sirj77
39 Brooklyn, United States
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My self-summary
*** Women have made it abundantly clear they all think I am worthless, and only have double-standards, judgment, and rude silent treatment for me trying. I had hopes and dreams too, it's too bad they can't coincide with someone else's. Fine, I won't waste anymore money here (means I can't see "likes", if you like, communicate!), but I'm sick of making first contact for rude silent treatment. ***
I'm considered an INFP personality (introversion, intuition, feeling, perception). Before you go 'oh, an introvert', please learn what the difference is. I am not anti-social, just not a social butterfly. I like what I say to mean something. I have friends, but I go for quality over quantity. You hit a low spot, then you find out what kind of friends you have. I think and feel a little differently from extroverts, and one is not better or worse than the other, just different strengths and weaknesses, just like people in general. While anything is possible, they figure ENFJ, or ESFJ personalities are good matches for mine, which makes sense.
That being said, I like to joke with my friends, friendly jabs, double meaning to see if they catch it. I like walking nature trails, enjoying the scenery, sometimes see some wildlife. I like my gadgets, I'm good with computers and electronics, they just make sense to me. I like to play computer games when I have time, mainly sandbox adventure type games now days. I also post my adventures on youtube (this is on indefinite hold for now, there is a reason), I have a blog, webpage, facebook, etc. I find my own ways of putting myself out there, that don't majorly conflict with my nature. I even do some recreational writing when the mood hits me, and have a story that I work on. I have a full time job, car, apartment, and I've been in the same church since I was about 5, and I've run sound/tech for pushing 20 years. I prefer to hangout with a few friends to room full of chatty people. My friends have said I'm an awesome guy, and deserve better than what I've been able to find when it comes to women. I don't know about awesome, and I am pretty frustrated with the luck I've had. I've heard say that a guy isn't suppose to talk about past women. But they have to be at least mentioned to get a better picture, because we are all effected by our experiences. I'm not looking for pity, or judgment, I would want/need understanding. Knowledge is wasted if you can't understand it, people are empty shells if you can't understand them.
I like sci-fi, action, adventure for my movies and reading. I like audio books/dramas. Music, is pretty open, minus screamer heavy metal stuff, and most rap, I don't classify those as music in my head. lol
If you haven't figured it out yet, I'm honest, loyal, intelligent, and have a certain, code of honor I guess you could call it. It might better better known as morals, ethics. Those just sound funny in my head. This by no means is all about me, but hopefully it gives a decent picture. Some things are better seeing for yourself. :)
*** I'm looking for someone in my area, not states or countries away. I'm thinking a max of about 50miles. Long distance is not what I'm looking for, I'm not interested in messaging forever, and I'm not crazy enough to expect someone to uproot themselves on my account, and I don't foresee me moving. Silly to have to say, but it still seems necessary, people sometimes make assumptions (know what 'assume' means? lol).
What I’m doing with my life
I work at an auto parts store in Brooklyn. It's not ideal, but the work environment and people are better than some jobs I've had. I'm not a "car" person, but I know enough to be dangerous (which is often more than our customers). lol Beyond that, living life like most everyone else. I'm not a partier or anything like that, such things are lost on me.
I’m really good at
I'm good with computers and general electronics. I have an eye for landscaping (from a few years working in that). I also run sound at my church. I've been told I'm I good friend and an awesome guy. Oddly, not good enough for them 'Show' me they think that. Hmm.
The first things people usually notice about me
Probably that I'm short for a guy. That didn't use to bother me, until it seemed to bother everyone else, and some how made me less human. News flash, I didn't get to choose my height, and I can't change it. The only thing that can change is what you think of if, and that is up to you. What you see isn't all there is.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I've been watching some of the old tv shows on Netflix, and that's been fun. My regular tv doesn't get used much.
My preferred reading is usually either sci-fi, or fantasy/adventure. My most recent reading has been catching up on old Linux Journals (magazine). Lately I've been enjoying some fan made Star Trek audio dramas, which I enjoy.
My movies are usually sci-fi/action/adventure, but I'm not beyond the occasional "chick flick", 'Just Like Heaven' is a good one, and kind of makes me wish for something like that. Music varies, depends on what I'm in the mood for.
The six things I could never do without
Air, water, food, hope, love... the usual. Oh, I probably wasn't suppose to take that quite so literally was I? Still, there is a difference between what I "want", and what I NEED. Watch a show called Revolution, it got me thinking what really need to live life.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Why do women often seem to have double standards? If you don't like being judged on how you look, what makes you think it's ok to do it to the guys? Why can't we be 2 people looking for the same things? A few bad apples doesn't define the rest of us. Personally, I'm sick of my being short for a guy eliminating me from any consideration what so ever. You want someone to take you as you are, maybe you should offer the same consideration. I'm not here to play mind games. That's my mini-rant. Lol
On a typical Friday night I am
I usually go over to my parents, have dinner, watch a movie.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Sorry, I'm not going to give women anything more to beat me over the head with, they do that enough as it is. Besides, I hear women like a mystery. :)
You should message me if
If you are serious about a real relationship...
Unfortunately, with the arrival for the new year, I have concluded me making an effort to make first contact is not appreciated in the least (which seems ironic on a singles site). I'm not crude, and I just try to start a conversation. Responses range from silence, to judgement, to effectively telling me I'm too messed up and should seek help and I should be less honest. Uh, wow, that's a bit hypocritical, isn't it? I am human, and not "perfect", and imperfect people don't have any right pointing out the flaws of others just so they can feel better, that's just childish. Relationship is a partnership, understanding, consideration, communication, and yes, working things out (means we won't get along 100% of the time, because we are individuals). It has to start some where, before you get trust, and love. If you can't understand that, well, that's really too bad. I'm done going out on a limb just to have cut from under me. Let ME know if you are interested, drop me a line. Don't just hit 'like' and go on your way, I'm not going to waste anymore money on singles sites to just to see wish-washy likes. Communicate! :) If you made it all the way to the end, my name is Jason, thank you for your time. :)
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