60 Austin, United States
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My self-summary
I'm innately kind, generous, giving, loving, compassionate, cheerful, optimistic and witty. I have a high degree of empathy for people, and sympathy for those less fortunate than I. I'm intuitive about other people's motivations--I read people pretty well, although I've been duped a few times. I enjoy making connections with everyone I meet, on every level, any place, throughout each day, including the panhandlers at stop lights.

I bike and swim occasionally during the warm months, not so much when it's chilly. I've been 90% vegetarian at one point and 70% carnivorous at another. I keep an eye on fat content, but don't have any strict eating discipline. Just try to keep a good balance.

I was with my ex-wife for 24 years. We split mutually and amicably 9 years ago. We share a 20-year-old, out-of-state, college junior daughter, and a dog, so we keep in touch regularly, but don't socialize. After the divorce, I was in a 3-year relationship. More recently in a 15-month relationship.

I'm not actively seeking a long-term relationship, but never close doors. I don't think enough people understand that there are lots of types/levels/degrees of mutually beneficial relationships between the opposite poles of "single" and "long-term couple." And for that, many miss out on wonderful, meaningful connections.
I’m really good at
My real strength is in writing. I'm also an editor. I'm good at intuiting people's feelings. Teaching/coaching. Getting by on little sleep. Collecting/listening to music—I'm a lifelong amateur music historian. Playing with my dog. Parenting a daughter. Being a loyal friend. Reaching out to others in need. Having good intentions.
The first things people usually notice about me
Probably my hair and facial hair. My good heart.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
BOOKS: I am usually reading one novel and one non-fiction book at all times. A lot of the nonfiction in the last 3 years has been music bios, mostly of the 60s and 70s rock bands I grew up with. I like everything by Robert Anton Wilson (RIP), anything by Ken Wilber, anything by Buddhist psychologist Mark Epstein, "The Art of Loving Kindness" by Sharon Salzberg, books by Padgitt Powell & George Saunders, every single novel by Mark Childress! "Land O' Goshen" by Charles McNair, "The Gay Place" by Billy Lee Brammer, Larry L. King, "The Wonder of Girls: Understanding the Hidden Nature of Our Daughters" by Michael Gurian, enjoyed a lot of kids fantasy books as I've raised my daughter. Am currently reading a lot of Edwin Bud Shrake and "Vagina: A New Bigography" by Naomi Wolf. Fascinating study about the vagina's powerful and incredible effect on women's consciousness. Totally different from men's. If you really want to blow your mind by learning about human nature and relationships, check out "Sex At Dawn: Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality". Just finished it. MOVIES: The Unbearable Lightness of Being," "Dazed and Confused," "Almost Famous," "Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind," "What the Bleep Do We Know?" "Best in Show"(!) and everythig by that ensemble, most Will Farrell movies. Documentaries: "The Smartest Guys In The Room", and you really should see Jeremy Scahill's "Dirty Wars" about our use of drones in Afghanistan. I've always been a big Obama supporter, and still am, but not when it comes to the use of drones. It's heartbreaking and sickening. TV: I watch the evening MSNBC shows and comedy shows almost exclusively. "The Jon Stewart Show", "The Colbert Report," "The Rachel Maddow Show," Laurence O'Donnell, "Louie [C.K.]," "Portlandia," "The Newsroom, "VEEP," "Men of a Certain Age," "Children's Hospital" and stand-up shows. Huge fan of "Californication" because I have a man crush on Duchovny's character (not for his sexual proclivity, but his incessant wry wit). MUSIC: Easier to list what I don't like: smooth or fusion jazz. Power pop, alternative, Americana, some hip hop and rap—really everything, mostly mixed genre playlists/comp CDs. But Southern and Deep Soul (1960s-1970s) have long been a passion. A music collector since age 6, so no list of faves under book length is possible. Off the top of my head, faves include The Weepies, local band the Ugly Beats, Rilo Kiley/Jenny Lewis (I never get star crushes, but Jenny Lewis is a special case), Teenage Fanclub, The Mountain Goats, Doug Sahm(!), The Beach Boys (especially Brother Records era), James Brown, Ann Peebles, Joe Valentine, Al Green, any soul music on Hi Records, Otis Redding, Bettye Lavette(!), Bobby Blue Bland, Bobby Patterson. COMEDY: I devote as much time these days to comedy as I do to music. Becoming an amateur comedy historian. For starters, I ADORE Mindy Kaling! Can't get enough of "The Mindy Project". Adore Zooey Deschanel in "New Girl" even more! Maria Bamford! Sarah Silverman! The Daily Show's Vanessa Williams! [Louis C.K.]]. Jim Gaffigan. [Ricky Gervais]].
Eddie Izzard. Will Ferrel. Firesign Theater, Coyle & Sharpe, Brother Dave Gardner, Jim Roche(!), Brian Regan, Mitch Hedberg. RIP. FOOD: Fruit, salads, ceviche, sushi migas, salmon and lots of different kinds of trailer foods.
The six things I could never do without
Music, Humor/Comedy, Writing, Wordplay, My 20-year-old daughter (college junior out-of-state). I could live without it, but I do love the Internet, my Macs and my iPhone.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Music, consciousness, my daughter, the pyschology of online dating , the Theory of Everything.
On a typical Friday night I am
I've always been more content with my own company than most people I've known. I have a lot of friends, but unless I'm dating someone I tend to hang at home and read, write, collect/listen to music, surf the web and/or watch a little comedy. That said, I'm always up for doing things if someone invites me and, if in a relationship, come up with lots of ideas for getting out and about.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I've never liked this question. No one answers it. It should be more about quirks. One of mine is that I hate speed bumps. They tear up car front ends. My neighborhood is riddled with them, and I've memorized how to approach each one. Key counterintuitive tip: If you go over them fast it actually jolts your car *less* than going slow. Which makes me very frustrated with people in front of me who almost come to a complete stop at each one.

I also love to ride my grocery cart from the store to my car.
You should message me if
I just found this in a copy of my very first okc profile. I took it out at some point because it struck me as overwritten. But what the heck. "Ideal match: A woman who lives in the moment, by her wit and her wits, enjoying what's at hand." If you're a devout Christian (believe in the Magic Jesus story) or politically right-wing, we shouldn't waste one another's time. Those are my two deal breakers. I do in fact find wit to be the spice of life, so clever me up.