smallraven
37 Bridgewater, United States
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My self-summary
I am a courtesan, a writer of half truths, Queen o' th' May, an artisan, an agent provocateur and an amazon.

My gingerbread condo is full of books, spinning wheels, perfumery, shrines to heathen goddesses, cats, homemade cordials, delicious things for me to feed you and expensive shoes.

I blog about the occult and witchcraft and I'm a published author who writes erotica and spirituality pieces. Since that pays roughly what you expect it to pay, I also work in finance. It sounds v. exciting on paper (everyone's dirtiest secrets! The NSA!), but is actually mostly proofing numbers, numbers, numbers.

I make small batch artisan goods that I sell primarily at Punk Rock Flea Markets, Pagan Prides and SCA events.

I'm a passionate girl, I tend to love hard, if not easily. I'm polyamorous which means I love more than one person at a time. Currently, I have (1) husband, (1) girlfriend (who is slightly less local in Boston), (1) boyfriend, (1) Boy That I'm Beating and (1) Girl That I'm Beating.

I prefer kitchen table style poly, where various metamours and lovers can be at the same party or watch a movie together occasionally and it's not A Thing.

I'm kinked and consider that to be a core part of my person as well.

Boys. (Because it's inevitably boys mailing me in this situation) I am polyamorous. This means I'm not interested in you unless your profile *explicitly* states that you are poly too. I *only* answer mail if your profile states that you are poly as well. You're wasting your time otherwise.
What I’m doing with my life
Practicing magic. Being a feminist. Learning yoga. Cooking new and exotic recipes. Drinking wine. Connecting with new and interesting people. Trying to interpret what my tiny nephew is saying. Going on adventures with my husband. Hostessing polycule dinners. Laughing with friends. Finding new and interesting places to see. Traveling. Seeing the ocean as much as possible.

My favorite thing in the world right now is hostessing cocktail parties. I love playing dress up, I love wearing ridiculous heels for the first half hour before I switch to ballet slippers, I love feeding people I love, I love the conversation, I love the smokiness in the room and I love that delicious feeling that comes from three cocktails. As an extroverted-introvert, it means I can feel social and flirt and dance when I want to and hide in the kitchen when I've had enough.

My favorite kind of wool to spin right now is Blue Faced Leichester because they sound like party sheep to me.

Spending time at conventions and festivals like Pennsic, GKE, and The Faerie Festival.
I’m really good at
pushing my own boundaries, putting the ho in hostess, la dolce vita, creating, knowing myself, learning about others.
The first things people usually notice about me
After trying not to be caught staring at my rack (and I always notice for the record), it would be my voluptuous, delicious, enticing brain.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
1. In my pile currently: Emergence of the Sensual Woman, French Provincial Cooking, Mage 20th Edition OWoD, Buddhism Post-Patriarchy, Jailbreaking the Goddess, The Sun, the Moon and the Stars, and star.ships.

Faves: Anything Kushiel, anything Philippa Greggory, anything Holly Black, The Julie & Julia Project, The Red Goddess, biographies about porn stars and play boy bunnies that I read with my sister.

2. Dream for an Insomniac, Perks of Being a Wallflower, Only Lovers Left Alive, anything Baz Luhrmann, Jennifer's Body, Ginger Snaps, The Craft, Empire Records, Secretary, Gingersnaps, Clueless, Kevin Smith movies, Turner Classic Movies like North by Northwest, Now Voyager, The Stepford Wives, etc.

2.1 (tv) My So Called Life, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Law & Order, GossipGirl, 30 Rock, Mad Men, Gilmore Girls, Degrassi, Trashy Reality Television, Stranger Things, Jonathan Strange & Mr. Norrell, John Adams, The Tudors, The Borgias, Weeds, Sherlock, Star Trek and Downton Abbey.

3. There's not a lot I don't like. The Decemberists, Fiona Apple, Amy Winehouse, Adele, Lady GaGa, Dar Williams, Tori Amos, Ani Difranco, Rilo Kiley, Dresden Dolls, Rasputina, The Cure, The Smiths, Lordes, Lana del Rey, Fleetwood Mac, anything my parents listened to, etc. I like some bluegrass, country and rap too.

3a. In rotation right now: My Brightest Diamond, Toad the Wet Sprocket, The White Stripes, Marina and the Diamonds, MisterWives, Agnes Obel, Jenny Lewis, Fischerspooner, The Smiths, Daughter and London Grammar

4. I will eat anything that does not have bell peppers in it. Currently super into: anything pickled, ethic "fast food", local meat, produce and cheese, anything appealing both to the visual palette as well as the tongue. Local wines and beer as well as spirits.

5. Other. Typewriters, record players, a good dirty martini with extra olives, flannel sheets, sexy shoes, pinup dresses, gardening, , convertibles, tea and anything handmade.
The six things I could never do without
1. My loved ones who are ride or die for me
2. Something to do with my hands
3. A kitchen (I'll commandeer yours)
4. New experiences
5. A soft, sexy bed
6. Something to read
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Plotting sex choreography for books which is a lot less "ooooooooooooooh baby!" and "wait, does she still have hair pins in her mouth? Then she can't kiss her." "She unbuttons-- crap, did they have buttons yet?", scheduling (see: poly), how to dodge my editors, what do I need to restock in my shop, what should I blog about, where can I wear my new shoes/dresses, am I having a mid life crisis?

Mostly, as they said constantly on Dollhouse, "Was I my best?"
On a typical Friday night I am
Saturdays are more exciting! I'm at a bar, at the beach (or at a bar at the beach ;p), getting a pedi, throwing a party, shopping, seeing Sleep No More, going into NYC/Philly, finding a new restaurant, finding new theater to see, concerts, doing events for my shop (usually Pagan Prides or Punk Rock Flea Markets), going to a party, something fun!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am v. v. shy in person until I feel comfortable with you.

My first full length book published by a publisher (Llewellyn) is coming out at the end of the summer and I am terrified no one will read it.
You should message me if
You are clever, interesting and can intrigue me.

If you are clearly poly. I am open to dating people of all genders and poly configurations but I am not one to quickly jump into bed. My poly configuration is not set up for "whatever happens, happens!".

If you are looking for a play partner for local events.

You understand I am not a unicorn, I'm a person. Yes! I will potentially date you as a couple if there's a good connection between us all. But! I'm not looking to complete your family. I have a family of my own, thank you. I'm not looking to cohabitate with anyone but my husband though we are open to dating someone together as well (but generally date solo).

You don't mind that I'm secretly shy and socially anxious. My life is very full and rewarding right now and yours should be too! I am often very busy and sometimes don't have a lot of time.

You should have something to bring to the table besides immediate demands for sexting because um, no.
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