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My self-summary
I'm a union Ironworker apprentice and that takes up most of my time. I'm married to chaos_never_died, and we have two cats. We are polyamorous. We are not a package deal!
My husband and I are also working hard to make our relationships non-hierarchical, but since we have been together for over a decade and have built a life together and share future plans it's hard for it not to feel like he is my primary partner. My husband has a second partner. And we never want her to feel secondary. Because we know that we wouldn't want to feel that way. It's a balancing act for sure. The point is, I'm not super interested in hierarchy.
I am interested in lots of different types of relationships. I'm interested in allowing relationships to progress as they will (or won't). That said, ideally I'm looking for a boyfriend to hang out with a couple nights a week.

*I have to say I have disabled my profile many, many times due to creepy, overtly sexual messages from douchebags. Calling me a slut or any other such name will incur extreme wrath. PLEASE DON'T MAKE ME DELETE MY PROFILE AGAIN.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm a third year union Ironworker apprentice. My job is fairly stressful and sometimes dangerous and it's a HUGE part of my life. I'm involved in some activism (most interested in the labor movement, and more specifically women's issues in the workplace). My job leaves me pretty exhausted most days though.
I’m really good at
Working with my hands (welding, knitting, sewing, cooking). Listening. Worrying.
The first things people usually notice about me
I don't know. Ask them! People comment on my glasses a lot. And my hair, and tattoos I guess.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Harry Potter Series, Fellowship of the Rings series, Brave New World, 1984, Wuthering Heights, Anna Karenina, The Shadow of the Wind, As I Lay Dying, One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest, His Dark Materials Series (Golden Compass, etc), Crime and Punishment, Game of Thrones series, Kingsblood Royal, Ask the Dust, If on a Winter's Night a Traveler... etc. Currently reading the Disposessed by LeGuin.
Music: Depeche Mode, the Cure, Sisters of Mercy, My Dying Bride, Smashing Pumpkins, Type O Negative, NIN, Skinny Puppy, Bauhaus, Dinosaur Jr., Hole (only Live Through This), VNV Nation, Fleetwood Mac, Patsy Cline, Conway Twitty, Hank I and III, Alabama
Movies: Devil's Rejects, the Fountain, Audition, Suspiria, Last House on the Left (original), Texas Chainsaw Massacre, Big Lebowski, Harry Potter series, Legend, Back to the Future series, Labyrinth etc
Shows: Breaking Bad, Game of Thrones, IT Crowd, the Mighty Boosh, Roseanne, Adventure Time, Orange is the New Black, Parks and Rec, Wentworth, Broadchurch, Keeping Up Appearances, The Vicar of Dibley, As Time Goes By.
Food: vegan, but you don't have to be! NACHOS. PIZZA. BURRITOS. GUACAMOLE.
Six things I could never do without
My husband, my friends, lovers. Knitting needles and yarn, bourbon, my kitchen knife, my books, my cats. My spud wrenches.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Work. My relationships with others. Other people's perception of me. The future. The state of the world and how fucked we are. How we might change that. Patriarchy. Systematic racism.
On a typical Friday night I am
At the Alleyway.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm into masculine men. Unfortunately so many of them are misogynists.
You should message me if
You are polyamorous. You aren't a douchebag. You respect other people, and women. We don't have to agree on everything, but please don't be right-wing conservative, or super-religious. Or a creep. Or a yuppie liberal. Or a cop, yuck!
The two of us