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My self-summary
I am a self-aware and self-knowing professional who's gotten to the point where I'm happy with my life - aside from that one missing bit: Someone to share it with.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm living the glamorous life of a freelance writer and game designer. This means I juggle my time between conventions, being a professional shut-in, geeking out with Excel, Photoshop, Illustrator and InDesign, discussing science fiction, economics, politics, and anything else that engages my brain.
I’m really good at
Writing quickly and on deadline, thinking about the ramifications and ripple effects of things, and lateral thinking. I'm likelier to come up with an outre solution to a problem than anyone I know. I also use a sword well enough to teach professionally, can cook passably, edit neurotically and know better than to use more than three words ending with 'ly' in the same sentence.
The first things people usually notice about me
My blond hair, blue eyes and younger-than-my-age face. I have the ability to banter with words, have some gift for repartee, and have no problems listening to others. I can be a little quiet at first as I try to find a way to merge into the social situation, but usually cause people to think I'm an extrovert. (Myers-Briggs geekiness, I'm an INTJ, but am very very close to being an ENTJ.)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
As I write this, I'm re-reading A Song of Ice and Fire - just watched the entire run of Game of Thrones. I am also doing some professional reading on statistical methods to see if I can Wait. Never mind. (Though if Edward Tufte's books are on your shelf and well thumbed, you get some serious serious geek cred.)

I'm currently waiting for chicken to marinade in lime juice to use in chicken pesto aloretta, with mushrooms and fresh sliced Roma tomatoes.
Six things I could never do without
Internet access. Yeah, yeah, I'm one of those people.
Good food, made fresh, at least every other day if not more frequently.
Regular exercise.
When I want good conversation, I want it bad. When I am spooled up on a project, I tend to go real quiet.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Economics, statistical models, and how to align incentives with intended actions. Understanding why people do things makes them easier to predict, and that can be useful in any number of ways.
On a typical Friday night I am
Usually watching drunk college students meander through the neighborhood. And reminding myself that when I'm in a senior care center, they're going to be the ones taking care of me. Damned sobering. Or I'm taking in a movie, or (if I'm lucky) doing dinner out with a friend.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Big admission: I'm polyamorous, or poly-friendly. I find that this is easier to just state out front than to wait for the Right Time to bring it up.

How does this impact dating?

My girlfriend is making eye contact with someone she likes, finds attractive, etc.

Standard response: "No, you look at him, at all, and we've got Serious Problems. You're with me." Cue the plots to most romance comedies or "woman gets killed by jealous lover" Law and Order episodes. There's a fight, there's misunderstandings, there's guilt, there's shame, there's a whole mess.

My response: "They sound like fun. Can you do this without hurting them, or you getting hurt? If the answer is 'no', proceed with caution. If the answer is 'yes', go, have fun, use a condom and come back with a silly grin on your face."

This isn't to say I'd refuse to give it up for the right person, but they'd have to think it was worth the effort to convince me.
You should message me if
You're looking for a man who's kind, but not 'nice'. Don't mistake the fact that I'm considerate for being a pushover.

You're looking for a man who's interested in you as a person, not as a piece of arm candy, a quick fling, or another notch in the bedpost.

You've got a sense of humor.
You've got something you do that you're passionate about. If your life is built around "I work at something I can almost tolerate so I can party on the weekends." that says you're looking for something that drives you.

I'm supportive, I'm challenging, and I want to see my friends become the best they can possibly be. This means I'm always nudging them into things I think they'll enjoy. My greatest joy in life is sharing something cool with someone who gets excited about it.
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