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My self-summary
I'm heading back to Vancouver in May, after 5 and a half years in the US working on a PhD and thought I'd start check out OKCupid to see what's out there.

So, the basics.....I love to laugh, particularly in response to ridiculously lame jokes. Life's way to short to sweat the small stuff. I'm "precocious", I experienced my mid life crisis(less) career change in my early 30s and I'm now a breath (aka dissertation) away from a PhD. I always thought I was a geek, turns out I'm actually a nerd (OkCupid tests are super valid and reliable so it must be true right?). The career change wasn't that surprising to those who know me well. I'm hyper-rational/logical and question everything, and have done so from an early age. I actually told my (older) brother there was no Santa when I was just barely 4 years old. I was playing Mrs. Clause in a play, and reasoned that if I could play Mrs. Clause, anyone could, so anyone could play Santa, and therefore it must be just a story. Thus began my early career of searching for hidden Xmas presents. My poor mother.

I love a challenge, and figuring things out for myself. If something needs to be done, I don't tend to wait for someone else, regardless of what it is, I just google it and see how it goes. So far my projects have ranged from learning how to knit a sweater for a friends baby, to installing a new dishwasher. Things usually work out.......eventually.

Something important to know about me....I'm Liberal. I mean, I'm liberal for a Canadian. Be warned, but don't worry, I haven't drifted so far to the left that I am a Socialist....yet. If you're extremely right leaning, I'd love to argue with you, but at some point that arguing tends kill any romance.
What I’m doing with my life
In the midst of an ongoing metamorphosis from techno-geek to full fledged nerd. Current status: 85% complete, though I am already fully bilingual in both nerdish and geek.

I'm spending a lot of time at the gym lately and making the time to cook. I recently re-learned how much easier it is to deal with a crazy schedule when you make time to take care of yourself first. It's apparently a very hard lesson to remember :)
I’m really good at
Despite warning people that I score below average in empathy (seriously, 1 full standard deviation below average on the last personality test I took, but it was for a management job so that was probably a good thing) friends still come to me frequently for advice. At least for others, I seem to be able to break down problems and find simple solutions when they are bogged down in the details. I actually think it's less that I am lacking in empathy and more so that I have a fairly easy time separating the emotion from a situation, and approaching things logically. My friends know they can count on a direct and honest answer to anything they ask. I'm not incapable of sugar coating things when necessary, but I rarely see the benefit of it.
The first things people usually notice about me
I can be pretty sarcastic and love to laugh. If I'm with friends having fun, I can be a little loud.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Most of my reading is academic currently so I won't bore you. I don't watch a lot of TV but I do like movies. I'll pretty much watch any movie, but I really hate movies with sad endings and high emotional tension throughout. I don't see the point of paying money to be depressed for 2 hours. As for food, I love all things Asian/South Asian and most things spicy, Indian, Japanese, and Thai are some favorites but I love Mexican as well.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
a lot of different things
On a typical Friday night I am
Depends on how crazy my week has been. Usually pretty low key, a movie with friends or relaxing at home.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
You'll have to ask me.
You should message me if
you're local, like to laugh, and not afraid of challenging conversations.
The two of us