64 Brooklyn, United States
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My self-summary
I am a divorced man, nine years divorced following a 26 year marriage with many good aspects and some irreconcilable ones. I am a clinical psychologist (Ph.D.) and clinical neuropsychologist (post-doc) and practice privately in Park Slope and consult in geriatric facilities. I love the arts: music of all kinds, theater, film, literature, dance, fine art. Brought up to value Jewish education and culture but not ritual or worship. I should probably call myself a Jewish atheist. I cherish irony, get cynical at times, tend to avoid and dislike sarcasm unless in the service of very good humor. My political roots are planted fairly deeply in left field but I prefer to avoid political discussions most of the time because they tend to lack an examination of core underlying assumptions and thus seem quite fruitless. I love therapeutic communication, from both standpoints. I'm a good listener and try to speak only when I have something useful or funny to say, but I don't always succeed and sometimes say things I wish I could take back.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm trying to be good at my work--after almost 40 years training or being a psychologist I'm fairly good at it now. I'm trying to be a good dad (my sons are 21 and 28). Still trying to decide the best way forward following a marriage that provided a large amount of structure for a long time but the ending of which has left me somewhat perplexed about how the future might be devised. I'm trying to live an ethical life and be true to long held values of honesty and compassion. I fall short some of the time.
I’m really good at
I can juggle flaming torches but not really that well.
I'm good at kindness most of the time.
The first things people usually notice about me
In childhood that I was reticent to speak up (no longer true).
In college that I looked like a young Fiidel Castro (no longer true).
In midlife that I was articulate and readily engaged (still mostly true).
Nowadays, perhaps they can still see some sadness in my eyes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
My favorite authors have been Philip Roth, Paul Auster, and Ian McEwen. And I love to read contemporary fiction--really adored "The History of Love" by Nicole Krauss. When I read the six novels by Jonathan Tropper, I really wondered how that guy found his way into my soul. I just read 4 war novels, all quite extraordinary ("Life After Life" and "A God In Ruins" by Kate Atkinson; "All The Light We Cannot See" by Anthony Doerr; and "The Narrow Road To The Deep North" by Richard Flanagan). Might need something a bit lighter next.

With respect to music the list is virtually endless: Bach, Mozart, Schubert, Beethoven; Chick Corea, Miles Davis; Grateful Dead, Bruce Springsteen; I'm a folk music aficionado; Musical Theater; Southern Blues; Reggae; Paul Simon, Regina Spector, Katie Melua; The Roches; and it goes on and on.
The six things I could never do without
Air, water, sleep, food, human connection, The Brian Lehrer Show.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Lately, how the subtle and not so subtle racism that has underlain the assault on Obama's presidency is no longer so couched; Typically, are my kids doing okay (happily so); Historically, psychology, self-examination, who I'm currently happy to be sharing my time on earth with (at the moment: Louis C.K., Leonard Cohen).
On a typical Friday night I am
Friday night holds no special uniqueness for me.
("Special uniqueness", hmmm, I'll have to check that one with the Department of Redundancy Department).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I wish my mother, who died in September 1968, when I was sixteen, could come back so I could tell her stuff that would amaze her like: we carry telephones in our pockets now; Nixon won but resigned in disgrace; there is no more Soviet Union; you can marry someone of the same gender now; The President of the United States is black; that I've turned out pretty much okay.
You should message me if
You like the personal tone of my descriptions.

Please accept my one specific request: If you lowered your age for the purpose of appearing in more people's searches, as many seem to do, I understand the rationale for this; but please correct it in your first or second communication with me. Honesty on this question is very important for me because it is fundamental and we are, after all, trying here to create relationships that will abound in trust (or some of us are, at any rate).