I try to keep up with friends, new and old. I'm big on the golden rule. I like to read (more nonfiction, but enjoy the occasional novel), like to write, enjoy dancing and getting better at it, love recorded and live music, as well as playing music. I like to travel. I enjoy restaurants and good home-cooking, though my own cooking skills are not what they should be.
I'm ever searching for the next thing to say that's so off-the-charts hilarious that those around me squirt whatever they're drinking through their noses and start punching me because they're in so much pain from laughing. I really want the truly lethal joke, like in that old Monty Python sketch.
I am curious, funny, and generous.
In the past few years, I've developed a belated taste for athletic activity, mostly visits to the gym and running. I am open to other physical activities. Diet-wise I cut out some bad things and have refocused on good things. I still enjoy myself when it comes to food and drink, but try not to treat myself all the time. I've made a life change and plan to stick with it.
Books: Pretty eclectic. A mix of classic and contemporary literature, narrative nonfiction, books on education, social phenomena, and assorted poetry. Not much rhyme or reason to what I’ll pick up to read next. Milan Kundera’s The Unbearable Lightness of Being was important book for me. Imbibed much Tolkien as a child. A.S. Byatt’s Possession was one of the last books I read that really knocked my socks off. Also read newspapers and magazines regularly. Been meaning to renew my New Yorker subscription.
Movies: Where to start? Went through a heavy movie-loving phase. My movie-viewing has fallen off in recent years, but perhaps you can rescue me on that front. Movies that will stop me from moving if they come on include Raising Arizona, Casablanca, L.A. Confidential, City of God, Sexy Beast, Rushmore, Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas, Howards End, Say Anything, This is Spinal Tap, Office Space, Crumb, Chinatown, Belle Epoque, Sideways, The Departed, Goodfellas, The Bridge Over the River Kwai, Fight Club, The Big Lebowski, Eastern Promises, Old School, Ferris Bueller's Day Off, Raiders Of The Lost Ark, Up, and the list goes on.
TV: Lots of great ones, and I have many, many many to catch up on. Here are some I’ve enjoyed in recent years: Lost, Arrested Development, My So Called Life, Six Feet Under, The Wire, Curb Your Enthusiasm, Game of Thrones, Justified, The Bridge and The United States of Tara.
Music: Way too many bands to list. Grew up a Beatles nut and have branched out ever since. I was on a new music kick a couple of years ago, but that has calmed of late. Feel free to tell me what i’m missing. Most of my faves are classic modern pop and rock stars and bands that everyone knows. Also like lots of alternative and indie music from the last few decades. My classical and jazz knowledge has many holes but I enjoy that and can be talked to hitting a concert. Can appreciate the craft in some country music, especially older country, but don’t seek it out. I’m pretty whitebread, so my hip hop knowledge is full of holes, but I enjoy dancing and can be shown the error of my ways.
Food: I'll eat pretty much anything. Sea urchin, beets and brussel sprouts were longtime dislikes but have had those in recent years and enjoyed them as well. Depending on how they are cooked. When I eat just for me I try to go light on the meat or better yet avoid it. Also have cut out most junk food, soft drinks and desserts. i like vegetarian fare as well and wish I could cook more of it. At a restaurant, though, I'm an adventurous eater. Tend not to order the same thing twice if I've been to a restaurant before. I enjoy wine, but wish I was more knowledgeable on the subject.
But, most of all, I can't do without the fairer sex or I wouldn't be here.
Andrew Marvell was right:
Had we but world enough, and time/This coyness, Lady, were no crime...
But we don't have world enough or time do we? Time's winged chariot draws far too near. So get on with it XX chromosome possessors.
A changing world is prompting me to think about the extent to which I need to change with it. So my career and focus may need to shift some. A developing story.
I am also a bit of a fidget. Sometimes I flick my toes without knowing it. My mom used to grab my knee to stop my foot tapping, like my leg was a spinning coin she was slamming flat on the ground. Also, an old girlfriend joked that I should subscribe to "Extreme Fidgeting" magazine. I think it's kind of endearing, but I don't notice it most of the time. Just fair warning.
So when should you respond to a message of mine? Always, of course:)
Definitely come take a look, read how I sing my own praises, and then take your temperature. if you get that flush of curiosity and interest then by all means give me a shout. Also welcome are nice rejections. I won’t abuse your graciousness. This is a weird business this mating ritual. We both need to feel that spark don’t we? Need not be right, right away. But if and when we meet, that spark needs to be there or be there fairly soon after.
If I am messaging you, it’s clearly a sign that I’m feeling something or think there is potential there. Respond in kind and I will do my level best to get a little fire going. I am getting better at fire-starting all the time.