandia. Old favorites: Agent Carter, 30 Rock, Parks & Rec, Community, Mad Men, Breaking Bad, West Wing, Veronica Mars, Buffy, Angel, The Wire.

Food! I love food, a bit too much. Stinky tofu and heavy cheese split my heart like a half-peeled hairy crab. I am a vegetarian/pescavore/flexavore; I think meat is a waste of resources and calories when there is cheese, carbs and tofu in the world. But I make an exception for xiaolongbao, shengjian and burgers. I am not very good at being a vegetarian, but I try.

The only thing I really miss about the US, apart from individual people, is good Mexican and Greek food. I waitressed in a Greek restaurant during college, and...I don't want to think about it. But I am trying to learn to make good Mexican food, and my tortillas are approaching edible.
Six things I could never do without
- my friends
- my flat
- my cat
- my gadgets (laptops, cameras, smartphone)
- my notebooks and pens
- my stimuli (art, music, longjing, coffee, martinis)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
what the world would be like if cats had opposable thumbs
On a typical Friday night I am
At a gallery opening, then to dinner with the artist and curator. Or at a play. Then either to Mao or Yuyintang for a concert, and/or home early with a beer and a book.
You should message me if
You are in Shanghai, interesting, and interested. I'm partial to ethnic Asian guys, but all cute is good cute.

I am not interested in: 1. Random email pals outside of Shanghai. I already have lots of actual friends I don't email enough. 2. Casual sex. 3. Anyone very conservative, sexist, homophobic or racist. (For some reason those three are half the messages I get on here...) 4. Anyone who self-describes, in user name or profile, as a "laowai".
The two of us