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My self-summary
"My self-summary." This makes me think of profiles where the writer puts together a long list of their self-perceived attributes. I find myself thinking about how often others see us differently than we see ourselves. At best, that kind of profile leaves me guarded, it seems almost dictatorial. The profiles that draw me in are the ones where a person expresses their thoughts and feelings, where they are being who they are (or sharing a story or slice of their real life of being) vs telling me who they are. Do we ask others to believe us based on our authority or do we present evidence of who and how we are?

Every scam on OKC seems to begin with a message: "Hi, how are you?" or "I will like to get to know you better, send me your email." Or someone saying they are looking for a 'life partner', but they have written a cursory or no profile, answered few or no questions and clearly haven't read mine. sigh

Our culture often seems to promote (and substitute?) image over substance. It's so much easier to assert we are thus and such than to actually be thus and such. I do think it's a good idea to be aware of who we are and what/why we do for the affirmation we all want (need?). But it's way easier to say I'm kind than to be kind.

I am attracted to sweet people. I can't think of another word to describe what I mean. I'm not talking about syrup, but "sweet" as an attitude that seems to accompany those who have found a way to keep a positive perspective on life. Life puts an edge on some people, on others it smooths them out. I think it depends on how we aline ourselves to the grind.

I want there to be such a thing as magic (but am kind of suspicious that there isn't and that what appears magical usually has a perfectly reasonable explanation) yet I still believe. I believe we are all connected, and to be unkind or uncaring to anyone is like being unkind and uncaring to our self. That makes perfect sense to me, but I fail to always do what what makes sense. Living to me is working to do what makes sense.

Many major things that I have visualized in my life have materialized. I often 'pray/meditate' and stuff seems to happen when I do (consistently enough for me to keep 'praying/meditating'). Coincidence? I don't know. To what or whom do I pray? I have no clue... just to what or who ever may be (or not be) out there. Maybe strangely, acknowledging something other than my self seems more important than having a name for 'what' I acknowledge? I often find myself feeling grateful and end up expressing my gratitude to the ether. This may be nutty and should go under "the most private thing I'm willing to admit."

For those who are interested, I've taken a few tests that assess personality. I'm EINTFP on Meyers Briggs (I know, two extra letters, but am level on EI and TF). I test out as a "nurturer" and a "skeptic" (anyone else think those two seem on opposite sides? It seems to bear out though, I do critical care nursing. I question authority of all types, including my own. I hate to see anyone hurting, even if they've been a jerk (heck, we are all potential jerks given the 'right' circumstances). I think jerkdom is a momentary choice, it doesn't have to be a permanent condition.
What I’m doing with my life
Being and becoming, interacting. I read a lot of medical journal/research stuff. I work full time. I grow food "organically." I have owned a few farms and grown for farmers markets and even helped start a very successful market. Have done several house restorations (3 of them historical), and will probably do a few more before I am done. Bought a circa '42 house July 2015 and am fixing it up. I do most of the work myself. I like preserving aesthetically pleasing architecture.
I’m really good at
investigating, learning, doing. Life's an adventure, I don't ever want to retire or just sit on a couch.
The first things people usually notice about me
that I am tall.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I don't have favorite books, I love books in general, and appreciate a capable word smith. Usually reading about 4 at a time.

Anything I watch is dvd or streamed from the internet. I don't miss the commercials and it's great for binge watching series like Game of Thrones. I like a movie that provokes the mind or feelings vs. assaults the senses. Seriously, I think movie makers have already perfected car chases and blowing stuff up, how about a good story line? A couple of movies I like are: "Remains of the Day," "My Dinner With Andre,'" "A Home at the End of the World," "Babett's Feast." "Princess Bride" makes me laugh. "Wit" makes me cry. Tokyo Sonata, Departures (Japanese). I love live theater.

Music: all sorts (but little to no country).

Food: guacamole. anything I raise in my garden. most anything Mexican. Italian, Thai, Vietnamese. Not terribly picky or exotic. I cook. I try to stay healthy with what I eat… processed stuff is bad for us.
Six things I could never do without
I could "do without" some of this stuff, but wouldn't want to.

good real food
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I want to live well and considerately. I'm in a challenging career where I care for people in, usually pretty dire, need. It's hard. Bedside nurses are pulled 5 different directions at one time for 13 hours straight. It's hard not to be pulled apart. The work exposes all my frailties and flaws, but also presents me with endless opportunities to grow and do good. I end up spending a lot of time thinking about why I fail when I do.
On a typical Friday night I am
Friday is either my first day on or first day off work. I work 13 hour shifts in healthcare, one week on and one off, so I'm either on my way home to a meal, shower and bed... or blissfully off.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I pray to my ceiling fan
You should message me if
If you want to connect and you can offer something of your self to connect to. One sentence people make me a little crazy. I'll likely not respond to "sup" or "hi" unless you've made the effort to write a detailed profile.

I think friendship is highly underrated. I've met some wonderful people on OKC who've become friends. I can be pretty unconventional when it comes to relationship, I question tradition.

If you are looking for a romantic tangle, that could be nice, but is rare for me. Re the age range and looks, attraction is a factor. Age is not set in stone for me, but I don't know how to account for physical attraction, it seems like it is either there or not. I find a lot to value in most people, romantic attraction is more elusive for me. It's easier for me to find someone to like than to kiss. Even sex seems easier than romance, though ideally they combine. I find it easier to find some one to get off with than kiss, cuddle and sleep with. If you approach me and I get the impression you're looking primarily for romance, I'll likely not respond if I do not feel a similar spark. I hate to hurt anyone, but being dishonest about my own feelings isn't a solution. On the other hand, I respond to anyone who clarifies they're okay with just friends if there isn't physical or romantic attraction.
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