50 Oakland, United States
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My self-summary
The pressure is on. This is where I'm supposed to tell you how wonderful I am, right? My first attempt at creating a profile tried to fact it was so impressive that when I searched for matches, my own profile showed up at the top of the list and I was told I should message myself and ask for a date! ;)

I will try a great experiment...being as honest as I can. They say that honesty is the best policy, but insanity is the best defense. Anyway, here goes....

I am a calm and gentle spirit, and a seeker.

What am I looking for? Myself, I suppose. Have I been successful? Yeah, I think I've found what I'm looking for. I feel that I have a very full life and that I'm comfortable in my own skin without being full of myself.

I like reading. You'll rarely see me without a book.

I like people. I'm a pretty good listener, most of the time anyway. However, the flip side of that is that I don't have a lot of patience for people who only talk about themselves and fail to listen back. There are plenty of people like that, but I don't seem to attract them that frequently anymore.

I like to think of myself as a good and loyal friend. Many of my friends are overseas, and I'm not always the best person to write, but experience has thaught me that the best friends are the one's that I don't hear from for a long time, but when we meet again it's like we never were seperated.

I like animals, especially dogs. Would like to get a dog, but I realize that my life style is so busy that it wouldn't be fair to the dog. I tolerate cats, but can't say I like them alot. I suspect the feeling is mutual. I adopted an amazon parrot a few years back. He's amazing and more intelligent than your average nightclub bouncer.

I like writing. I am fortunate to have a job that allows me to write. (Update: Not currently the case as I'm currently working for myself doing something else, but I still get to write!)

I collect quotes. One of my favorite quotes is one by Henry Miller:

“Develop an interest in life as you see it; the people, things, literature, music - the world is so rich, simply throbbing with rich treasures, beautiful souls and interesting people. Forget yourself.”

If that quote doesn't embody me as a person, it certainly describes the way I try to live my life. I don't think he means that you should forget yourself in a negative way...just not be to self absorbed. Experience has tought me that when I temporarily lose myself in something, it is when I really find myself.

I’ve always been fascinated by different countries, people and cultures. I love to travel. I am comfortable travelling by myself, but find that having someone to share the travel experience with really enhances the pleasure. Like my 88 year old dad says, life's about sharing.

I am easy going, adventerous, and kind.
What I’m doing with my life
Like most people I need to work to pay my bills. I work as a finance writer for a large Health Care organization headquartered here in Oakland. I’m very fortunate to be able to have a good position doing meaningful work that I enjoy. It took me a while to get there, but it was worth the wait.

In my spare time I have many interests, and as you might expect, they change all the time. Currently, I am applying my love of writing to developing a couple of web sites.

Like I said before, I love to travel, and travel whenever I get the chance. That's when I feel most alive.
I’m really good at
Doing people's taxes and business management. More importantly, I'm also good at writing, cooking and making kids laugh. I'm also a good conversationalist.
The first things people usually notice about me
My accent. It's not that my accent is that strong (I've never been able to shake it), but people notice it and ask where I'm from - and that's actually a good way to start a conversation. And, I guess my eyes...people say I have nice blue eyes...I admit that this secretly makes me feel good and I'm grateful to my mom's side of the family for those genes. ;)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books - anything is game; travel, anthropology, business, computer books…anything I happen to be interested in at the moment. Because I've got a busy schedule, I don’t get to read as much fiction as I would like to. My latest favorite is “When the Elephants Dance,” a novel about a family's struggle for survival during the WW2 Japanese occupation of the Philippines. There are some horrendous scenes in that book, but it's extremely captivating reading and a tribute to the amazing resilience of the Filipino people during this difficult part of their history.

Movies – Two fav movies that come to mind are the Shawshank Redemption and Papillon. Both prison movies…go figure. I’m also a sucker for good TV dramas such as Rome, Deadwood, Dexter, Breaking Bad, and (you guessed it!), Prison Break.

Music – Anything from Beethoven to rock, Johnny Cash, and almost everything in between. Right now I’m listening to Enigma.

Food – I eat almost anything and have eaten some pretty strange stuff on my travels. Like balut, which is a partially developed duck embryo (No, I didn’t finish it!). I think my three favorites are Thai Food, Pizza, and Spanish Tapas.
The six things I could never do without
My morning tea. My camera. My bike. My books. My parrot. My laptop. My Droid (smartphone). My friends.

Yes, I know that's more than six...don't tell the OKCupid staff, OK?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How lucky I am and how many things I have to be grateful for. Sounds sickening sweet and perhaps like something you'd read on a Hallmark greeting card, but it's true. And I think a lot about how we humans differ from animals, and not always for the better...I marvel at the power of the human mind, yet most of us are not able to harness this power because of our negative attitudes and beliefs. I heard a saying lately that I think sums it up pretty well: "Don't believe everything you think!" ;)

I also spend a lot of time thinking about how to improve my life and how to be useful to others. As much as I love and respect the American Way, I feel that we sometimes in the pursuit of happiness we're missing something really important - the facts that as human beings we're all on a journey, nobody gets to take anything with them when they leave, it's not a race, and we need each other!
On a typical Friday night I am
Eating out or having dinner with my friends or hanging out with my best buddy, cooking dinner and making kombucha. Or, spending a restful evening at home watching Netflix or streaming movies. I don't have cable, not because I don't like watching TV, but because I can't stand the Cable company. So I was streaming movies before people starting catching on to that technology. I like the concept of being able to watch what I want when I want to watch it! I really enjoy quiet evenings at home by myself, but of course sometimes I want company and companionship. I feel that I currently am maintaining a very good balance in that department.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
The reason I don't drink is that I used to drink a lot - until it stopped being fun. ;) So, for the past three years or so )and still ongoing) I've chosen to live without trying to enhance/dull my life experiences with alcoholic drinks. This is what works for me, but I've got no problem being around people who drink socially.
You should message me if
You've read this far and you think you would like to get to know me better.