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My self-summary
All my problems are first-world problem so let's not burden the world with theatrics. Unless they are artistic.

I am seeking a genuine grounded woman with a slight penchant for being naughty, and who does not mind if I take charge. A woman who understands her power so well she doesn't mind occasionally surrendering it.

As for me I am happy; genuinely seriously happy... although it may manifest in a sarcastic and biting way sometimes. I love life, and I enjoy time I get to spend with people who are in inquiry about themselves and the world around them.

Don't be what you think others want you to be. Be who YOU are. You are an absolutely amazing person. You just have to connect with that part of you that believes it. There is someone amazing for you, it may just not be me.

Wow, that's probably the worst way to get women to respond, and yet, it is honest.
What I’m doing with my life
I work in advertising and marketing, write for several publications, run the Science of Friendship project at and also started a sexuality and intimacy blog. I love and attack life, but can still laugh at it... and myself.
I’m really good at
Making words. Pushing buttons to see what happens, and exploring boundaries
The first things people usually notice about me
I am WAY better looking and more interesting in person. Like if Matt Damon had a love child with his twin, I know... kind of awesome.

Ug, ok, so I just kinda look like my pictures, oh well.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Saison, Rosamunde Sausage Grill, House, The Host, Tampopo, V for Vendetta, Branded to Kill, Game of Thrones, Mad Men, Stranger in a Strange Land, Snow Crash
Six things I could never do without
That little piece of lint in my belly button
The Playa
Dreams... they keep me sane.
My sense of wonder
My body
And something I have yet to discover
I spend a lot of time thinking about
There is this desire I have to "figure it out." My mind wants to "solve it"" and be able to access it at will. But the moment those thoughts pop into my head I am squeezing something into a box, and inside that box the light goes out.

I spend a lot of time thinking that if I could only stop thinking I could live in this moment, in this now time, and that would be enough.

And then I get upset for not being able to.
On a typical Friday night I am
probably writing, working, laughing, watching, spanking, enjoying.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am hesitant here. Since I often lack a filter or ability to determine how much to reveal, I can often cross into that boundary that would be uncomfortable for most people. Although there is an ego part of me that wants to poke at that, make you uncomfortable, that is only serving a part of me that wants to deflect or evade true intimacy. If you are willing to listen, truly listen, then I am willing to be intimate. For intimacy is not a one way action, it is a two way connection. So connect with me and learn to see yourself.
You should message me if
You are still smiling and curious after reading my profile.
The two of us