29Carmel Valley, United States
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My self-summary
Ahoy! I am a down-to-earth, thoughtful, curious person interested in finding an intelligent, passionate, funny man who knows what he wants in life. My personality tends toward the reserved and introverted so I do best with outgoing types but I am open to all kinds.

I realize my profile is a lot to get through. Only the strong survive!

I enjoy sitting in the forest communing with nature; I also very much love the city, so moving closer to one is in the near future for me. There is frequently a battle in my head between environmentalism and commercialism - every day I tip a little more toward the former, but damn, it is tough sometimes! That being said, wealth and material things are of little interest to me.

I drink beer and I like it. I also can't say no to a good pinot noir.

I am pretty nerdy: I took a class on the native flora and fauna of California for the fun of it, I watch Jeopardy (and am damn good at it), and I always have a book with me. I also like going to places that fall under the category of "good for elementary school field trips"...what's life without a childlike sense of wonder? Science is fucking cool!

My demeanor tends toward the quiet, laid-back side, but I am also very passionate when it comes to things like social justice and environmental ethics. My closest friends would describe me as initially stand-offish, but once I have accepted someone as a friend, very warm and giving. I tend toward the realistic/cynical side but always try to find the silver lining. True to my hippie nature, I think a lot of the world's problems could be solved if we all tried to understand and care for each other a little more. This all makes me sound like a New-Agey crystal wearing astrology lovin' space cadet
What I’m doing with my life
I moved to the Monterey area very recently from the Bay Area and currently work as an environmental educator/photographer/project leader in a very unique program. Grad school is in my future as soon as I win the lottery.

Fitness is a love of mine, I am very athletic but can also be very lazy. Someone to motivate and move with is definitely high on my list.

Traveling is another great love, a few years back I nearly emptied out my bank account to take my first trip out of the country and went to beautiful Spain. I have been a few more places since, and hope to expand my list.
I’m really good at
How about things I really enjoy...Yoga (mostly just for sivasana), Netflix marathons with my roomies, car-aoke, having incredibly stupid conversations (or incredibly intellectual ones, I quite enjoy both), really lame jokes, organic gardening, dancing, reading, learning, hiking, skiing, men, the performing arts (any type of art, really), reading reading reading, and sports involving water. But not water sports. Need a surfing buddy! Reading in the shower, cooking, parenthetical sentences.

If you can't tell I'm a bit of a hobby collector and am always down to try something new, though I'm not much of a thrill seeker. My introversion means I find such thrill in generally non thrilling activities. Ooh, birds! Did you see that crazy flower, brah!? F yeah sitting in quiet contemplation!

I make a point of constantly learning new skills, trying something I've never done before, or bettering myself in some way as often as possible.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm SHORT. And have a seemingly surly demeanor, but really I am probably spacing out or tripping on a new realization about birds or something.

I can be very sarcastic and deadpan-y and this tends to go right over the heads of people who don't know me well. Possibly I'm just unfunny.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: The Best American...series, The Wild Trees, Fahrenheit 451, David Foster Wallace, Bill Bryson, Bret Easton Ellis, McSweeney's, The Road, The Metamorphosis, Shakespeare (really), The Hobbit, Harry Potter (duh, what kind of nerd would I be). Lately it's been a lot of nonfiction.

Movies: The Cabin in the Woods, Fight Club, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, The Graduate, Across the Universe, Best in Show, 8 1/2, The Big Lebowski, Cabin Fever, This is Spinal Tap, Lilo & Stitch, Heathers, Wet Hot American Summer, Star Wars, Indiana Jones, O Brother Where Art Thou, Bonnie & Clyde, The Producers, Thelma and Louise, almost everything Kevin Smith, Quentin Tarantino, Mel Brooks, and Alfred Hitchcock have done, The Lord of the Rings, Moulin Rouge, Kill Bill, Donnie Darko, Young Frankenstein, A Hard Day's Night...I really love discussing movies. And would like some more sophisticated selections! I treat Cinequest like it's a job.

The last several months are most accurate, but the overall is a fun look into my pretty bleak musical past (present?). And my love of classic rock, motown, doo-wop, and oldies isn't well-represented here. If it has soul and/or a good beat to dance to or I can belt along and pretend I'm a cheesy pop icon I probably will enjoy it.

Sometimes I listen to stuff that would be embarrassing if I had musical scruples, but I can justify it all.

TV: Dexter, Arrested Development, Parks and Rec, Venture Bros., Wilfred, Our America with Lisa Ling, Firefly, Freaks and Geeks, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Jeopardy, No Reservations. Sometimes even the stuff about sasquatch and ghosts. Pop culture in all forms is fascinating to me - if nothing else it is a fascinating sociological study.

Lots of podcasts and Adam Carolla-era Loveline.

Food is usually best when it is ethnic, spicy, and cheap!
Six things I could never do without
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Music, life, and very very deep things of that nature, what makes people tick, our relationship with our food and resources, evolutionary psychology, what the hell I forgot to do now, what I want to do over the weekend, how much longer our society is going to survive, what skill I sant to practice or pick up next. Men. Men with beards. Mmm, beards.
On a typical Friday night I am
Spending a night in with my roommates, a fancy (or not) wine or beer, and Netflix/a book. Or a night out having good food and great conversation.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Every time I see the "Two of Us" tab I sing the Beatles song in my head.
You should message me if
My lame profile didn't drive you off? Writing a sales pitch for myself is very awkward.

If you are kind, funny, intelligent, and love exploring and taking care of this planet as much as me. I am a bit cynical, and I really enjoy people who I can commiserate with a bit and who also bring some optimism into the mix.

Sorry in advance if I don't message back; that being said, try to message me anyway. You never know!

***I'm adding this because I've gotten a number of messages like this:
If your first message to me says "you're hot", "your cute", "u r a beautiful princess" etc. and not much else...I will 100% not respond.
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