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My self-summary
Behind these amber eyes is a warm-hearted, spirited woman who is seeking to awaken a long-lost passion through new love, but in the meantime is also genuinely happy, optimistic and loving. For the most part, I know myself pretty well, am confident, intelligent, financially secure and well-educated. It’s difficult to know where to start with online dating, but OK Cupid seemed like the right beginning if one is beginning again, as I am. So here goes- I’m the owner of a curious mind, and that has led me down so many different paths in life that there is a lot to say, though this is not the time or place since even a quick overview would be longer than would be appropriate for this page. I like good conversation and by that I mean dialogue more than monologue, to borrow from another writer, about almost any topic that is not too specifically entrenched in one area of expertise. I think analytically, intelligently (usually) and compassionately, which makes me a good listener too. After having read many personal essays, it seems that so many of us, both men and women, are looking for the same things- love, comfort, honesty, integrity, truth, passion, compassion, an end to lonely times wherever and whenever, a travel companion, a life partner and a passionate lover…, all while walking along the beach at sunset or lingering over a good glass of wine by the fireside. Not to put too fine a point on it, or to drift into maudlin sarcasm, but what makes us all different from one and other, I wonder? If we are honest about our ages, our political tendencies and our state of health, any number of us could fall in love with any number of others without too much trouble. But that’s not how it works, is it?
It’s much harder and more complicated than it seems at first blush, pun intended. How difficult is it to find a similar mind-heart, not necessarily a soul mate, to share life’s journey, the second or more time around? Many opinions and many different answers to that question, I’m sure. But I digress.
My mind tends to be tangential, rather a free associating type, so I often have to remind myself to come back to center and focus on the initial purpose, which is to describe myself, in an overview sort of way, as well as to say what type of man I’m interested in getting to know. I like interesting, intelligent, intense and enthusiastic people who seek to know themselves better, to continue to learn about the people and world around them and who are inwardly, in spirit, and outwardly, in action, gentle, kind, honest and compassionate.
I am a serious romantic and love all things about love from first butterflies to warm hugs to passionate kisses. Also love music, all kinds-it’s the international language of lovers and everything else, and can take you away- to tears or smiles of intense memory or a truly foreign land- it’s just magical. Museums, theater, symphony, opera, local art galleries, wine tasting, any number of cultural events are always on my to do list. Travel is another serious love- anywhere discovering new roads, learning new cultures, meeting new people, trying new food, it’s exciting and I am a hooked travel addict. Important to add that I love to read; again the gamut is significant, soup to nuts kind of stuff; classics, science fiction, self-improvement, psychology, spy/adventure, modern lit, etc.
Ok, so I am:
Petite, attractive, curious, adventurous, generous, loving, supportive, intelligent and caring and very patient. I love to learn, listen and laugh, often at myself, and I know what it means to share, compromise and work things out without anger. I can be flirty, fun, playful and I can also be serious, intense and passionate. Guess you could add the Chinese fortune cookie “fun” ending to that last statement. Laughter is essential to a healthy mind and heart- life is too short not to see the cup half full, even on a dark and dreary night…or day for that matter.
The man I’m interested in getting to know is: all of the above, except perhaps not petite ☺, and optimistic, truthful, patient, tolerant, a good cook or one who appreciates one; a man who is witty, wise, fun, with a little mischief in his eye, who also loves music, wine, song and dance; importantly, he is polite, a gentleman, and a man of integrity who is affectionate, loves deeply and has a positive and open mind.
What I’m doing with my life
On a good day- Trying to make the best of everything everyday- looking for the next adventure, job, travel opportunity, love in my life-maybe even a love of my life-, helping, listening, doing.
On a bad day-watching the days fly by, watching another year end too quickly, worrying about things I cannot change.
I'm the honest type, even when it's not pretty or easy.
Overall: many, many more good days than bad.
I’m really good at
Parenting my two children, listening to and loving my family and friends, maintaining and supporting friendships, showing compassion, giving and receiving love. That's on the non-professional side of the coin.
The other side, we can discuss later on, as needed, if interested.
The first things people usually notice about me
Probably my eyes, but who knows....that's not a question I usually ask people when I first meet them. People think I'm easy-going and friendly, a good listener, but I guess the question could be interpreted as physical or social, so it's a good thing to ask some friends about, get some feedback and then I'll know more.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Most recently read: The Ken Follett series: Pillars of the Earth, etc., the Steig Larson Girl with the Dragon Tattoo series, Khaled Hosseini books, Cormac McCarthy and Ian McEwan books, psychology, self-help and awareness books, metaphysics and the NY times best seller list and much more.

Movies: I see a lot of movies and enjoy film. Recently very much enjoyed,” Melancholia”, Martha, Marcy, May, Marlene”, “Ides of March”, “Midnight in Paris”, "Margin Call", "The Social Network", "The King's Speech", “Inside Job“. Also love the classics, the Stanford Theatre, and indie films.
Music: Almost anything and everything, but especially classic rock, easy rock, Sirius Radio, Pandora and have recently tried Spotify. I like love songs, classical music, Broadway musicals and lots in between from reggae to rap. Music is usually on in my life- at home on my computer or in the car.
Food: no worries, I’m not a big eater, but I like almost everything. Partial to sushi, Italian and Thai and good wine.

I watch very little TV, but do enjoy some HBO, and other series, especially historical ones like The Tutors . I’m currently watching Boardwalk Empire and always enjoy PBS specials, the History and Discovery Chanel, when I do watch.
Six things I could never do without
Only 6 is tough but my children and family, love in my life, friends, a curious mind, good literature, and keeping an open heart and mind.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
what I want to do next with my life. I'm currently sort of living the good life and not working but this period will not last long since I'm a doer and just haven't decided on a direction yet since stepping back from raising the kids and stepping forward into a new time for me. Still working all that out.
On a typical Friday night I am
out with friends, enjoying good wine, food and conversation or taking in a movie, play or live music performance.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm not willing to admit anything truly private in public at this time, so can't contribute to this question.
You should message me if
If you've read something of interest in my profile and if you think you might be interested in finding out what else is behind these amber eyes.
The two of us