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“Perhaps middle-age is, or should be, a period of shedding shells; the shell of ambition, the shell of material accumulations and possessions, the shell of the ego”....Ann Morrow Lindbergh.

“I have a different idea of elegance. I don't dress like a fop, it's true, but my moral grooming is impeccable. I never appear in public with a soiled conscience, a tarnished honor, threadbare scruples, or an insult that I haven't washed away. I'm always immaculately clean, adorned with independence and frankness. I may not cut a stylish figure, but I hold my soul erect. I wear my deeds as ribbons, my wit is sharper then the finest mustache, and when I walk among men I make truths ring like spurs.” - Edmond Rostand, Cyrano De Bergerac. I would love to be this.

I am the greatest guy in the world! .... at least according to my dog, Chutney, when I fill her dog bowl.
Update Jan 5: I had to play father/doctor/nurse/God/executioner to my poor pooch yesterday. I miss her terribly. Rest in peace, Chutney, my old friend. My thanks to all who have inquired about her.

Early life
I was born after a month of labor (according to my mother who has been known to exaggerate a bit in her guilt-inducing moments). My aunts tell me that I bore a striking resemblance to a large mouse. These are the same aunts who have warts on their noses and are constantly stirring something in a cauldron. It is said that Shakespeare modeled his Macbeth witches after them :-). I love them dearly, but am glad the Pacific is between me and them. Whew!

Education and profession
I earned a Master's degree in Operations Research (a field of study just about as useful as an ingrown toenail) in Ohio. However, I salvaged my career by doing post graduate work in Computer Science at McGill U in Montreal and taught in Singapore for a while. After that, I spent my life being a computer systems consultant for hospitals. Just in time to see all the computer jobs being shipped to India. Good move (I hear you say).

So, I have been around the block including almost being arrested in Rome in the 70's (let's just say that in Rome, you don't ask for a DRUG store...ask for a pharmacy instead).

Previous marriage
In the meantime, I also spent many years finding out that I was married to the wrong woman. Most of the marital relationship problems were caused by me (according to my ex-wife, my sister, my mother, my aunts, my nieces and my car mechanic ... that Benedict Arnold). As we grew older, I got less materialistic while she got more pragmatic. We could not find a happy medium. But, I am grateful for the experience and will see to it that I don't repeat the same mistakes the next time around.

Having come of age in Nixon times, I am a strong liberal. I am a huge fan of Jon Stewart, Bill Maher, Stephanie Miller and the usual suspects, though I get a little tired of being their seemingly dwindling choir. So, if you think (a) the Tea Party has a collective IQ greater than my shoe size, or (b) God and GOP are one and the same, or (c) you need to face West and genuflect when someone says "Reagan", we have nothing in common.

P.S. Though I believe I live in one of the most beautiful spots on earth, I am not tied to Asheville. It does not matter to me where I live...just who I live with.

Thanks for reading my profile.
What I’m doing with my life
I am the local tech for a California company that services Apple and Samsung mobile products.
I would rather be painting, traveling, learning the guitar or sipping chocolate at a cafe on the Seine.
I’m really good at
1. Falling in love with the wrong women. I did it again a month ago :-(.
2. Finding friends who are fiercely loyal to me and constantly want to talk some sense into said women -- Thanks, guys and gals.
The first things people usually notice about me
The red cape with an "S" on it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I am an avid (though amateurish) portrait painter and work in the Old Masters' style. A dyed in the wool Anglo- and Franco-phile. Love their history, books, just about everything.

Books: The Historian by Elizabeth Kostova. Reading "Wolf Hall". I'll read anything by Austen, Dickens, Dumas, Asimov, Michael Crichton, P.G.Wodehouse, 17th, 18th, 19th century British authors. Unfortunately, they have all refused to cooperate anymore by dying on me.

Music: Celtic music, 70's rock, blues.

Some songs that can still give me goosebumps:
Irish Guards' Amazing Grace,
Loreena Mckenitt: Mummers' Dance,
Andrea Bocelli: Con te partiro,
Righteous Brothers: Unchained Melody.
Patti Smith : Because the night.
I'll be seeing you -- a wonderful World War II song by Billie Holiday and others.
Love Jim Croce, Carole King, Van Morrison

Favorite poem/poet : Stop all the clocks - by W.H.Auden. It speaks from my soul to the animal and human friends I have lost recently.

Movies : I like watching documentaries. Also, will watch any Meg Ryan, Woody Allen, Steven Spielberg, George Lucas movie.

Favorite hotspots
Asheville, NC: Malaprops book store, Tressa's for blues music. Edisto Beach, South Carolina.
Paris: Louvre museum, Les Deux Magots restaurant, anywhere on the Left Bank.
Washington, D. C: National Portait Gallery.
UK: British Museum, any tourist trap, Charing Cross bookstores.
Six things I could never do without
1) Hugs from my lover.
2) My dog. A designer dog from the animal shelter, Chutney is not the brightest bulb in the animal world, but the most loving. Well, I have to do without her now. RIP, Chutney :-(
3) My oil paints, easel, and canvas.
4) Vacations.
5) My Ipad, laptop, and computer.
6) Good health.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
1) Why my patent application for cat condoms was turned down.
2) How to get from one end of town to the other without going uphill (to save gas).
3) Why animals seem to make a bee line for me for treats.
4) Why Republicans' heads don't explode when they say Palin or Bush are as intelligent as Obama or Clinton.
5) Animal rights and animal welfare.
On a typical Friday night I am
At Barnes and Noble coffee shop people-watching or at a joint where they have a live blues band.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
1. I am having a slow heart attack during every first date. So, please be gentle with me.
2. I sing aloud in my car to Bon Jovi, Three Dog Night's "One", and others. This is negotiable :-)
3. I day-dream when I meditate.
You should message me if
You are one who can discuss the truly important things in life without rancour; one who understands my love of nature and empathy with animals; one who has not had all romanticism kicked out of her by mere book learning; one who is willing to compromise as I would; above all, one who is capable of being my friend.

If you are out there, to paraphrase a character from one of my favourite movies, I have been and will always be your friend, whether we meet or not.

******** Deal breakers *************
Please pass me by if :

You answered "yes" to the question : Would you give up your pet if your partner asked you to? I am sure there is a low form of life waiting for you with open arms elsewhere on this site.

You answered 'earth' to the question : Which is larger, the earth or the sun? The educational system has failed you, unfortunately.

Your life revolves around jewelry, shopping, eating, conspicuous consumption of any sort.

You have to wear jewelry to the beach.

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