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My self-summary
First things first, I don't subscribe to this site, so if you just "like" me I won't be able to see. So shoot me an email—I'm friendly. :)

Now that that's out of the way... Hi, my name is Ryan. :)

I am a writer, illustrator, and art director.

Something I'm really excited about these days is a new personal project and blog I launched on my birthday this year, Hug the Universe. I think my inaugural post says a ton about who I am and what I'm up to. :)

In terms of romance and companionship, I'm interested in developing an incredible Love with a lady who is smart, passionate, funny, thoughtful, spiritually oriented, and kind. Someone who enjoys discussing ideas and dreams (more of the ambition and life-purpose kind than the sleep kind), and who's driven to be the best version of herself that she can be.

Love and romance have always been at the top of my list of priorities, but to be honest, my experiences over the last several years have left me rather shaken in that department—so much so that I find myself feeling resigned to this belief that "NOPE! What you're looking for is never going to happen for you, buddy!" But what a shitty story to walk around with.

So, while I'm a little "ugh" about putting myself out there again, this is life, ya know? I refuse to be controlled by my fears, so as I said, hi, my name's Ryan :)
What I’m doing with my life
What a great question! Up until very recently I was the Art Director for a startup that teaches storytelling to filmmakers, but I was laid off in a wave of downsizing. I'm pretty stoked about that though. I was already making plans to move on, but was dragging my feet a little, so the universe was all "here ya go!" and gave me a little nudge out the door and into the world. :)

So, I'm kinda stepping back and looking at what I'm really interested in doing next. Maybe I'll stay in the design industry, or maybe I'll pivot over into a marketing role (which I find really fascinating), or maybe I'll do something totally different.

Hug the Universe is definitely a big longer-term priority, so that's something I'm factoring in to next-steps as well. The long-term vision there is to build an audience and platform that enables me to move into writing books and speaking. I want that to be my full time gig in the next couple of years.
I’m really good at
Hmm... making people feel loved, I think. Also, emotional intelligence, growing, evolving, and bringing delight into the world. :)

I’m also really good at petting cats. Like, a lot. (Literal cats—that wasn't a euphemism.)

Oh, snuggling and hugs—I’m really good at those, too.

I'm also good at cooking and am ever so slightly hedonistic.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm male.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Everything that I read these days is non-fiction. Biographies, philosophy, human development, and various things about skills that I'm interested in cultivating. I know there’s a lot of amazing fiction out there, but right now I’m too intrigued by people, behavior, and existence in general.

Sometimes I get so overwhelmed by my love of music that I feel like I'm going to explode. The two genres I'm most drawn to are singer/songwriters (like Sufjan Stevens, James Mercer, and Jose Gonzalez), and electronic music (like Clark, Aphex Twin, and Modeselektor).

Also, this song is so goddamn fucking beautiful it almost hurts:
Christine and the Queens: Tilted

I also really love movies. Two of my favorite movies are Stranger than Fiction and The Thin Red Line. I’m generally into movies like what the Cohen Brothers, Wes Anderson, and David Fincher make. That list is by no means comprehensive. :)

Hooo boy. Food. I love food. I don't even know where to start with that one. Something I want to do in my life is travel the world and locate/consume foods I’ve never even heard of.

I basically love all the things.
The six things I could never do without
Meh, "could never do without" is quite extreme. So, here are 6 words that represent what I strive to be more of:

1. Loving
2. Supportive
3. Kind
4. Courageous
5. Accepting
6. Compassionate

Ok, now I'll give you the other six things.

1. Music
2. Cuddling
3. Cats
4. Someone to enjoy my cooking and food-in-general with
5. Deeply moving emotional experiences
6. Living things
7. My bike
8. Jacobsen's Sea Salt
9. Disregarding rules that I find pointless or irrelevant
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Human behavior, objective reality vs. subjective experience, bagels with cream cheese, coffee, whiskey-forward cocktails, chocolate, and all things regarding who I am and living intentionally.
On a typical Friday night I am
I reject the concept of "a typical Friday night" on principle. :P
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I once bought body wash that smelled like ham when I used it (the bottle said lavender). I do not like being covered in soapy ham-bubbles.

You should message me if
you've read my profile and you’re like "YEAH!" What other reason could you possibly need? :D

Also, I can't see who "likes" me on here, so if you click the "like" button on my profile all I can do in response is think "huh, some person on the internet hit the like button on my profile."

Don’t leave the potential for meaningful connections in the hands of a “like” button! Come on! Send me an email! :D