31Boise, United States
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My self-summary
A note on what I'm looking for: despite the fact that I live in an alternative relationship I an fairly old fashion when it comes to dating. I enjoy going on dates and spending time with my partners. I am certainly not looking for anyone to hang out on the couch with and watch TV. Let's do something, drinks, dinner, a movie, slam poetry, a hike etc.

I seek people that are open to the possibility of a connection. I do not like limits or defined relationships. If you have already labeled what I can or can not be to you just move on, I am not into that. I want things to evolve naturally into whatever they wish to be.

There are very few things I value higher then happiness and love. I am a passionate person in everything I do, and I have never been one to only put part of myself into something; it is all or nothing. And maybe that is why poly works so well for me, I have the capacity and the need to be with each person 100%.

I am a marriage of logic and creativity, spontaneity and planning, giving and independence. I am not afraid to speak my mind, or be brutally honest. I like to think I am witty and funny and most people think I am "real" (whatever that means). I say what I am thinking and sometimes it can come out a little tactless. I am extremely sarcastic. But I am also a compassionate person and if I care about you there is nothing I wouldn't do for you.
What I’m doing with my life
I hate these questions, but fine I suppose I should have a personality on this thing. I am happily married with 2 dogs. I am involved in the poly and kink community. I work hard to to be a pillar of leadership in both. I balance a job and school, like some sort of responsible adult
I’m really good at
Cooking, I love to cook, and not in the "Woman! Get back in the kitchen and make me a pie" type of way. I like to experiment with recipes. I would say we are very epicurean, we enjoy indulging.

I am good with people, they find me fun and charming. I am outgoing and easy to talk to. I am told "I speak guy very well". I don't believe in playing games, or having drama in my life. But technically in the end I am an introvert.
The first things people usually notice about me
My Freckles and my red hair...
And I am told I have pretty eyes
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I like to read, and enjoy all types of books, being smart is
important to me. I value people who can carry on an intelligent
conversation. I find the marriage of science and art fascinating.
How paint works, dye, etc. If there is a chemical process behind
something I probably know a little something about it.

I like funny movies and shows. Not a huge fan of romantic comedies,
I have never even seen The Notebook and I have no desire to.

I love live theatre, to me its better then any tv show or movie.
The emotional arch that an audience can feel during a play is like
a communion for the soul.

I listen to punk, and alternative, nothing to heavy, and if I can't
understand the lyrics I usually don't like it
Six things I could never do without
My husband
My imagination
My sense of humor
My Dogs
The internet (yes its shallow but whatever)
Good food
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What poly means to me, (if you made it this far, good job, this may be the breaking point though). To me, poly is about meeting and making new connections. Love is infinite and sharing it with others only causes it to grow. I don't like to put limits on relationships, I want them to evolve naturally, into whatever they want to be. I don't do one night stands or emotionless sex (not saying love has to be the emotion, I just need some sort of connection)
On a typical Friday night I am
Out, usually a party, event or a date
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I met my husband on okcupid many years ago, it seemed to work out well.
You should message me if
You are smart, poly, kinky, artsy or think we are a great match.

Please DO NOT send a message to me if you can't be bothered to actually write a real message that I can respond to. "Hey how are you?" is not really a conversation starter. I do small talk all day every day at work I would rather just get to the meat of it. Man up, have some balls, send me a message that compels me to reply. And please don't message me for sex.
The two of us