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My self-summary
!!! I am married and ONLY interested in creating meaningful friendships. !!!

I'm Jessica.... welcome to the all-non-inclusive profile of things I thought to mention!

When I was little I genuinely thought I was psychic because I had a knack of knowing how other people think and felt. I figured out later that I am just very receptive to body language, subtleties in tone, and facial expressions. Since I'm constantly putting myself in others' shoes, I find it easy to appreciate just about everyone I come across. Now I'm a lot more skeptical on my "psychic powers".
I'm an HSP (highly sensitive person), which basically means I have a sensitive nervous system. I'm acutely aware of subtleties in my surroundings and am more easily overwhelmed when in highly stimulating environments like amusement parks or parties. Life in general can be more mentally and physically draining than for non-HSPs. Before I learned to deal with it, one could usually find me hiding in a closet or tucked away in a corner trying to hide from everything.

Regardless of this, I find public speaking very easy and almost look forward to it sometimes. This puzzles me because I generally don't like the proverbial spotlight. I spent a lot of my childhood performing and touring nationally and internationally, so that's probably what quashed my stage fright.

I push myself into trying new things... things I even predict that I won't like. I don't like assuming I can't do something just because the thought of it makes me uneasy.

I'm atheist and agnostic (which, by the way, don't necessarily exclude each other). I am still learning, but I've come to a point where telling others that I'm 'atheist' gives me a sense of freedom I've never felt before. I am very much interested in seeing this country distance itself further from dogma-related policy.

Although seemingly contradicting, I have fairly high self-confidence but very low self-image. I won't allow others to take advantage of me, but I don't think of myself very well. That is one thing I've been actively working on lately.

My career path consists of a stumbling trudge. I've studied toward degrees in music education, music therapy, and massage therapy. All of them happened to not work out, but I'm fairly certain I want to go more permanently into medical secretarial work, as I've worked in that area and enjoyed it very much.

So, here's the dealie-o. I'd really love to develop some more friendships. I have a couple very distant friends, but not many I can really talk to about what is in my heart. Although I can be supportive and a good friend to most people, so few people have the kind of patience and emotional intelligence it takes to crack into my heart. But I'd love to be able to get to know some more people and understand and support them in return.
What I’m doing with my life
Getting ready to move to Reno, NV with my husband. Cleaning, organizing.

On a side note, I like Public Radio - specifically NPR, Wait Wait, Don't Tell Me, traveling, singing, sociology, cats BookCrossing, and poetry - especially that of Sara Teasdale.
I’m really good at
I suppose I'm quite good at lending my ears and shoulders. And I give hugs readily.

Analyzing poetry, I guess... at least better than some...

I make one heck of a mean lasagna. No really. It will berate you.

I have fairly strong hands and I use them on friends and family to ease their achy muscles. I'm pretty sure I've massaged strangers now that I think of it.

Taking in all of the groceries into the house in one trip... or grudgingly in two.

Finding and enjoying the humor in everyday events or things.
The first things people usually notice about me
The one person who still remembers what she thought of me at first says that she noticed that I seemed really friendly. Whats funny is that I remembered -her- to be the open and friendly one.

Physically... I'm overweight (or curvy or whatever women like to call themselves). I have long curly brown hair. I wear casual clothes almost always unless I'm working. I wear flip flops if barefoot is not possible. I sometimes like to get away with flip flops in the winter too. My feet want to be freeeee!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: To name some... She's Come Undone by Wally Lamb, A Little Princess by Frances Hodgson Burnett, The Phantom of the Opera by Gaston Leroux, The Ender series and Lovelockby OSC, The Power of One and Tandia by Bryce Courtenay, Marrying Mozart and The Players: A Novel of the Young Shakespeare; both by Stephanie Cowell, Of Love and Other Demons by Garcia Marquez.... I also love me some romance novels once in a while as well as some shoujo (girl manga).

Movies: Good Will Hunting, V for Vendetta, The Piano, A Knight's Tale, The Shawshank Redemption, Gattaca, Little Miss Sunshine, Everything Is Illuminated, What Dreams May Come, Hannibal, New Moon, A Fish Called Wanda, Sophie's Choice, Snowcake, Harold and Maude, Contact, The Saint, Lawrence of Arabia, The Order, Dirty Dancing, Up

TV Shows: Star Trek: TNG, Law & Order: Special Victims Unit, House, Rurouni Kenshin, Avatar, American Dad, Futurama, Daily Show, How I Met Your Mother

Music: Eric Whitacre, The Phantom of the Opera, Kathleen Edwards, Carmina Burana, Adagio for Strings by Barber, Antonin Dvorak, Hopewell, Badly Drawn Boy, Camille Saint-Saens, Teitur, Gustav Mahler, Susanne Sundfor, Wild Clover Band, Z Randall Stroope, Stephen Speaks, Tchaikovsky, Peter, Paul and Mary, Imogen Heap, Dido, James Blunt, Coldplay, Johnny Cash, MIKA, Josh Groban, Norah Jones, Johnny Flynn, Robert Pattinson (believe it or not, his music is pretty awesome).

Food: Broccoli and Ice Cream... but never broccoli ice cream
Six things I could never do without
**Revised to "The six things I would really dislike doing without"***

-Fans (the air-blowing type, not the admiring masses type)
-My prescribed medicine
-The outside...
-Pets or animals of some type (Once I chased around pigeons in Germany because I was going through pet-withdrawal.)
-Internet access at home
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Effective teaching... I've had a lot of brilliant professors come up short in providing their classes with an organization of information that makes sense in the most basic of ways. For a quick example ... to understand the pathways through the auditory tract into cognition or reaction, one must know at least the basic anatomy of the brain. Things like that just really irk me. I spend a lot of my time researching things that have not been effectively built up to in lectures.

I guess another thing I do in my head a lot is playing devil's advocate. Its a quick way of getting to the gray areas of concepts. I believe the truth almost always is located somewhere other than pure black or white.

I like to make stories up in my head about people when I have time sitting somewhere or waiting in traffic. I give elaborate back stories, problems, goals, etc. to them.

I naturally have always paid a lot of attention to marketing and advertisements. Corporations spend millions or billions trying to make consumers want their products. I'm fascinated by the subject of neuromarketing. People are paid top dollar to come up with ways to fool our brain into craving or accepting. Most of my life I've generally been able to observe how most people receive information. I'm pretty sure I'd rock out in that field. But. It's evil. Especially the stuff that makes people do or purchase out of fear or out of feeling inferior. I could never make a living on fooling people to part with their money and live with myself.

Oh yeah, and how can I be a 95% match and 45% friend to some people.... what????
On a typical Friday night I am
Reading novels or fanfiction, watching a movie, getting caught in a Wikipedia never-ending cycle of curiosity-driven research, Redditing, laundry. Nothing much more than any other night, I guess. Oh.. well one Friday we had cat bowling at our house... but that wasn't typical. Probably not a repeat any time soon. Eli caught on to the game and fun was put on hold indefinitely.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have had diagnosed clinical depression for the last six years or so. It comes and goes, but is managed fairly well. It has set me back in some ways, but I am learning to be patient with myself more so than I could have in other circumstances.

Eventually I want to carry a baby. I don't know yet if I want children... but I have an incredible desire to carry a baby to term. I would love to serve as a surrogate for one of my close friends or family in the case they aren't able to.

Oh! And I have a strange predilection for sinewy forearms and hands. And add a piano keyboard or other instrument to the end of said sinewy forearms and I may become a puddle.
You should message me if
.... if you have at -least- a 75% match in the friend department with me. And please please please be able to use some basic punctuation. Capital letters... periods at the end... if you really want to impress me, spell check your message.

Aside from that... Message me if you really think we could get along from what I've written here. Honestly, I'm fascinated by all people. However, the point of me putting this out here is to find some like-minded friends. So.... if you don't drink, don't smoke, don't do drugs, don't party (or do so in moderation) and like interaction in smallish gatherings with fun and open-minded people... I'd love to hear from you. Or one-on-one talking or chatting has also interested me from time to time. Also, I really get along well with people who are not biased against sex, orientation, race, etc, etc, etc. Message me if.... you like board games... or good movies.... or picnics... or if you like going to thrift stores for no reason in particular... or if you like throwing dinner parties... or if you're open to teaching me about things you are passionate about..... if you like going to find great music in the community... if you want to paint on my piano.... if you want to play my piano for living-room concerts... if you play an instrument or sing and want to sing with me.... I can sing anywhere from soprano to tenor lit.. if you want to go stargazing or if the idea of spontaneously taking road trips sounds awesome... message me!!! I am an open book to the right people... I want to make some lifelong friendships. :)
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