Our culture often promotes and substitutes image over substance. It seems a good idea to be aware of what we are doing for the affirmation we all want (need?). To me, a person who is off center seems more real in a largely scripted culture, but I guess that can become a script too. I doubt we can nail down identity, it seems fluid, but we do seem to have points of reference that are less mobil. I think being aware of (and familiar with) those 'points' provide places for us to connect.
Me? Oh, yeah. Cliffsnotes version: I'm a divorced queer guy. I use "queer" because I tend to eschew conventional stuff. I married (a girl) when was still a kid, it was part of my religious cultural tradition (being attracted to guys was not). I love/loved my wife, but she is/was still Fundamentalist in her beliefs and I am a de-convert. So, after 31 years of marriage, we parted (as of 2008).
I left Fundamentalist Christianity, kinda got disowned by my family and went to school, earned a BSN, loaded up the truck and moved to Beverly (ok, Oregon). I used to run a multimillion dollar corporation, now I keep people alive. Life has a way of caring of us.
I am attracted to sweet people. I can't think of another word to describe what I mean. I'm not talking about syrup. "Sweet" is an attitude that seems to accompany those who have found a way to keep a positive perspective on life. Life puts an edge on some people, on others it smooths them out. I think it depends on how we aline ourselves to the grind.
I want there to be such a thing as magic (but am kind of suspicious that there isn't and that what appears magical usually has a perfectly reasonable explanation). I believe we are all connected, and to be unkind or uncaring to anyone is like being unkind and uncaring to our self. I've been labeled a closet Buddhist by more than one.
Many major things that I have visualized in my life have materialized. I often 'pray/meditate' and stuff seems to happen when I do (consistently enough for me to keep 'praying/meditating'). Coincidence? I don't know. To what or whom do I pray? I have no clue... just to what or who ever may be (or not be) out there. Maybe strangely, acknowledging something other than my self seems more important than having a name for what I acknowledge. I often find myself feeling grateful and end up expressing my gratitude to the ether. This may be nutty and should go under "the most private thing I'm willing to admit."
For those who are interested, I've taken a few tests that assess personality. I'm EINTFP on Meyers Briggs (I know, two extra letters, but am level on EI and TF). I test out as a "nurturer" and a "skeptic" (anyone else think those two seem on opposite sides? I question authority of all types, including my own. I hate to see anyone hurting, even if they've been a jerk (heck, we are all potential jerks given the 'right' circumstances). Jerkdom is often a momentary choice, it doesn't have to be a permanent condition.
I think I may qualify as a nerd.
Anything I watch is dvd or streamed from the internet. I don't miss the commercials and it's great for binge watching series like Game of Thrones. I like a movie that provokes the mind or feelings vs. assaults the senses. Seriously, I think movie makers have already perfected car chases and blowing stuff up, how about a good story line? A couple of movies I like are: "Remains of the Day," "My Dinner With Andre,'" "A Home at the End of the World," "Babett's Feast." "Princess Bride" makes me laugh. "Wit" makes me cry. Tokyo Sonata, Departures (Japanese). I love live theater.
Music: all sorts (but little to no country).
Food: guacamole. anything I raise in my garden. most anything Mexican. Italian, Thai, Vietnamese. Not terribly picky or exotic. I cook. I try to stay healthy with what I eat… processed stuff is bad for us.
good real food
I think friendship is highly underrated. I've met some wonderful people on OKC who've become friends. I can be pretty unconventional when it comes to relationship, I question tradition.
If you are looking for a romantic tangle, that could be nice, but seems rare. Re the age range, attraction is a factor. Age is not set in stone for me, but I confess I am not physically attracted to people who look to me like my parents. I do not envision kissing someone who reminds me of Santa or Mrs Claus. I find a lot to value in most people, romantic attraction is more elusive for me. It's easier for me to find someone to like than to kiss. Even sex seems easier than romance, though ideally they combine. It seems easier to find some one to get off with than kiss, cuddle and sleep with. If you approach me and I get the impression you're looking primarily for romance, I'll likely not respond if I do not feel a similar spark. On the other hand, I respond to anyone who clarifies they're okay with just friends.