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My self-summary
I once got so mad about how bad I am at self-summary that I made a hand gesture which knocked over a whole thing of trail mix. It took a long while to pick it up! A lesson learned.

I'm a life-long New Englander. This means a number of things, but one thing it ALSO means is that I'm bad at saying good things about myself. So I guess I'll let other people say them for me:


"Thoughtful, caring, well-spoken" (a friend of mine after I backed another friend up in an argument)

"You give a shit about what happens in the world." (a mental health professional I know)

"My beautiful large boy!" (my mom!)

"The feastmaster" (a friend, in reference to my cooking and finding fun places to eat)

So... make of that you will!
What I’m doing with my life
I'm nearing the end of a PhD program in history, so, teaching, reading, writing, looking for jobs, keeping the anxiety at bay, etc.

I've also been getting more involved in political organizing lately- figure it's time, you know? Let me know if you want to know more about that, even if you're not interested in dating/meeting, and I might be able to help with that.
I’m really good at
- Listening
- Respectable bachelor cooking
- Book recommendations
The first things people usually notice about me
Resting gravitas face. My thoughts are a lot sillier than my face usually lets on.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I read a lot- like enough where I'm not sure what to put down here. History, theory, scifi, "classics," journalism, etc. Some favorite writers include Jorge Luis Borges, Doris Lessing, Herman Melville, Philip K Dick, Octavia Butler, Louis-Ferdinand Celine, Gene Wolfe, Elena Ferrante, the list could go on. I read a lot of history and can tell you about that but I assume that's more of a conversation thing than a profile thing.

My favorite music lately has been Townes Van Zandt and the Pack A.D.

Movies: Michael Mann is my favorite director, and favorite rewatch movies for me are Children of Men and Cadillac Man.

I firmly believe that the "golden age of television" will be better remembered for comedies (Arrested Development, Veep, It's Always Sunny, Bob's Burgers, Silicon Valley, Rick and Morty) than for dramas, though there's some ok if generally overrated dramas too.

I like all kinds of food and am trying to get good at cooking. I'm told I do a pretty good steak.
Six things I could never do without
Reading material, somewhere to walk around, my spice cabinet, pens, slack-time, amusing stuff to watch (whether in person or on a screen)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
- Historical dynamics
- How to be a political organizer when for the most part I just want to hang out
- Books
- The logistics of transporting groceries
On a typical Friday night I am
I like a good, cheap, unpretentious bar... I know a few but if you know more, let me know. I also like board games, though I'll admit, I get more into kind of depressing games about war than into fun games about trading sheep or whatever... but I can do either. Ultimately, the REAL board game is the friends you make along the way!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
As a child I was a disgracefully poor loser. Really poor!
You should message me if
You want to meet someone who wants to head towards something long term, but thinks that involves having a good, relaxed time in the short term first.

Or if you just want to hang out and talk about books and socialism and maybe I can make us some food. That works too.
The two of us