37Rochester, United States
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My self-summary
I am at various times a critic, a cook, a formidable Scrabble opponent, a dance partner, a less than formidable tennis opponent, a tourist, a teacher, a big brother, a punner, a fast walker, a makes-up-in-enthusiasm-what-he-lacks-in-talent singer, a Phillies fan, an optimist, and an avid conversationalist.

I really value intellectual curiosity, kindness, empathy, nuanced argumentation, and passion. Basically, I'm looking to settle down without settling.

Note: I'm also open to long distance if everything clicks.
What I’m doing with my life
I teach musicology at a small Midwestern liberal arts college, but am doing a one-year research fellowship in Rochester this year.

If I don't get tenure, Plan B is to open an all-male bakery called Pastriarchy.
I’m really good at
Wordplay. I won Punderdome ("NYC's most puntastic pun competition") on my first try. I'm finding that this is not really a marketable skill, but I was recognized twice while walking around Brooklyn.

Other skills: cooking/baking, giving advice, giving backrubs, noticing minutiae, playing cornhole, and having a sense of direction.
The first things people usually notice about me
My location, unless they are looking at their phone while walking.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Amazing Adventures of Kavalier and Clay (Chabon), Never Let Me Go (Ishiguro), Freedom (Franzen), American Wife (Sittenfeld), The Art of Fielding (Harbach), Atonement (McEwan), The Interestings (Wolitzer)

Movies: Annie Hall, Arrival, Bringing Up Baby, Broadcast News, Dr. Strangelove, Everybody Wants Some, Exit Through the Gift Shop, Grand Illusion, Her, Nashville, Nightcrawler, Ratatouille, Sherlock Jr., Singin in the Rain, The Social Network, Stories We Tell, Talk to Her, There Will Be Blood, Tree of Life, Tokyo Story, Touch of Evil, Vertigo, Whiplash

TV shows: Seasons 4-7 of the Simpsons, Arrested Development, Sports Night, West Wing, Flight of the Conchords, Friday Night Lights, 30 Rock, Veep, Please Like Me

Music (Composers): Franz Schubert, J.S. Bach, John Adams, Julia Wolfe, Richard Strauss, Charles Ives, Carl Nielsen

Music (Bands): The Head and the Heart, Vampire Weekend, Sufjan Stevens, Nickel Creek, Of Montreal, Shovels and Rope, The Decemberists, Ella Fitzgerald

Music (al Theater): Sondheim, Bernstein, Bock and Harnick

Food: pie, ice cream, guacamole, freshly baked bread, dark chocolate, barbecue, cheese, mango
Six things I could never do without
(1) Deceptive cadences
(2) The Criterion Collection
(3) Maps
(4) The New Yorker and the Sunday NYTimes Crossword over late breakfast
(5) Overhearing conversations in museums
(6) Thunderstorms
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Classical music audience culture
The aesthetics of documentaries
Criteria for making a top 10 list
The evolution of language
How I would design the subway
And usually whatever article in The New Yorker or The Atlantic everyone's reading
On a typical Friday night I am
keeping myself entertained. I might be playing board games, catching up with friends over dinner and cocktails, seeing an orchestra or pop concert or a play or musical, cooking dinner and having people over to eat it, reading at home, contra dancing, or deciding to bake a pie and eat it on the couch while watching old episodes of The Simpsons. Or sometimes, a cozy night in with a glass of wine and JSTOR.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
On multiple occasions, I have dreamt about cryptic crossword clues, and then spent all day in frustration that I can't solve them.

I find it vaguely maddening that the streets in downtown Chicago named after presidents are almost but not entirely in order.
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