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My self-summary
Carolina born and bred. I eat meat. And I don't go to church.

It's a long story, but I'll make an effort to get right to the point - if you don't like NPR, we're not likely to get along. 'This American Life' rates highly with me. I love tomboyish nerds!

As the father of an 11yo girl, justice and equality mean a lot to me.

I'm seeking stimulating conversation about anything that matters to you, to me, to us. I love intelligent women who see the Big Picture and if you've got smart friends, too, that's a huge plus. I thirst for relationships with people who want to know the story behind the story.

I 'believe in' evolution the same way I 'believe' that a cloudless, daytime sky is normally blue. Evolution is not proven by seeing a chimpanzee magically turn into a human in the blink of an eye. If you have some generally disparate view about the origins of mankind, you should read no further.

Camille Paglia is my favorite feminist, but that doesn't mean you need to have one. Equality - including gender equality - should matter to you, though.

I'm a major sports fan, both college and professional. I'm most compatible with people who love football. I also coach youth sports and would need a partner who understands the amount of time that requires.

I love to laugh. Be funny or at least have some sense of humor. If you don't like 'Curb Your Enthusiasm' (or 'Seinfeld'), you probably won't like me. Of course, if you don't like NPR, then you probably don't like 'Curb' either, in which case you stopped reading 30 seconds ago.

There is a difference between traveling and vacationing. I travel. Hard. If your preference is vacationing, you're missing out, but I fully respect your right to do so. My favorite places are still in Italy, but I've enjoyed my journeys through France, Austria, Germany, Sweden, Switzerland, and other countries as well. I've never been to Australia, though, so that's on my sooner-rather-than-later list.

I have a non-traditional job that probably isn't something the average woman can deal with. Don't be average.

I also hate cats. Now, you may be thinking that what I mean is "I really dislike cats" or even "I don't like cats, but could make an exception if you're attractive and we're otherwise compatible", but what I wrote is exactly what I meant. I hate cats, even your cat. In fact, there's only one cat person that I even get along with, because she keeps her cat completely out of our friendship.
What I’m doing with my life
I lead a charmed life. I honestly could not ask for anything more. I mean, I could, but that would just be overkill.

*That's code for "I should be doing a lot more to improve the world I'll be leaving behind soon".
I’m really good at
...what I do. *wink* I'm not really a party trick sort of guy, but I can balance a broomstick on my nose for 2 minutes.

Even though my opinions can be somewhat polarizing, I'm actually pretty good at consensus-building. People who think they hate me will often end up loving me in the end. Or not.

...story-telling. Apparently, I have an ability to make the mundane come alive in interesting, often humorous ways.

-reading comprehension
-expressing myself verbally
-traveling - I've got a 4th-degree black belt in that
-math (I love numbers)
The first things people usually notice about me
My eyes, the fact that I'm almost always happy, and my refusal to shop at Walmart.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Curb Your Enthusiasm is one of the most brilliant shows ever, with Dexter not too far behind. These days, I watch Blacklist, Criminal Minds, and catch Modern Family when I can. Claire Dunphy is 'teh hotness'.

Great Gatsby (the book, not the movie), Twain, New Yorker, The Atlantic (online), Kerouac, Grisham (sue me)

Shawshank Redemption, Slumdog Millionaire, Goodfellas, Pulp Fiction, Reservoir Dogs, Hotel Rwanda, City Of God (subtitles turn me on). I watch a lot of old movies - Double Indemnity, The Apartment, Strangers On A Train, etc - and enjoy the occasional foreign film. When I do watch old movies, I like pondering the elements that have served to make them timeless classics. I love IFC. I'm offended by bad movies (read: I *hated* The Counselor).

Music: The Sundays are my favorite group and then comes everyone else - Florence + The Machine, Ophelie Winter, Ivy, Gwen Stefani, Lisa Loeb, Liz Phair, Juliana Hatfield, Stereolab, Led Zeppelin, Lenny Kravitz, Joni Mitchell, Jimi Hendrix, Santana, Bob Marley, Mary J Blige, MJ, LL, Coldplay, Pet Shop Boys, Phoenix, Rooney, Sam Cooke, Jamiroquai, SRV, Tilian, Rob Thomas, The Cure, Cut Copy, Frou Frou, Morcheeba, Ror-shak, Pink Floyd, Toro Y Moi, Zion I, Keith Urban, The Beatles, Camera Obscura, Badly Drawn Boy, Zero 7, The Bird and the Bee, Immortal Technique, Steve Miller Band, Of Monsters and Men, Social Studies, Thievery Corporation, Roykssop, Spoon, Telepopmusik, Jonsi, Last Poets, Jay-Z. I believe Marvin Gaye & Tammi Terrell were the greatest duet of all-time.

It may sound cliché, but I really do love an extremely wide variety of music. My playlist is quite literally all over the place. Case in point: despite being a militant anti-theist, I like more than my share of contemporary Christian music. Don't judge me!
The six things I could never do without
1) my daughter
2) my daughter
3) my daughter
4) my daughter
5) my daughter
6) see above

Yes, I know it says 'thing' and not 'person', but I'm pretty upfront in my dealings with people.

Feet to the fire, 6 things I'd select are:

good food
internet access
I spend a lot of time thinking about
...why almost all my supposed "matches" here are either vegetarian or vegan. Or have cats. Alright, alright, I don't spend a *lot* of time thinking about this, but when I'm logged in, I do.

...why so many seemingly attractive women like cats. This does not make me irrational. After all, I'm the one who knows cats are evil.

...fair housing. It means a lot to me, though not necessarily in the ways you might be thinking when you read those words. next big adventure.

I have some sore spots - like taxes and the NCAA exploitation of student-athletes in revenue sports - and I think about both *way* too much.
On a typical Friday night I am
...plotting my world takeover.

...spending time with my daughter and then working, because that's what small-business owners have to do in order to support the rest of you bums.

...planning my move to Portland. I do not actually live there yet, but have begun looking at various neighborhoods.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Well, if I were willing to admit it, it wouldn't be private, now would it?

Ok, ok...I have a thing for femme fatales.

Also, I have a weird obsession with 'enemy' ratings on this site. If I'm looking at your profile, I've already sought to analyze the enemy rating (by looking through 'unacceptable responses') before even looking at your pics.
You should message me if're smart and have more confidence than the average bear. I need as much mental stimulation as I can find.'re nerdy AND athletic (sporty works, too!).'d ever consider meeting for coffee at a farmhouse in rural Italy. cannot name a single Kardashian or don't give a sh*t about them even if you can. are not a "follower" of Ayn Rand.