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My self-summary
Most of my friends know me as "that really smart guy". Obviously I don't think of myself that way, because all the "difficult" things I know how to do, like quantum mechanics, seem normal to me because I've been doing them for so long. Making comfortable small talk with people and putting them at ease, now that's a difficult (and useful) skill. Flirting is like black magic to me. (Hence OkCupid.)

I'd love to find someone with completely different obscure interests so we could spend time getting into each other's worlds. For example I'm not a dancer (except I kind of got roped into it by playing cymbals in Gamelan X, haha), but if someone were into some difficult kind of dance like the robot / popping and locking (I'm not sure of the terms but you know the kind with isolated movements that looks awesome), I would be totally into that and want to learn how to do it. If something fascinates you it's very unlikely that I won't be interested in it.

Most of all I want someone to be really intimate with. Obviously sexual intimacy, but also just weird things like for example singing with throats pressed together (you can make weird things happen with your voices if you do that). Think of sharing an umbrella, or a popsicle, without a second thought. Acting as relaxed as when you're alone. Perhaps I'm doing a bad job of describing it but that's a kind of intimacy I want.

(Sorry for all the sentence fragments there... unlike e.e. cummings I believe that someone who pays any attention to the syntax of things can wholly kiss you.)
What I’m doing with my life
Making lots of "weird" music (largely gamelan-related). I'm a performing member of Gamelan Sekar Jaya and Gamelan X. I'm also building a marimba in a musical scale known as "porcupine temperament". Making and tuning musical instruments.

Flying my personal unpowered flying machine (i.e. hang gliding). Did you know humans can fly these days? My longest flight to date was about an hour long. Man, what would Da Vinci think of this wonderful thing made of aluminum and Dacron, that you can hang from and run off the side of a mountain?

Taking designer drugs every once in a while. My favorite so far is 2C-I (and I'm pissed that I failed to stock up on it before they banned it); the new one I'm trying out now is called "moxy". Dosing people at Burning Man.

Trying to make up for a youth that was sorely lacking in intimate friendship. Reminding myself it's okay to touch people in an intimate way (if you ask them first).

Oh, and I guess doing some quantum mechanics every now and then. As of today I'm still in the physics PhD program at UC Berkeley.
I’m really good at
Playing kotekan (interlocking musical patterns)
Math, physics, computer programming...
Explaining complicated things
Singing harmony (gotta find me a barbershop quartet)
The theory of musical scales and tuning
The first things people usually notice about me
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Dune; Ender's Game; Gödel, Escher, Bach; Harry Potter and the Methods of Rationality

Dr. Strangelove; Fight Club; Love and Death (I like black comedies)

Arrested Development; Buffy the Vampire Slayer; Firefly; Star Trek

Balinese gamelan; Battles; Charming Hostess; Deerhoof; Eivind Groven; Gentle Giant; The Joggers; Harry Nilsson; Kittie; Konono No. 1; La Monte Young; A Perfect Circle; Raquy and the Cavemen; Slayer; The Sword; They Might Be Giants; Terry Riley; Toby Twining; Tuvan throat singing

Perhaps the most difficult meat for me to give up if I went vegetarian would be sashimi. Raw fish is just so delicious. It's trippy to think that they just swim around all day with this delicious stuff inside them; you don't have to cook it or do anything to it other than cut it out.
Other favorite foods: Bún (Vietnamese noodle salad); French onion soup; gado-gado
Favorite drink: Dry cider (wish I lived in England or France...)

Comedians: Bill Hicks, Mitch Hedberg
Six things I could never do without
Literal six things:
* An atmosphere of appropriate pressure and temperature, containing an appropriate amount of oxygen
* Water
* Food
* Some way to get rid of waste products
Once I have those four covered I'm probably good for years and years, so the next two would be...
* Medical care
* Contact with other human beings

Six things I actually *could* live without:
* The Internet
* My smartphone
* Python (the programming language)
* Non-stick pots and pans
* My good old memory foam mattress
* Humor
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Xenharmonic regular temperaments (i.e. extremely advanced music theory)

Quantum information theory

How to get a date
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Question is an oxymoron, but...

I have somewhat unusual kinks (none of which, however, keep me from enjoying good old-fashioned sex). If you ask, I'll give you my FetLife username.

In the next section I'm torn over whether to put "casual sex". I wish they had an option that was like "casual cuddling / making out".
You should message me if
you want to. I'll reply to anyone because I think every message deserves a reply.
The two of us