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My self-summary
have just turned 40...its weird how quickly that sneaks up on you. just a few years ago I was filling out this profile, and I was 32. I don't feel like I should be I look it?

I'm pretty open, and some may find that uncomfortable. but I think we're all here, taking a leap of faith, and hoping we'll land in the arms of the right person

after a long haul on some windingly long roads, I think I'm finally the kind of person I want to be. polite, sincere, painfully brutally honest and the last incurable romantic on the planet. it also helps that I'm hilariously funny.

My interests include surfing (incredibly badly), squash (worse), and muay thai (which I enjoy in a big way). I spend a lot of time in physical pursuits, gymming and so forth, so it would be great if you shared similar interests (or at least a willingness to watch, point and laugh). I also like to collect good colognes, so at the very least I'll be generally pleasant to stand downwind from (scouts honour, promise!). I'm also keeping myself busy by studying for my second degree (communications science this time). when I'm not doing all that, I work as a designer

what? still not convinced??'re so needy! read on, maybe I can still change your mind

hmm...well, I'm told I give champion foot massages. best of all, I make prizewinning koeksisters (the recipe was a six time winner in Malmesbury, according to my family). as an added contrast, I also write naughty fiction freelance (no judgies!). I'm basically just a nice guy, looking for an equally nice girl in a city where they seem to be scarce. I have been on various dating sites for five years now, and am slowly losing hope that I'll meet my match here (maybe because I was raised with old school morals and values, and in this day and age, there doesn't seem to be a place for that).

are there any worthwhile women left in cape town? I don't know so much anymore, and I'm growing ever more discouraged. women don't seem inclined to woo, nor make men their priority (but prefer to rather make them an option) maybe you can prove me wrong - you know you want to! at worst, you'll lose an hour of your life over coffee with a stranger. at best...maybe you'll find someone with an insatiable appetite for kisses that last forever, and cuddling that lasts longer. be warned - if you win my heart, be prepared for unrelenting and absolutely shameless flirtation. I'll make it my mission to make you smile and blush as often as I can a day.

a word of warning, though. if you hit me up for money or airfare, ask me to watch your paid camshow or ask me to buy you airtime, I will block you, report you on the site, and have your profile removed. I am not an idiot, and I don't do my thinking with my genitals.
What I’m doing with my life
currently treading water, but making strides to taking over the world. be afraid!
I’m really good at
I'm an art director by day, and writer by night. so I guess driving you to distraction. and myself to self delusion. can you help me tell the difference? I write very well (hence the stories), which covers up for the fact that I'm kinda shy when speaking. I'm terrible at small talk...I'm better suited to more direct and pointed conversation.
The first things people usually notice about me
that I smell delicious! but not like bacon though...that would just be weird. and possibly gross if you're vegan.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
*Music - Oceansize (adore this band in a big way. am heartbroken that they broke up), Rise Against, Caspian, Explosions in the Sky, Nina Simone, Sharon Jones and the Dap Kings, Menahan Street Band. so essentially, motown revival, post rock and shoegaze music.
*Movies - Upside Down, I Origins, Predestination, Life of Pi, Life as a House, Aliens, Predator (1+2), Hellboy (1+2), Dune, The Cell, Silence of the Lambs
The six things I could never do without
my computer, the internet, pasta al forno, women who drive me to distraction, women who drive me to tears and lastly, nice smelling cologne
I spend a lot of time thinking about
erm...I don't know you well enough to say just yet. but I usually end up writing about it, then selling it to tasteless americans.

actually, no...thats not all I think about. I sometimes wonder who will fill the empty part of me like water filling a hole. and then I tell myself that I can live without knowing, but it will be a harder life because of it.
On a typical Friday night I am
(no...not really)

either writing, working or recovering from muay thai training. but perhaps you could inspire me to try something different?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm a fairly successful erotic novelist, and have still somehow managed to remain entirely celibate for 8 years. go me! *airpunch, followed by the sound of crickets in the background*. so while I am a very sensual and suggestive person, don't mistake this for the priority of what I want from you. I'm looking for someone to love...the intimacy and sensuality I can bring is a fringe benefit to you that can come much later.
You should message me if
I've made you laugh at least once so far. and you should DEFINITELY mail me if you look like Monica Bellucci. you should mail if you're looking for someone who be a gentleman with you, but who harbours a deeply sensual mind for the right woman. you shouldn't mail me if you aren't ready for an adult relationship, or are looking for someone to manipulate. mostly, you should have time for me in your life...time to make me a priority, because that's how I'll treat you if you win my heart.