44Kirkland, United States
Join today
Find great matches with our advanced matching system!
Join today
Find great matches with our advanced matching system!
My self-summary
At some point, someone should up this profile. I guess that person should be me, huh? I'm always unsure of what I should include. How much information is too much? Well, if we're going to go there we might as well park.

Let us start with the basics then, shall we? I am a transgender woman who is happily married in an open and poly relationship. My wife is also my Mistress and we have been together since 1995. In May of 2008, we added Her boyfriend to our marriage, a very handsome and sexy man. By day, I am a software developer, I run an award winning photography studio, I bellydance, and I produce and perform burlesque. I am kinky and have many, many fetishes.

I volunteer in local community theater projects, typically doing makeup whether the standard stage fair or prosthetic effects, and sometimes helping with wigs. I also do production still photography. I love going to and helping run conventions.

I am a really shy person, although I fake being an extrovert really well and sometimes, I completely miss social cues. If I appear baffled in those situations, it is because I honestly have no idea what it is that I did or said that was wrong. During high school that I said to myself, "I don't understand why people react the way they do towards me. I should figure that out." Thus began my long, and often times painful journey of experimentation to become less socially awkward.

Alas, I am still shy and I still have a hard time breaking the ice, even if it is just to become friends or if I find you attractive in some way. One thing I've started doing to help with that are "Drive By Compliments", where I message someone that I have some interest in. Is it a perfect way of dealing with my shyness? Not in the slightest, but it's what I have to work with right until I can come up with a new solution. :)

One last thing: I love kisses. Long, deep, passionate kisses that mess up my makeup.

I am creative, kinky, poly, and pansexual. And I refuse to give up the Oxford comma. Just saying.
What I’m doing with my life
I am a busy, busy girl. For starters, I belly dance and take classes in American Tribal Style belly dance at ucanto Belly Dance, in the U-District, and have studied burlesque at Miss Indigo Blue's Academy of Burlesque. I also perform internationally in and produce burlesque shows. There are a couple of photos from my performances. Since July of 2010, I've been over 40 shows including shows in New Jersey, Oregon, and California and I have no intentions of slowing down.

My photography work continues to improve as I seek out what I like, take my influences from those around me, and step outside of my box more and more. I've shown my work at conventions and at the Night Kitchen, in downtown Seattle off 2nd and Stewart. I regularly contribute to the Edge of Propinquity (, a semi pro webzine of urban fantasy and horror.
I’m really good at
Two of my photographs, both for the Edge of Propinquity, have won awards. "Her Return", photographed for a SANTA MARIA story by James M. Sullivan and "In, Through, Beyond" for a KENDRICK story by Jennifer Brozek. They won the Best Horror at Norwescon 32 and Norwescon 34 in Seattle, Washington, and Juror's Selection award at the 66th World Science Fiction Convention, Denvention 3, in Denver, Colorado. I photograph a number of subjects from still life to digitally enhanced fine art, live performance to boudoir and portrait photography.

My performance skills continue to improve. My first public performance was at the Emerald Rain Bellydance competition in early March of 2010 with my Post Apocalyptic Steampunk Strip Tease Minus the Strip Tease Because It's A Family Show. While I didn't place, I definitely connected with the audience and received a resounding ovation for it. Since that night I have continued to improve and refine my skills. Performing is in my blood and I should've started much sooner. Am I sad about that? Not at all.

I also excel at writing software and will always look to build tools to make my life and the lives of others easier. Most of my photographic pipeline is custom code I've written. If you haven't guessed it by now, I am the best kind of lady. I am a geek.
The first things people usually notice about me
I am tall and have an excellent sense of humor. I am six feet tall when not in heels and I like to wear to heels. Don't get me wrong, I love the utilitarianism of my sandals and jeans with a comfy top, but I do like to dress it too. Some people notice my blue eyes others notice the hair. Most of the time it's blonde, but sometimes it goes purple. In fact, I want to get the bottom three inches died purple this summer.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
My favorite books are typically horror or science fiction, and sometimes urban fantasy creeps into the mix. If I were to select my favorite science fiction, I would say it would be either "The Door Into Summer" by Robert Heinlein or "The Left Hand of Darkness" by Ursula K. Le Guin. Recently I read "Feed" by Mira Grant. Feed is a dystopian political thriller set twenty years after the Rising. We had beaten the common cold and cured cancer, but at a cost; the dead no longer stay down. The direct sequel to Feed is Deadline and it is my favorite book at the moment though "One Salt Sea", the fifth October Daye novel by Seanan McGuire is sitting next to it on the heap.

I tend to read horror more than anything--okay, that's not quite true, I read more technical books, but they don't count--and my favorites are Dean Koontz's "Phantoms" and Stephen King's "Cell". Grants Pass, a post apocalyptic anthology edited by Jennifer Brozek and Amanda Pillar. I am currently reading Julia Serano's "Whipping Girl".

I really love King's short stories and my introduction to King was the book "Skeleton Crew" and the first story in it, "The Mist". The Mist really shaped my idea of what horror was and the commentaries about social life that it made. For those of you not familiar with the story, its focal point in a local grocery store and the people who are trapped inside when a strange mist rolls into town. There are otherworldly things out in the mist that kill people in horrendous fashions, but the more compelling side of the story are the monsters in the store. As the story progresses and the people trapped inside become more desperate, civil society breaks down. Camps and factions form, conflict occurs, and things get out of hand.

In my mind, Frank Darabont did something very, very risky: He adapted one of my favorite stories, "The Mist", into a movie. He did an amazing job and packed it full of gut punches that, as far I am concerned, was really, really effective. Where would I be without my horror movies and Star Wars? As much as I like sci-fi and fantasy, I also love a good drama.

I am not a fan of most romantic comedies. Lowest common denominator style comedy doesn't sit well with me either. What I love are movies that make me want to take them apart and discuss the themes and ideas.

MOON, for example, came out last summer and was phenomenal; a hard science fiction piece that challenged the viewer. LET THE RIGHT ONE IN is another good example of the type of film I like. It was thoughtful and well put together film about a boy and a vampire. It isn't even remotely like TWILIGHT. The CRAZIES is an example on how all modern horror movie remakes should be handled.

Don't get me wrong, I love my STAR WARS and TERMINATOR, ALIEN, ALIENS, and IRON MAN. Pixar and the golden years of classic Disney 2D animation fill my shelf of movies. LORD OF THE RINGS and BACK TO THE FUTURE, SHAUN OF THE DEAD and HOT FUZZ.

In terms of music, I love Pink Floyd, Abney Park, Black Bird Orchestra, the Nathaniel Johnstone Band, Beats Antique, Filistine, and a whole plethora of other sounds ranging from folk music to heavy metal to eastern beats.

I love Mexican and Italian food. My girlfriend introduced me to a love of Ethiopian cuisine. The Hurricane is one of my favorite haunts when I am on that side of the lake.

I like to cook too.
Six things I could never do without
Family, friends, and loved ones; the Internet; my camera and computer; good books; glitter, sequins, false eye lashes, and feathers, and wonderful conversations. Six interrelated things. :)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I think a lot about systems and procedures; it's my attempt to find organization in a very disorganized me. I think a lot about visual ideas and concepts and fantastic stories. I think a lot about burlesque acts and how I can make them better. I think a lot about shows I'd to produce (and there's a backlog of ideas). I think about where to go touring. I'm eyeing that neighbor to the north at the moment.
On a typical Friday night I am
I am at home with family or I am out with friends and family at a movie or some other happening. On the other hand, I may be performing in a show, either belly dancing or taking my clothes off on stage. Like you do.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
As I said above, I am a transgender woman. Yes, I am on hormones. Yes, I still have my bits. No, I am not planning on getting sexual reassignment surgery, as what I have between my legs does not define who I am and I am okay with that. Frankly, it's none of your business anyway.
You should message me if
If you want a fun, creative, and kinky girl to get to know and hang out with. You should not message me if all you are looking for is vanilla sex.

You should not message me if all I am to you is just a means to fulfill your fantasy of being with a trans woman. If that is your game I will most likely ignore you unless your pitch is really, really, really good.
The two of us