sppatty
45Los Angeles, United States
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My self-summary
Traveler, writer, reader, feminist, mover, road tripper, booty-shaker. I have a career to feed the dog and am trying to figure out how to have one to feed my soul too. Partly from the west coast, partly from the east, with a decade in between; loving LA though I confess I left town for a month on my 2-year LAanniversary to head to the PNW and remember what it's like to feel rain.

I spent the end of 2013 and half of 2014 traveling solo around the world. I didn't get lonely. I did have a hard time coming back, and an even harder time returning to a "normal" job. Debatable whether that was an error-bank account and health care card say, "not at all!" Passport says, "remember when you had my digits memorized?" I will do it again. Longer, different, and just as full of adventure and angst the next time around. Hopefully just as full of joy and fear-busting boundaries broken.
What I’m doing with my life
Here's what I'm doing during the day. I hope I live enough to say this isn't the only thing done with my life:
I work in operations in the financial services sector. Easily said, I'm the person that makes your ATM card work. If you prefer business lingo, I'm on a team that delivers strategic initiatives and executes transformational change. But if you prefer business lingo, we aren't a good match. In other words, I'm a project manager who can get things done.

I think life is about learning and experiencing, and I don't subscribe to any one belief system.

That said, I just went to my second funeral in two months, so I'm starting to think a lot about belief systems. But I'm still not falling for one.
I’m really good at
Talking to strangers. Listening. Finding my way around a foreign place, even if that involves getting lost and found again. Keeping good friends across vast expanses of time and geography. Making new friends. Writing. Yard work. Making cookies. Packing up your house if you need to move. Parallel parking a stick shift. Showing up with wine when you need to whine at someone for a while. Changing a tire without having the car drop on me. Overpacking.
The first things people usually notice about me
That it genuinely takes me by surprise that someone is noticing me. That I'm comfortable with my own discomfort.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
This could be a long jumbled list: The Border Trilogy (books, not movie), the Professional, the Black Stallion, Star Wars, Crouching Tiger, Lonestar, Bloodline, Moone Boy, Rake, Luther, Friday Night Lights, TC Boyle (selections), Let's Not Go To the Dogs Tonight (or anything else by Alexandra Fuller), The Ha Ha, Charles Bukowski (in certain moods and proper quantities), Politically Reactive podcasts, Trevor Noah, the Moth, indian, thai, and japanese food, a good steak, fresh crab, beet and arugula salad, and lots of various types of music, especially live, which I saw a depressingly small amount of while traveling. My collection ranges from pointer sisters to moby to eminem and back to neil young. (sorry, i got lazy with the capital letters...)
Six things I could never do without
My dog
My sisters
the smell of the Pacific Northwest in fall
my fleece hoodie, which is getting close to disintegrating
good crisp apples
I spend a lot of time thinking about
If I'm ever going to hand off this hateful work project of 2016 to someone. If I'll actually have the ovaries to quit my job again. What country I'm running off to next. How to learn to rock climb outside when I live in a city and don't personally know anyone here who climbs. Whether I would love or hate living in a ski town. Why people in LA recycle as little as they do. How it's possible for my niece to be such a badass before she turns 7. How so many people can make a Prius use up two lanes, or why someone would spend $90k on a Panamera and then drive it like a geriatric moron. WTF we're gonna do about this Trump guy.
On a typical Friday night I am
Friday nights tend to be mellow if the week has been grueling, which it has. Dinner, music with friends, or hanging at home with a project and the dog. I miss weeknight music activity but don't do well getting home after one and leaving at 7. It makes the 12 hours in the office frustrating for everyone involved.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
That even though people think I'm very outgoing, it's actually my way of coping with being incredibly shy.
You should message me if
You are smart, funny, excited to show me your favorite spots in LA, and aren't frightened by the number of selfies I posted on this profile. 17 countries in six months, solo, makes for a lot of selfies. If you are looking for someone whom you can challenge, and who will challenge you. I want a good adventure partner in life, and adventure is as often internal as external. If you build things, can teach me to two-step, sail, rock climg, remember my backcountry camping skills, or want to go spring camping in Utah, you get bonus points.
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