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My self-summary
Hey, I actually have a romantic partner now! Crazy. I wasn't looking for one but I found one anyways. So please don't message me if you're looking to get laid; I'm here to make friends and that's it.

I'm a fairly normal kind of girl, if by fairly normal anyone could mean "pansexual, bipolar, moderately ambitious, internet-addicted, music-loving movie-watching novel-writing snarky sarcastic hopeless romantic bookworm". But this is the internet, so that basically is normal, isn't it?

I write decent poetry (if you enjoy sestinas) and pretty good short stories (if you're into LGBTQ romance, anyways). I love Sappho, Jim Butcher, Douglas Adams, Catullus, Chuck Palahniuk, T. S. Eliot, Neil Gaiman, Allen Ginsberg and Diane Duane.

I spend a lot of time daydreaming. A lot. No, more than that. I also listen to a lot of music. I did the math and I'm paying about $0.02 per hour of Spotify use. Totally worth it.

I read tarot cards. I'm pretty good at it. I laughingly tell people that I'm mildly psychic. People tend to believe it.

I have fifteen tattoos: the VFD eye and DJ Pusheen on my left ankle, irises and the coordinates to my alma mater on my right ankle, a rat on my left collarbone, a lizard on my right collarbone, a semicolon behind my right ear, (...) behind my left ear, a Starfleet science insignia on my left wrist, an owl on my right wrist, the Albany skyline and "I swear I'd burn this city down to show you the light" on my left hip, "let there exist for us not one single further sorrow" on my right hip, a broken teacup fixed with gold and "there is a crack in everything, that's how the light gets in" on my left thigh, a pair of bluejay wings on my back, and Agent Scully and an alien abduction on my right thigh. I'm planning several more.

I can't go anywhere without my Droid, a notebook and pencil, and a book to read. You never know when inspiration will strike... or boredom.

I am an INFP, an "Idealist" type, but when I took the actual Myers-Briggs test, I came out 52% introvert and 48% extrovert, so it really depends on how I feel on any given day.

I am opinionated and loud about it, compassionate and evangelical about it, and optimistic and clinging to that by my fingernails sometimes.

I am not an outdoors person. I do not want to go hiking/kayaking/biking/skiing/[insert outdoors activity here] with you. I'll go for a walk if it's nice out, and I'll do yoga if there's an instructor and a promise not to laugh at my somewhat shaky balance, but that's about it. Unless you want to have a Nerf gun battle. I'm always down for that.
What I’m doing with my life
I work at a library in Albany, NY. I'm working on a novel, I have no idea when I'll be finished with it, I've been working on it for twenty months now. I teach jewelry classes for the library. I go to as many concerts as I can afford to with people whose company I enjoy. I'm trying to shed the things in my life that don't bring me joy, but it's not a quick process. I've been playing a LOT of Pokemon Go since that came out. I'm trying to learn how to play ukulele.
I’m really good at
Cuddling. I'm a pro at giving hugs. People love my hugs, and I love hugging people. I'm also very good at listening to people and giving good advice. Between the listening and the hugs (and the psychology degree that didn't end up being used vocationally), I end up playing counselor to a lot of my friends.

I'm also really good at getting way too caught up in fictional people's lives, whether I'm pretending to be those people in an RPG or writing fiction about them or just having ridiculous quantities of feelings about them.
The first things people usually notice about me
I think my glasses are the first immediately noticeable thing, but I just cut my hair for the first time in four years and the curls are kind of hard to ignore now. People tell me I have anime eyes and a nice smile. I think my sense of style is pretty distinctive, I wear a lot of dresses. And I've been told I have a very pleasant voice.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
(books) Anything by Jim Butcher, Diane Duane, Douglas Adams, Neil Gaiman, Neal Stephenson, Chuck Palahniuk, Scott Westerfeld, Dianna Wynne Jones, Lemony Snicket/Daniel Handler, Robin Hobb, Naomi Novik, Cassandra Clare, Charlaine Harris, Lauren Dane, Tom Stoppard, or P.G. Wodehouse. I'm a sci-fi and fantasy fan. I'm also really into Sherlock Holmes.

(comics) Watchmen, Y: The Last Man, Enigma, Transmetropolitan, Ex Machina, Ms Marvel, Rat Queens, Prez

(movies) All of the Marvel Cinematic Universe, the rebooted X-Men movies, everything by Wes Anderson, The Princess Bride, The Secret Life of Walter Mitty, Charlie Bartlett, Sherlock Holmes, The Fall, Star Trek (2, 3, 4, and the reboots), Rosencrantz and Guildenstern Are Dead, Moulin Rouge, Hedwig and the Angry Inch, Reservoir Dogs, Fight Club, The Big Lebowski, The Usual Suspects, Little Miss Sunshine, Kiss Kiss Bang Bang, Casablanca, Thumbsucker, Boondock Saints, Shopgirl, Secretary ... I love movies. I like movies about drug users and criminals, dysfunctional people, and superheroes.

(television) Currently fangirling: Mr. Robot, Game of Thrones, Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D., Agent Carter, Sherlock, Last Week Tonight, Archer, Hannibal, Person of Interest (I'm still not over that the last two are over... I have too many feelings to stop caring yet.)

Fandoms of my past: Almost Human, Venture Bros., Teen Wolf, True Blood, Chuck, The Big Bang Theory, Fringe, White Collar, Supernatural, Heroes, The Dresden Files, Torchwood, Firefly, and Stargate Atlantis. The old Granada Sherlock Homes series with Jeremy Brett basically rocks my socks off.

(music) look for user speccygeekgrrl at last.fm. that's me, and that's what I listen to and love. If you want a short list: Amanda Palmer, PWR BTTM, The Mountain Goats, Andrew Bird, Ben Folds, Fall Out Boy, Panic! at the Disco, Motion City Soundtrack, BORNS, Joywave, St. Vincent, Sia, Florence and the Machine, Regina Spektor, Ani DiFranco, Elliot Smith, Frank Turner, The Postal Service, Vienna Teng, Death Cab for Cutie, Radiohead, Of Monsters and Men, Neutral Milk Hotel, The Antlers, The Decemberists, Passion Pit, Metric, Andrew McMahon, The National, Bloc Party, Mumford and Sons, The Weakerthans...

I used to do college radio, and I still love putting together playlists. You can find a lot of playlists about as long as my old radio show, just without me talking, at http://8tracks.com/speccygeekgrrl

(games) I'm a huge fan of the FATE system for roleplaying games. I started with Spirit of the Century and I was involved in a really long campaign of the Dresden Files RPG that I was obsessed with. I also like the World of Darkness system, although the only game I've played is Changeling. I've also played a few campaigns of Little Fears. I don't play video games pretty much at all except for Katamari Damacy and Trauma Center. I love board games, especially Scrabble, but I'm a force to be reckoned with when Settlers of Catan comes out, and I'm pretty good at Risk. I enjoy the collaborative-competitive nature of Dead of Winter and the collaborative nature of Pandemic and Star Trek Panic (like Castle Panic, but you're defending the Enterprise). I think Tokaido is the most beautiful game I've ever played. I like card games in the style of Cards Against Humanity and Superfight. (Do not ask me to play Monopoly. I fucking hate Monopoly.)

(foods) I am actually a pretty good cook, if I'm allowed to say that about myself. My signature dishes are vegetable curry, spaghetti pie loaded with veggies, pomegranate beef, and steamed tilapia with veggies. I really love Japanese food and Indian food. I haven't eaten a lot of Thai food but what I've had I've liked a lot. My genetics and my astrological sign have conspired to make me the kind of person who tries to feed all her friends when they come over. I also like to bake.

Six things I could never do without
1) a night sky dark enough to see the stars
2) my computer or my phone with headphones so I can listen to music
3) real paper books, because e-reading just isn't as good as holding an actual book in my hands, and at least one blank book and a pen because writing is not an optional activity for me
4) a steady supply of the substances I need to function (mostly caffeine and medication)
5) someone to talk to (my cat counts)
6) pillows. lots of pillows. I tend to nest.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I daydream ALL THE TIME. I spend a lot of time daydreaming about the way I want things to happen, or the way something that did happen could have gone, or what might happen if something completely unlikely occurred. I daydream about things I want to write. I daydream about my fandoms.

I also worry a lot, but I'm slowly learning to chill out about that. Every now and then I'll just get hit with a wave of bad thoughts about things I can't control-- like global warming, or the reversal of the magnetic poles, or nuclear disasters, or war-- and it usually takes me a while to calm down and think about something else. It's the absolute worst when this happens when I'm trying to fall asleep.

Weirdly, I tend to have the bad thoughts more when I'm doing guided meditations. Something about clearing my mind makes the terrible things rise to the top. This might be why I keep my mind so busy all the time.
On a typical Friday night I am
Lately, writing. Taking my local gyms in Pokemon Go. Possibly watching a movie or going to a concert with a friend. Possibly playing board games. Possibly taking a long bubble bath, drinking cider, and reading a book. But more likely than not, I am sitting in my bedroom, listening to music and working on my novel.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I write, and a lot of the time when I look like I'm deep in thought, I'm just thinking about something I want to write. (Or daydreaming. I do that almost constantly.)

I bring a stuffed animal with me whenever I travel because I sleep better with something to hold onto. I prefer to be the big spoon even though I'm shorter than almost everyone I cuddle with.

And I don't know how to drive.

...okay, for some reason that seems to be a dealbreaker for a lot of people? I don't drive. I live in a city with robust public transportation. My carbon footprint is smaller than a car owner. I don't spend a large chunk of my income on car payments/insurance/gas. I don't understand why people think that's a problem.
You should message me if
if you are nerdy and enjoy sharing your nerdery with other nerds. if you like live music and seeing it with other people. if you enjoy board games and would like to come play some of them with me and my friends. if you feel like it, I guess. Just don't be boring, okay? I'll talk to pretty much anyone as long as they aren't boring. (Protip: hitting on me is boring. Telling me you want to fuck me is SUPER boring.)
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