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My self-summary
I guess one could say I'm a person in flux. Creative, artistic, introvertedly social, analytical (sometimes to a fault), ethically hedonistic, lover of quality adventure with adventurous and interesting people. I created a construct of traditional, Christian, Democratic-liberal straight cis respectability in high school largely to please my family--and now I'm struggling with breaking away from all that (which is hard, because I still love my Southern, extremely traditional family and don't especially love making them uncomfortable). Am aware this is a very common struggle.

Nerdy in the classical more than pop culture sense (independent research partially drives my life), and a massive film buff--though I am especially fond of pop culture geekery, and DragonCon is now a staple of my Atlanta lifestyle.

The person emerging from the construct is poly, kinky, radically activist (especially by American standards), agnostic (which means for me I'm interested in religions and spiritualities of all kinds, rule nothing out, but have no care for exclusivity or intolerance), genderfluid, and at least a 2 on the Kinsey scale (a preference based largely on being much more picky about men than women). I am that weird person that likes making friends more than forming sexual relationships, and the latter seems to happen better when it just flows from one to the other based on mutual respect and interest.

Atlanta is full of all my favorite people--activists, artists, burners, performers, kinksters, and deep thinkers. I formed a social group full of all of the above up in Wisconsin, and want to do the same thing now that I'm back down South. Looking to find more of the above people to hang with and bring me to stuff.
What I’m doing with my life
Attempting to sustain physical and monetary comfort while pursuing various performing arts endeavors. I've headed a great many theatre and film projects over the years, most of which are on YouTube. Feel free to ask if you're curious.
I’m really good at
theatre direction, listening, giving blunt advice, appearing upright and respectable, making mixed drinks without a recipe, remembering random facts to annoy people with later, finding a quote or example for every situation
The first things people usually notice about me
Probably my voice--I'm originally from South Carolina and have also spent considerable time in Wisconsin, but apparently sound like I hail from neither of those places. Favorite guesses include South Africa, California, France, England, Australia, and New Zealand. None of these accents sound the same; all I know is that I hate the way it sounds on tape--but I suppose most people do with their own voices.
On the dance floor, it doesn't take much time to figure out I learned to dance watching Michael Jackson music videos.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Down to play Cards Against Humanity, Vampire: The Masquerade, or Mage (Ascension or Awakening) anytime, anywhere. ISO a good Toreador or Nosferatu sire, preferably an Anarch.

House of Leaves is the greatest thing (really enjoying The Familiar so far as well). I also like old-school console games, and adventure games old and young. Korra, Wednesday Addams, Wendy Corduroy, and Isabelle from The Dreamers are fictional crushes, and Stanislas Cordova (from Night Film--a worthy read, though not a perfect one) inspires my inner filmmaker. As a kid, I always wondered why none of the games or books allowed you to work with Carmen Sandiego. And Kate McKinnon is not interested in me, but that doesn't stop me from admiring her from afar. Emma Watson's pretty great, too.

If it involves shellfish I'll probably love it; the same is true for gin or whiskey. And my internal soundtrack includes all genres of music--always looking for more.
The six things I could never do without
1. The Internet: it's basically an extension of my brain at this point.

2. A good, physical book: no matter where the technology goes, I'll be alright with it, as I currently read PDFs and text files on my computer and listen to books on tape, and I could see myself getting a Kindle or Nook sometime soon for the convenience of travel (EDIT: Received a Kindle Fire for Christmas; so far have used it for scripts more often than books). If, however, we end up living in a world where only virtual copies are sold, I'll be the stubborn old guy with a house full of books and a printing press.

3. Good friends: I need them. I have always been lucky enough to have a few, and I gained two whole fraternal organizations full of them in college. They are my true family, and no person or situation could make me give them up. I should add that I'm always looking for more, and am just as willing and eager to hook up with awesome people for adventures as I am to hook up with awesome people for romantic relationships. These things are not mutually exclusive, by the way.

4. Tolerance: while I generally follow Voltaire's position of advocating strongly someone else's right to advocate against everything I believe in, I am heavily intolerant of a closed mind. The lack of a willingness to at least learn more about things you know nothing about is an instant dealbreaker for any sort of close relationship.

5. Diversity: I can't stand being in a place where people all look the same, act the same, and have the same interests; it's boring. When I find such a group I generally try very hard to introduce them to new people and new things.

6. Hedonism: "the doctrine that pleasure or happiness is the sole or chief good in life", according to Merriam-Webster. I strongly believe that one should work hard to make every living moment as happy and fulfilling as possible--and while some can achieve that happiness and fulfillment through the proverbial wine, women, and song, they don't necessarily do so all the time. (I also take pleasure in reading, dancing, and seeing a good show.) In fact, there are an infinity of personal pleasures to choose from, and almost every human being, whether they are aware of it or not, has their own personal cocktail. As far as I'm concerned, as long as it doesn't interfere with the happiness of others, an individual's personal pursuit is up to them--but they shouldn't resist the pursuit. To quote a Noel Coward play, "life is for living", and it's the only thing we know for certain is promised to us.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
...well, lots of things. Among them:
--Life, as in where I'm going, where my friends are going, and who out of the many talented people in my life are going to reach the fame they deserve first
--Love, sex, sexuality, and relationships
--How intersectionality and feminism are such hard concepts for people to understand. Society hates all of us when we're not in our boxes, and we're only going to succeed in moving out of them if we do so together.
--The political zeitgeist--actually I try not to think about this anymore, as 2016 seems to be setting itself up as the series finale for the Western World. Canada seems like it'll be fine though, so there's that.
--Pop culture--the history and practice of which I have a somewhat unhealthy fascination with, though studying its ebbs and flows has helped me better understand the world around me, from many perspectives
--How much my moral values have changed since childhood
--The destructive folly that is organized religion.
--Being in a polyamorous relationship
--How I'm increasingly sure I'm never going to settle down enough to have kids, and how I feel about that (still unsure)
--Whether anything other than violence or physical abuse is truly obscene.
On a typical Friday night I am
Exploring the city, finding new places to love. You will probably find me around midnight at the Plaza Theatre, preparing to enjoy Lips Down on Dixie's impressive Rocky Horror shadowcast. It's possible I might be one of them in the near future.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am instantly smitten by a woman in fancy (traditionally) male dress. Androgyny can be an awesome thing.

Also, I'm finally willing to admit I am still looking for love. Not that I expect it or desire it in every encounter, but there it is.
You should message me if
"Life's too short babe, time is flying--I'm looking for baggage that goes with mine."