stslat
26 El Segundo, United States
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My self-summary
I think it's fair to say that my life hasn't turned out how I'd expected it would, although I suppose that is the case for most people.

In the not too distant past I had been a regular board and tabletop game player--I volunteered for IELLO at GenCon demoing games, I played D&D every couple weeks, and I even got to do beta testing for unreleased cards for an Ashes expansion shortly after the game first came out.

I liked to ride my bike a lot too, along the riverside trails in more rural areas outside of where I had been living in Pittsburgh, PA, and sometimes I'd ride my bike commuting downtown to work as well.

I was also regularly involved with the local rock music scene--I'm no musician myself but I would go out to local shows at least a few times a month. Not too long ago too I was finally able to see Brand New in concert in New York, which was pretty awesome, especially since they played with Kevin Devine and The Front Bottoms which is totally my dream lineup.
What I’m doing with my life
I'll just cut to the point I guess--I had an AVM rupture in September 2015. An AVM is a congenital deformity of an artery in the brain that I had no way of knowing I had until the rupture occurred. Because of it I cannot fully feel the entire right side of my body anymore, and now struggle intermittently with short term memory loss and aphasia.

Due to rare complications from this already rare condition I am in truly debilitating and constant pain...I cannot stand in one place or sit for more than a few seconds without extreme pain and my feet and legs turning purple which, I know, doesn't make me the best candidate for a traditional date!

So for now I can only walk short distances or lie down (I walk 2 miles twice a day for exercise while the rest of my day is spent in bed). I have gone to multiple high level doctors regarding my pain condition but none of them have had any solid or optimistic answers, so I really have no choice but to continue trying different prescription "cocktails" of medications that might help to control my pain. The first one they tried me on ended me up in the emergency room, so we'll just have to see how this goes!

Also, of course, on top of everything else going on with me medically regarding pain and junk like that, my AVM can still re-rupture at anytime and it won't be fully "fixed" by the radiation treatment that was done on it for a few years yet!

So I think it's pretty fair to say that I'm not really *doing* too much with my life these days outside of seeing multiple different doctors and specialists on a regular basis. My mom has even had to quit her job and sell her house to take care of me full time which I truly could not be more grateful for.

Just to be super clear, I can no longer work because of my condition for the foreseeable future. Prior to the brain hemorrhage I had been a proxy solicitor and had been trying to get a job at BNY Mellon since they have a large office in Pittsburgh where I was living.

In lieu of working, I'm spending lots of time playing brain games on my 3DS and Lumosity games online to help with my cognitive deficiencies from the brain hemorrhage. I'm definitely getting better every day though, so that's something positive!
I’m really good at
Staying alive, apparently! And often laughing so hard it hurts about things that are probably not that funny...like the stupid memes my sister sends me all the time.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books:
House of Leaves (the last book I read before my AVM rupture as it would be), The Last Unicorn (I love the movie too), Veins, The Last of the Just, Sputnik Sweetheart, Cloud Atlas

Movies:
I'm not the hugest movie fan, I must admit, but to try to pick a few of varying genre that I really like I'll go with Dancer in the Dark, Blue Velvet, Anchorman (lol), Nashville, and Across the Universe. I guess to be more general I tend to like musicals, non-slapstick humor, and creepy/depressing (but not scary) stuff.

Shows:
Rick and Morty, Buffy (and Angel, and Dollhouse), Community, Hunter x Hunter, Bee and Puppycat (if that counts), Adventure Time, Twin Peaks, Sherlock, Last Week Tonight

Music:
Lana del Rey, Conor Oberst, Kevin Devine, Barry Manilow (I've been lucky enough to see him live twice *swoons*), Brand New, Modern Baseball, Little Green Cars, The Black Keys, Counting Crows, The Decemberists, Foxing, The Front Bottoms, Garth Brooks, Matchbox Twenty, Josh Groban

Food:
I used to be really into exceptionally spicy stuff, but unforunately my stomach decided to become super delicate following my month-long ICU stay in 2015. Because of this, I now like to stick with just plain natural protein foods like nuts and meat and vegetables. As far as more "fun" stuff goes I do love green tea ice cream on occasion and I often have an herbal tea in the afternoon as a little pick-me-up as well :P
The six things I could never do without
1. Not gonna lie, number one these days is totally my mom
2. Music (I can't believe I only found out about Discover Weekly on Spotify fairly recently...)
3. The nearby ocean
4. Sweatpants
5. Pusheen
6. My absurdly huge collection of nail polish (even though I don't use it anymore)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to stay positive and move forward when life kinda totally sucks!
On a typical Friday night I am
Usually at home doing my standard thing of laying in bed and messing around on my laptop and 3DS (I play a lot of Animal Crossing these days), and sometimes friends come by and hang out too. I always go for a walk around Main Street as well to say hi to the feral cats that live in this one parking lot and also, of course, to exercise my Pokemon prowess at the many gyms along the street!
You should message me if
...you could truly be willing to hang out with and "date" (in a non-traditional fashion) someone who will not be able to go out to restaurants, go out to movies, go out to bars, go on airplanes, or really go anywhere besides my own apartment and the surrounding outdoor area that can be reached on foot. I know it's negative to say, but I just want to be up front about everything.

...you *aren't* super into Game of Thrones, Big Bang Theory, and Back to the Future (I feel like I'm the only one sometimes from reading profiles on here)!

...and you should *definitely* message me if you're also on Team Instinct and you'd be down to take over some gyms in El Segundo with me!
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