Every scam on OKC seems to begin with a message: "Hi, how are you?" or "I will like to get to know you better, send me your email."
Our culture often seems to promote (and substitute?) image over substance. It's so much easier to assert we are thus and such than to actually be thus and such. I do think it's a good idea to be aware of who we are and what/why we do for the affirmation we all want (need?). But it's way easier to say I'm kind than to be kind.
I am attracted to sweet people. I can't think of another word to describe what I mean. I'm not talking about syrup, but "sweet" as an attitude that seems to accompany those who have found a way to keep a positive perspective on life. Life puts an edge on some people, on others it smooths them out. I think it depends on how we aline ourselves to the grind.
I want there to be such a thing as magic (but am kind of suspicious that there isn't and that what appears magical usually has a perfectly reasonable explanation) yet I still believe. I believe we are all connected, and to be unkind or uncaring to anyone is like being unkind and uncaring to our self. That makes perfect sense to me, but I fail to always do what what makes sense. Living to me is working to do what makes sense.
Many major things that I have visualized in my life have materialized. I often 'pray/meditate' and stuff seems to happen when I do (consistently enough for me to keep 'praying/meditating'). Coincidence? I don't know. To what or whom do I pray? I have no clue... just to what or who ever may be (or not be) out there. Maybe strangely, acknowledging something other than my self seems more important than having a name for 'what' I acknowledge? I often find myself feeling grateful and end up expressing my gratitude to the ether. This may be nutty and should go under "the most private thing I'm willing to admit."
For those who are interested, I've taken a few tests that assess personality. I'm EINTFP on Meyers Briggs (I know, two extra letters, but am level on EI and TF). I test out as a "nurturer" and a "skeptic" (anyone else think those two seem on opposite sides? It seems to bear out though, I do critical care nursing. I question authority of all types, including my own. I hate to see anyone hurting, even if they've been a jerk (heck, we are all potential jerks given the 'right' circumstances). I think jerkdom is a momentary choice, it doesn't have to be a permanent condition.
Anything I watch is dvd or streamed from the internet. I don't miss the commercials and it's great for binge watching series like Game of Thrones. I like a movie that provokes the mind or feelings vs. assaults the senses. Seriously, I think movie makers have already perfected car chases and blowing stuff up, how about a good story line? A couple of movies I like are: "Remains of the Day," "My Dinner With Andre,'" "A Home at the End of the World," "Babett's Feast." "Princess Bride" makes me laugh. "Wit" makes me cry. Tokyo Sonata, Departures (Japanese). I love live theater.
Music: all sorts (but little to no country).
Food: guacamole. anything I raise in my garden. most anything Mexican. Italian, Thai, Vietnamese. Not terribly picky or exotic. I cook. I try to stay healthy with what I eat… processed stuff is bad for us.
good real food
I think friendship is highly underrated. I've met some wonderful people on OKC who've become friends. I can be pretty unconventional when it comes to relationship, I question tradition.
If you are looking for a romantic tangle, that could be nice, but is rare for me. Re the age range and looks, attraction is a factor. Age is not set in stone for me, but I don't know how to account for physical attraction, it seems like it is either there or not. I find a lot to value in most people, romantic attraction is more elusive for me. It's easier for me to find someone to like than to kiss. Even sex seems easier than romance, though ideally they combine. I find it easier to find some one to get off with than kiss, cuddle and sleep with. If you approach me and I get the impression you're looking primarily for romance, I'll likely not respond if I do not feel a similar spark. I hate to hurt anyone, but being dishonest about my own feelings isn't a solution. On the other hand, I respond to anyone who clarifies they're okay with just friends if there isn't physical or romantic attraction.