74Petaluma, United States
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My self-summary
FYI: I try to reply to every message I receive but sometimes that's just not possible so I'm forced to be selective; please don't take it personally. Winks and messages from people without photos will not receive an answer.

I was born and raised in South America and came to the US in my early twenties after spending a few months as a field hand in a couple of Israeli Kibbutzim and later spending some time in an artists' village in central Israel. I settled in NYC where I lived for a few years (during the mid to late '60s) During the next 17 years, I lived mostly in Atlanta, GA, spending some time in Washington DC and Boston, MA. I moved to the Bay Area in 1984 and have been a resident of Marin/Sonoma since; in Petaluma since early 2011. Somewhere along the line, I was married twice, acquiring two young boys (package deal) with my second marriage. Made a few mistakes along the way and learned my share of lessons; by the way, school is still on; the lessons keep on coming. If there's something I have learned after more than sixty years on the planet, is that I'm as clueless as everybody else, I just hide it better because I can speak pretty.

Looking for a casual relationship, including friendship, intimacy, and sensuality to begin with; beyond that, I'm open to all possibilities; with the right person, the sky is the limit.
I prefer women who are independent, strong and self-reliant, and at the same time beautiful and feminine. Must have a terrific sense of humor and be able to laugh at herself. Be down to earth and appreciate simplicity. Be free and at ease in her sexuality. Probably musical/artistic or creative in some way and also have good business sense. She appreciates friendship and genuinely likes men. You have a spiritual bent while at the same time have both feet firmly planted on the physical/material world. I believe we all have "issues" and carry some "baggage"; if you deny having either of these, then you are too perfect for me and should stay away. If you are a "Born Again" or other "Super-Christian" type, please don't bother. Other "undesirables" (tongue firmly in cheek here!) include new age bimbos, spiritual divas, evangelical vegetarians and other fringe dwellers such as right or left wing radicals with equally hateful agendas.

All of the above should not be considered as strict requirements. It represents mainly a theoretical ideal person. It is highly unlikely that either of us would even come close to finding this ideal being, reality never fulfills the ideal; two people meet and, provided there is a basic attraction, fondness, and empathy, they work with whatever they bring to the party and develop a relationship where differences are as important and joyfully welcome as similarities.

Politically, I'm too much of a "Realist" to be a rabid Liberal or Conservative, still, too independent minded to describe myself as dwelling in the "wishy-washy" middle of the road. I grew up in a middle-class left-wing home and was raised to be somewhat of a socialist militant rebel though I no longer fit that mold. While I don't like "labels," especially when applied to me, I guess a close description would be "totally and absolutely independent" with a smattering of political choices: 2 from column A; two from column B. Sorry, that's the best I can do; or you could think of me as a libertarian conservative; probably more conservative than libertarian these days. I haven't voted in the last three presidential elections because I thought the available choices were pathetic. In retrospect, I should have voted for the RINOs in the GOP in 2008, though it probably would not have helped; Obama would have won anyhow. Having had to live with his disastrous presidency, I feel we have to do anything to stop The Wicked Bitch Of The East; Killary must not win. It's only August and a lot can happen between now and November; I will very likely vote for Trump, though he is not anywhere close to being my ideal candidate; he is neither a conservative nor a libertarian and stick his foot in his mouth too often for my taste, but the alternatives from the Old Guard are a lot worse. You know what I think about Killary; Gary Johnson is a total phony pretending to be a Libertarian, so he is also not a viable choice; the GOP is floating another anti-Trump candidate, also not a choice. I guess Trump is it, unless somebody else comes out of the woodwork.

Last but not least, and this is very serious. If you took the side of HAMAS (ISIS, Al Qaeda, Hezbollah, Muslim Brotherhood, et al) in the ongoing conflict in Israel and the rest of the Mideast, please don't bother. There would be nothing for us to say to each other; martyrdom as a vocation is insane; the murder of Jews, Christians, and anybody else that holds a different view of the world is unacceptable. I'm a secular, non-practicing Jew. I am American by choice, but I am extremely fond of Israel and have a strong appreciation for what it means to all Jews; I support Zionism as much as I can; the continued existence of Israel is vital to Jewish survival at all levels; it is the national home of Jews everywhere and, ultimately, the most important factor facing the permanent existential threat that all Jews face.

In term of looks, I'm reasonably attractive. I'm neither tall nor athletic, but even so, I think I'm quite handsome and sexy. I have brown eyes, light-medium complexion, gray hair, and beard. I am warm, affectionate, humorous and playful. I’m not an outdoorsy, hiking, biking, skiing, jogging kind of guy. I am more the indoor, culinary, quasi-cultured, thoughtful, witty type with a slight metaphysical bent, though I must admit that I can be talked into hanging out at the beach on occasion nor would I say no to soaking in a hot-tub or going on a picnic. My other interests include jazz, reading, art, movies/theater, Tantra. I'm unpretentious, travel light and prefer simplicity in most everything. I know my way around a kitchen though I prefer to do my cooking with a special friend or companion rather than by myself. I am gentle, considerate and emotionally available. Being an incorrigible romantic, I love sharing intimate moments with a lover, be it holding hands, jointly cooking a meal or making sweet, passionate love. I am sexy, playful, and somewhat intense.

My spirituality is marked by experiencing transcendental moments arising out of peak experiences leading to strong feelings of oneness and love, usually surrounding art, music and deep intimacy with a loved one... Very heart-centered...
What I’m doing with my life
Boldly or perhaps blindly going where no one has gone before! Just putting one foot in front of the other, more likely, and hoping that I'll be able to graciously accept what I find after every turn...
I’m really good at
Laughing, mostly at myself... Expressing myself articulately... Holding hands in silence... Looking into your eyes... Il Dolce Far Niente... Listening... Touching (your face...?) Thinking deep thoughts, then LMAO... Watching sunsets... Chasing butterflies and rainbows... Howling at the moon...Cuddling... Kissing... Massaging your body... Making love to you... Cherishing you... Sunbathing... Napping...
The first things people usually notice about me
I don't know; is it the sparkle in my eyes, or the spinach in my teeth?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I love to read; I think of books as wonderful friends that grab you by the hand and take you on a trip of discovery... I read history and historical fiction, novels, both classics and contemporary... Sci-Fi and other speculative fiction, Judaic themed stories (Chaim Potok/Isaac Bashevis-Singer,) mysteries/thrillers by Robert B. Parker, Stieg Larson (just finished "The Girl" trilogy), Jo Nesbo, Alan Furst, Olen Steinhauer. Movies are OK, but don't get even close to the written word in terms of content and depth... My favorite cuisine is Italian, followed closely by Spanish and Southern French (Provencal) and other Mediterranean cuisines... Music: Jazz (from Louis Armstrong to John Coltrane and beyond; extremely fond of Cannonball Adderley, Bill Evans, Keith Jarrett, Clifford Brown, Clark Terry, Miles Davis. Also Tom Waits, Taj Mahal, Leonard Cohen) Big Band, Oldies, Brazilian, Afro-Cuban, Argentine Tango, Fado, Flamenco, Eastern European (Gypsy, Hungarian, Bulgarian, Armenian) Indian ragas, Middle Eastern (Arab and Israeli) Klezmer, Classical, from Pre-Baroque to post-Impressionist... Can't stand rap and I'm only slightly more tolerant towards Hip-Hop; not a fan of heavy metal or hard rock, not big on Mexican or Reggae (!) Very low tolerance for Bubble-gum music and most pop, with some exceptions...
Six things I could never do without
With the exception of the basic necessities of life, i. e. Air, water, food, shelter, and health insurance, of course!!! I can pretty much do without anything else, though I would sorely miss certain things like touch, intimacy, companionship and friendship, music, silliness and laughter...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What to be when I grow up or whether to grow up at all...
On a typical Friday night I am
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Not in this space... Give me a chance after our first date and I'll burn your ears off...!
You should message me if
If you feel an irresistible urge...? Or if you don't but would like to anyhow... If you suddenly have a strong desire to share your latest AHA! moment... If you need a hug really bad... If you are very tactile and want to feel touched all the way through to the depths of your being...
The two of us