3-pounds-of-flax
39 Sherman Oaks, United States
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My self-summary
I am an adventurous spirit who explores wilderness landscapes and obscure library shelves with equal curiosity: what might be discovered? This pursuit of revelation informs opportunities of intellectual development, spiritual practice, and physical exertion; often my meditation practice unfolds at the intersection of all three.

Cheap laughs, small talk, and superficial pleasantries cause me to recoil. Yet being shy in such situations tends to be advantageous, time permitting. Friends and colleagues know that I am listening, learning, and living into meaningful interactions with deep sincerity and genuine enthusiasm. Someone once said to me, “It is obvious that you are a brother of profound soulfulness and depth.”

Are contemplative inquiry and heartfelt romance still fashionable? That seems to be the outfit I wear best. That tag reads: “Creative. Insightful. Sincere. Pair with similar garments.” What are you wearing?
What I’m doing with my life
I returned to school in 2011, inspired to pursue environmental studies and extricate myself from social, professional, and existential ruts. Moving from the valley of Los Angeles to the shore of northern Wisconsin, I found myself captivated by the relationship between physical landscapes and spiritual wilderness. Upon completing a degree in Ecospirituality, I decided to continue my studies by entering seminary. With the intention of learning to be a chaplain, I instead spent three intense years learning about myself. Part of this journey has been receiving ordination through a Zen Buddhist community—something unimaginable before embarking on this pilgrimage. After completing my studies in Berkeley, I found myself though various circumstances on a trajectory back to Los Angeles. And so I am again a resident of a home where I lived for a glorious decade. But now I get to experience this place with new interests and revitalized sense of self. I wonder who and what I will find this time around.
I’m really good at
I am an attentive listener, whether to colleagues or strangers, nature or music.

My crucial friends are scattered throughout this country and the world. I am good at staying in touch with this companions, whether via phone calls, texts, or handwritten letters.

Although my inclination is to be a night owl, I nevertheless find myself able to get out of bed early in the morning to meditate.

I am proficient at subscribing to podcasts and letting downloaded episodes linger unplayed on my computer’s hard drive.
The first things people usually notice about me
I am tall. Tall enough that many people ask how tall I am.

I am quiet, shy—an introvert. But that just means I am a slow burn. The simmer of a first date often turns into a rolling boil by the third or fourth.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books:
“Awareness” by Anthony De Mello challenges me on every page. I enjoy Edward Abbey’s biting essays, nila northSun's matter-of-fact portraits, and Sigurd Olson’s benevolent voice. “Papillon,” whether true or not, is one of the great adventure stories. Myriad religious and spiritual tomes, in particular provocative Zen Buddhist teachings as well as brilliant Sufi and Native American poetry.

Movies:
“Synecdoche, New York” can be a difficult watch, but the conclusion is devastating in the best possible way. I continue to discover meaningful layers to “One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest.” “Almost Famous” makes me wish for a time machine. Also, the presence of Warren Oates tends to grab my attention.

Music:
I first moved to Los Angeles to work for a record label, so this category could overflow with names and recommendations. Let me profess my infatuation for the songs of Merle Haggard and the Beach Boys—two distinct California sounds. I have been buying the dynamic music of Ginger Wildheart for over 20 years.

Roads:
California Pacific Coast Highway
Beach Boulevard (Orange County)
Sunset Boulevard (Los Angeles)
Colorado Route 550
Lake Shore Drive (Chicago)
Indiana State Road 37
Montana Highway 509
Utah Route 163
Wisconsin Bayfield County Road C
The six things I could never do without
1) Profound friendship
2) Rapturous music
3) Expansive shorelines
4) Revelatory transformation
5) Unrestrained laughter
6) Impermanence
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I often wonder what happened to the spartan subjects of Richard Avedon's "In the American West."

Also this paradox: Goso said, “If you meet a man of Tao on the way, greet him neither with words nor with silence. Now tell me, how will you greet him?”
On a typical Friday night I am
Reconnecting with old friends or meeting up with new ones. Perhaps staying home and listening on Spotify for another great song. Sometimes going to bed early to be well rested for participation in Saturday services with a Buddhist sangha (community).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
My spirit animal is the manatee.
You should message me if
You are infatuated by disparate types of wilderness.
You pursue authenticity.
You celebrate wisdom in all forms.
You seek to understand yourself and the world.
You relish meaningful conversation.
You swim against the current and go with the flow.
You want to listen to Prince bootlegs.
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