stotheg
34Chicago, United States
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My self-summary
I like my coffee complex and whimsical.

I decided a long time ago that the best three words anyone could say are not "I love you," but rather "come with me." I think that this preference is substantially informative.

I am easily entertained because the world is interesting.
What I’m doing with my life
Proximity to cat.
Going outside!

I have a tech theatre background and currently work in a warehouse. Thus, I can climb things and use tools. I have also smoked one cigar, but I was dressed as Groucho Marx at the time. As a counterpoint, I lean introvert and sincerely enjoy being alone with books.

I have been known to wield puppets.

Hoping to do some/more biking/boating/camping trips.
I’m really good at
These are the best compliments I have been given:

"You're the most absurdly genuine person I know."

"You see how things need to be and quietly find a way to make it happen."

"I never thought of you as shy."

I have also been (relatively) frequently complimented on my flute-playing/musicality, hair texture, writing, dental hygiene (seriously!), care with others, and bum.
The first things people usually notice about me
I don't know that I stand out at a distance. I think I tend to improve with proximity.

But:

When I return shopping carts to their parking spots at the grocery store, I ride them like a scooter and sometimes go "wheeee!"

Once, a drunk friend told me: "you're nice, Sarah," and began to walk away. Then he reconsidered, turned back, and added, "but you're not THAT nice."

I have this one t-shirt that says, "Just shy (not antisocial). You can talk to me!" I think people notice that. The proclivities, that is, not the shirt.

Also, I have the gnawing suspicion that no matter what, I will always be a shade off from fashionable.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Here are some things I regularly consume:
Radiolab
XKCD
Coffee
(and suddenly, inexplicably, diet coke)
Crazy low-budget theatre shows
Public-radio-style podcasts
ASMR videos
Intense long-form drama tv (Game of Thrones, etc.)
Four & twenty blackbirds baked in a pie, minus birds and pie
Books of all kinds (but I don't keep them)
Nachos
Nerdery
Scotch, gin martinis
Six things I could never do without
-A destination
-The means to get there
-Physical contact
-Time alone
-Cats
-Serendipity
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What's going on "behind the scenes" of the world.

Things that have a definite - but undiscoverable - answer, like "how many people have made out in this exact spot?"

In general, I like real-life games (but strangely not most conventional ones like board/card/video games). For instance, I like to play a mental game of "Awesome or Lame" often. Living in a cave: awesome or lame? Driving the Weinermobile as a primary vehicle: awesome or lame? Having a real-life encounter with the obnoxious blue interview puppet from Wonder Showzen: awesome or lame?

Other games include:
Most Attractive/Least Attractive (to be played on the El)
Trying Too Hard? (to be played on the sidewalk)
Spot the Mullet (works just about anywhere)
Tally Me Banana (an ongoing annual game where I just count how many bananas my roommate and I eat over a year)

Most of these games exist to facilitate conversation during bouts of people-watching. From a distance, it seems I'm a pretty harsh critic of strangers, but mostly I'm just interested in what's going on in other people's worlds. As a techie, I feel like I have a special perspective into the "backstage" of others' lives. I don't really; it's just fun to speculate.

Also, did you know that there are 1244 potentially hazardous asteroids known?
On a typical Friday night I am
Waxing philosophical.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Non-theist
Non-monogamous
Childfree
GGG
You should message me if
Some good first dates might be: pillow seats at Kopi, fly kites, full moon fire jam (anything at the lakeside really) fancy cocktails, cheapass beers. Dontcha think?
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