46 Seneca, United States
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My self-summary
Always in flux.

Feminist iconoclast, neurotic femme, polyamorous, easily distracted, and looking for new relationship(s).

I'm a cynical romantic with a competency kink.

Repeating/rewording some of that for emphasis, because it's important: feminist, queer, polyamorous, cynical but somehow optimistic.

Not too optimistic, since I've pretty much convinced myself that I'm going to die alone and be eaten by my cats.

Back in the rural south after a too brief sojourn in Philadelphia. I miss the city life, although I appreciate the quiet and dark. Maybe the howling coyotes are a bit much.

My life has been rebooted yet again in too few years. I'm not happy about that, considering the processes and pain involved. So again, I'm trying to rebuild this profile. Maybe it'll go somewhere this time.

I don't belong where I live; I never have. I'm the proverbial black goat who never bothered to fit in with the local sheep. Had I the wherewithal, I would go elsewhere--just not sure where yet. If you're wondering why this strange, faraway woman is checking out your profile, that may be why.
What I’m doing with my life
reconstructing the job I was conned into giving up.
thinking. reacting. being.
trying to heal.
I’m really good at
...not sleeping, wandering and minstreling, copy editing, scattering thoughts to the wind, sort of fitting in, not quite being an outcast, cooking and occasionally baking, training kittens to walk on a leash, and using Oxford commas.
The first things people usually notice about me
long hair.
the way I'm usually carrying way too much stuff around, either figuratively or literally.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
It always changes. I consume music and art like other people consume air.

Name something, I'll have an opinion. It may even be intelligent or interesting.

I think I've always been a hedonist.

I grew up on a steady diet of Vivaldi, Simon and Garfunkel, Star Trek, Star Wars, C. S. Lewis, J.R.R. Tolkien, Madeline L'Engle, and the like. I've branched out in the past 40-odd years, obviously.

I will read anything about music and listen to new pieces with an ear honed by education and experience. Pick a century, any century, and I can find music I will enjoy.

I like movies with booms, expansive cinematography, and/or good acting. Same goes for television, although I'm pickier about story arcs. Reality isn't my favorite state, so I avoid it for entertainment in general.

I'd rather see a show of abstract expressionists than impressionists. I actually do like brutalist architecture, along with other styles. I don't throw a lot of stones, so I think I could live in a Philip Johnson or Richard Neutra house. That being said, one of my hobbies involves imagining how I would remodel a historic building.

I am picky about Thai food, and would prefer to avoid Ethiopian, offal, and overcooked vegetables. But I will experiment--I'm no longer against haggis on principle.
The six things I could never do without
my instruments
my freedom and a stable base from which to explore
my access to information
something to create
someplace to lie down in the darkness
indoor plumbing.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
...musical phrasing, social justice, pedagogy, design, architecture, what caused my latest migraine, and how it got to be so late.
On a typical Friday night I am
...doing the same thing I do any other night. I'm not a particularly exciting person if left to my own devices.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I can't stand the taste of red food coloring.

My vision is terrible. My hearing is getting worse.

I'm not entirely sure what I'm looking for, to be honest. I've been hurt badly, and I'm recovering, but I do know I'm tired of being alone all the time.

I miss kissing.
You should message me if're smarter than the average bear. You're not a judgmental ass. You have at least the semblance of sympathy, or better yet, empathy.

I'm not going to dismiss anyone for their religion or lack thereof; please do me the same courtesy. On the other hand, if you are an anti-theist or conservative evangelical Christian, we're probably not going to have much in common.

Look, this isn't my first go around on the OKC train. Hell, it's not even my second or third. I'm not looking for a pedestal or even pretty compliments. What I want is a connection, shared interests, something that moves you in the same direction as me. Then, maybe, if I read your profile and questions and find you interesting, I'll message back, and we can see what goes from there.

I'm cautious, yes. I have to be. It's just a thing I (and you) will have to deal with right now.