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My self-summary
here's a poem:

outline of a plan to dethrone god:
quit writing poems. and all other forms of whining.
perfect the peeling of an apple instead.
the honest blade,
waxy swirl of crimson skin,
beads of wet sweetness
coalescing from flesh.
cut deeper, pare the core,
past the centre’s hidden star,
down to the seed.
remember what happened.
remember eve.
What I’m doing with my life
What a question to ask a twentysomething-year-old!

Well, if you want the CONVENTIONAL answer, I'm working on a Masters degree in Child and Family therapy, specializing in working with in queer and transgender youth of colour. I'm also a writer and performance artist working in drag, spoken word, monodrama, poetry, and journalism. I'm invested in radical, intersectional politics, collective living, and community building. There! Life neatly boxed. Happy?

My life goal is to become a degenerate old lady dressed in red silk lingerie who has many strapping young lovers and is killing herself eating too many bonbons.
I’m really good at
Reading! Telling stories. Doing makeup and nails. Discussing anti-colonial, radical queer and feminist politics. Obscure literary and pop culture references. Making zines. Sexy consent!
The first things people usually notice about me
My ASTONISHING beauty. Just kidding. Sort of. I'm told that I have an "old, eccentric soul". Certainly I plan to age magnificently, like a fabulous ancient temple crumbling into ruin as all around, the forest vines surge up to reclaim their ground. I like to talk, sometimes in extravagant metaphor. Some people say it's charming! Others, that it's pretentious.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Fugitive Pieces - Anne Michaels
Beloved - Toni Morrison
Fall On Your Knees - Anne-Marie MacDonald
Consensual Genocide - Leah Lakshmi Piepzna-Samarasinha
Salt Fish Girl - Larissa Lai
The Bell Jar - Sylvia Plath
Blackness and Other Rivers Between Us - d'bi young
Gathering Blue - Lowis Lowry
Dragon of the Lost Sea - Lawrence Yep
The Tracy Fragments - Maureen Medved
We the Animals - Justin Torres
This is How You Lose Her - Junot Diaz
Hedda Gabler - Henrik Ibsen
Wide Saragasso Sea - Jean Rhys
Imaginary Homelands - Salman Rushdie
If on A Winter's Night A Traveler - Italo Calvino
Six things I could never do without
Love! (Ah, luff...)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
"who among us carries
the sage-secrets of loving?" - d'bi young anitafrika

"to be mortal is to err/ so, mortal, bow to a mortal's destiny / even the gods on olympus have loved / and sometimes against the law" - racine

"i must become a menace to my enemies" - june jordan
On a typical Friday night I am
Searching for a sense of the extraordinary in everyday life. Painting the town red. Mourning the loss of rotary dial telephone. Making stuffily pretentious Dadaist art. Saving goldfish from drowning.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Someday, I'm going to finish putting words to everything I want to say. And when that day comes, I will stop speaking entirely. Anyone who wants to communicate with me will have to have mastered the art of touching without causing pain.
You should message me if
You love adventure! If you have ever dreamed that you were a river rushing toward a mountain and the mountain said, "come!" If you like children's literature. If you believe in fairies. If you are a stately older gent, have a steady, lucrative job, and would like a delicately pretty waif to spoil. If you are a feminist. If you are anti-racist. If you are a revolutionary. If you can seriously imagine yourself writing letters to a lost love for forty-seven years with no reply. If you like poetry. If you write novels. If you are a musician run out of songs to sing. If you are dark and brooding and smell like sex and trouble. If you are brave.

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