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My self-summary
A combination of the Jazz & Cabaret '20s, Bogie/Bacall '40s, and Studio 54 '70s living in the 2010s. Equally happy in a bar sipping a Sidecar, walking through woodland, exploring an abandoned building, or on a couch with a good book. All of the above are better in groups (even reading), and that's why I'm here.

Big fan, personality-wise, of Humphrey Bogart, Frank Sinatra, post-Mecca Malcolm X, Andy Warhol, and pre-old and lecherous Hugh Hefner. I wish Marilyn Monroe had followed her heart and varied the spectrum of her acting career--or had the time to do so. I wish King or X had survived till at least the '90s to expand the mentality of black America and keep it out of the ghetto. I really wish Reagan, Nixon, or Goldwater could come back from the dead just for a day to see what has become of their beloved party--I wonder what they would do. I also think people should learn to use the Oxford comma, damn it...but I'm not enough of a grammar Nazi to always avoid ending sentences with a preposition, or utilizing *all* the punctuation to run a long thought into a single sentence. (I'm a playwright, which means I write like people speak; gimme a break.)

Musicals got me into acting, but I mostly sing offstage nowadays--mostly as a natural reaction to my mood, whatever it may be. Michael Jackson made me love to dance, Beatrix Potter made me love to read, Bernardo Bertolucci sparked my love for film, da Vinci and Michelangelo for art, Nat King Cole for music, and Brecht and Ibsen for theatre production. One day I will have a basement theatre, a smoking lounge, and a library the size of a small penthouse--I live for that day.

Also, despite the fedora, I'm pretty much anchored on the masculine/feminine line. I have spent too much time wondering what that means about my orientation/gender definition and whether that hurts my attractiveness level, and I've largely concluded I don't really care. Nonbinary/queer folk and those who respond positively to them are my people of choice.
What I’m doing with my life
Attempting to sustain physical and monetary comfort while pursuing various performing arts endeavors. I've headed a great many theatre and film projects over the years, most of which are on YouTube. Feel free to ask if you're curious.
I’m really good at
theatre direction, listening, giving blunt advice, appearing upright and respectable, making mixed drinks without a recipe, remembering random facts to annoy people with later, finding a quote for every situation
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm black; that usually comes pretty fast for some reason. Otherwise, probably my voice--I'm originally from South Carolina and have also spent considerable time in Wisconsin, but apparently sound like I hail from neither of those places. Favorite guesses include South Africa, California, France, England, Australia, and New Zealand. None of these accents sound the same; all I know is that I hate the way it sounds on tape--but I suppose most people do with their own voices.
On the dance floor, it doesn't take much time to figure out I learned to dance watching Michael Jackson music videos.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Down to play Cards Against Humanity, Vampire: The Masquerade, or Mage (Ascension or Awakening) anytime, anywhere. ISO a good Toreador or Nosferatu sire, preferably an Anarch.

House of Leaves is the greatest thing (really enjoying The Familiar so far as well). I also like old-school console games, and adventure games old and young. Korra, Wednesday Addams, Wendy Corduroy, and Isabelle from The Dreamers are fictional crushes, and Stanislas Cordova (from Night Film--a worthy read, though not a perfect one) inspires my inner filmmaker. As a kid, I always wondered why none of the games or books allowed you to work with Carmen Sandiego. And Kate McKinnon is not interested in me, but that doesn't stop me from admiring her from afar. Emma Watson's pretty great, too.

If it involves shellfish I'll probably love it; the same is true for gin or whiskey. And my internal soundtrack includes all genres of music--always looking for more.
The six things I could never do without
1. The Internet: it's basically an extension of my brain at this point.

2. A good, physical book: no matter where the technology goes, I'll be alright with it, as I currently read PDFs and text files on my computer and listen to books on tape, and I could see myself getting a Kindle or Nook sometime soon for the convenience of travel (EDIT: Received a Kindle Fire for Christmas; so far have used it for scripts more often than books). If, however, we end up living in a world where only virtual copies are sold, I'll be the stubborn old guy with a house full of books and a printing press.

3. Good friends: I need them. I have always been lucky enough to have a few, and I gained two whole fraternal organizations full of them in college. They are my true family, and no person or situation could make me give them up. I should add that I'm always looking for more, and am just as willing and eager to hook up with awesome people for adventures as I am to hook up with awesome people for romantic relationships. These things are not mutually exclusive, by the way.

4. Tolerance: while I generally follow Voltaire's position of advocating strongly someone else's right to advocate against everything I believe in, I am heavily intolerant of a closed mind. The lack of a willingness to at least learn more about things you know nothing about is an instant dealbreaker for any sort of close relationship.

5. Diversity: I can't stand being in a place where people all look the same, act the same, and have the same interests; it's boring. When I find such a group I generally try very hard to introduce them to new people and new things.

6. Hedonism: "the doctrine that pleasure or happiness is the sole or chief good in life", according to Merriam-Webster. I strongly believe that one should work hard to make every living moment as happy and fulfilling as possible--and while some can achieve that happiness and fulfillment through the proverbial wine, women, and song, they don't necessarily do so all the time. (I also take pleasure in reading, dancing, and seeing a good show.) In fact, there are an infinity of personal pleasures to choose from, and almost every human being, whether they are aware of it or not, has their own personal cocktail. As far as I'm concerned, as long as it doesn't interfere with the happiness of others, an individual's personal pursuit is up to them--but they shouldn't resist the pursuit. To quote a Noel Coward play, "life is for living", and it's the only thing we know for certain is promised to us.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
...well, lots of things. Among them:
--Life, as in where I'm going, where my friends are going, and who out of the many talented people in my life are going to reach the fame they deserve first
--Love, sex, sexuality, and relationships
--How intersectionality and feminism are such hard concepts for people to understand. Like, almost all arguments between people who are not cis straight white men devolve at some point into who society hates more, and end up sounding a lot like the start of Avenue Q. Society hates all of us when we're not in our boxes, and we're only going to succeed in moving out of them if we do so together.
--The political zeitgeist--actually I try not to think about this anymore, as 2016 seems to be setting itself up as the series finale for the Western World. Canada seems like it'll be fine though, so there's that.
--Pop culture--the history and practice of which I have a somewhat unhealthy fascination with, though studying its ebbs and flows has helped me better understand the world around me, from many perspectives
--How much my moral values have changed since childhood
--The destructive folly that is organized religion.
--Being in a polyamorous relationship
--How I'm increasingly sure I'm never going to settle down enough to have kids, and how I feel about that (still unsure)
--Whether anything other than violence or physical abuse is truly obscene.
On a typical Friday night I am
Exploring the city, finding new places to love. You will probably find me around midnight at the Plaza Theatre, preparing to enjoy Lips Down on Dixie's impressive Rocky Horror shadowcast. It's possible I might be one of them in the near future.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am instantly smitten by a woman in fancy (traditionally) male dress. Androgyny can be an awesome thing.

Also, I'm finally willing to admit I am still looking for love. Not that I expect it or desire it in every encounter, but there it is.
You should message me if
"Life's too short babe, time is flying--I'm looking for baggage that goes with mine."