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My self-summary
Hello! I identify as a leftist queer Chinese American artist and reluctant techie. My pronouns are they/them. I have only really loved and connected with white people in the past (can we cry together about this?), so rn I'm only looking for other People of Color to connect with and care for. I invite people in who are:
- emotionally mature
- radically vulnerable
- passionate about something
- committed to personal growth
What I’m doing with my life
I moved to Seattle in Fall 2014 from sunny, warm Austin. This Cancer baby loves it here! Faves so far: beach lounging at Denny Blaine and the "gay side" of Madison Park Beach, farmers markets strolls, work dates at the library, dancing like a weirdo, drawing comics, Chopped/cooking shows, pushing people's buttons if they're so serious about something, handmade pop tarts at Ada's.

I am transitioning my career into being a UX Designer, and attending grad school in the Cultural Studies program at UW Bothell.

I am anti-capitalist, introverted <-> misanthropic, bad in groups, and possess a shifting gender identity.

When I have free time, I teach myself new artistic mediums! I've got skills in throwing stoneware, carpentry, leather stitching, notebook making, printmaking, stamp carving, photography, video editing, graphic design, web design, writing, stringed instruments (uke, mandolin, guitar, viola, banjo), gaga dancing ... and I want more!
I’m really good at
Leaving parties early.
Recommending melancholy/sexy music.
Being attentive and really listening to the person I'm engaged with.
Keeping succulents teetering on the brink of death.
The first things people usually notice about me
I may be more masculine presenting, but that doesn't mean I'm in charge of anything!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Chopped, Adventure Time, Bee and Puppycat, BLACK MIRROR, Broad CIty

Recent Music: Purity Ring, Beach House, Ryan Hemsworth, FKA Twigs, Baths, Braids, Caribou, The Antlers, Vashti Bunyan, Sharon Van Etten, Charli XCX, Ariana Grande, Alt-J, Kendrick Lamar, Childish Gambino, sexy melancholy dance/sex music

Anything by the great Hayao Miyazaki, The Skin I Live In, Blue Valentine, Fish Tank, Headhunters, Klown, Jeff Who Lives at Home, The Kids are Alright, Stoker, Frances Ha, Blue is the Warmest Color, Call Me Kuchu, Harold and Maude, Boyhood, Cutie and the Boxer, Kumu Hina

Recent Books: The Color Purple, The Absolutely True Diary of a Part-Time Indian, How to Be an Adult in Relationships, How to Be an Adult in Love, Your Illustrated Guide to Becoming One with the Universe, The Alchemist, In the Country, my poet friends' chapbooks

Comics/graphic novels:
Saga, Walking Dead, Fables, On Loving Women, haven't read any recently but please send me recs!

Re-glutening myself after years of being GF! Also love me a meaty meat
Six things I could never do without
Bodies of water
Freedom, I am my own separate being
My Vitamix
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What is (my) gender?
How to be less racist.
How to end rape culture.
White divestment, or how to have relationships with white people
The future of #BlackLivesMatter
How to heal from my internalized racism, sexism and homophobia.
Holding the complicatedness of valid group attributes and the complexity of individuals.
Privilege, and recognizing my own.
Battling fatphobia as a thin person.
How to truly love with complete vulnerability, gentle self-honesty, and shared commitment of personal freedom.
On a typical Friday night I am
Skipping down to Blick and grabbing art supplies for a solo date craft night.
You should message me if
You are:
comfortable with silence, or used to being around introverts/HSPs
have an evolving analysis of oppression and are active in fighting injustice
emotionally intelligent
have an generous sense of humor
a reader of books and a lifelong learner
not a white queer tryna get a masc asian queer
like to embark on spontaneous adventures!
The two of us