Hmm, apparently not enough...
Cogito ergo sum (Je pense, donc je suis). How's that? Some more, eh?
Sigh! Well, here goes...
If I had to pick just one word to describe myself, it would be "sapiosexual". Another would be "zetetic".
I am a geek, but not a nerd; an egoist, but not an egotist (and people who don't know these differences would be better off not contacting me -- warning sign no. 1! ;-) ).
**[OK, time for a major re-write... (vide infra).
Fair warning: This is a long profile. People with ADHD or sub-types/variants are discouraged.]**
P.S.: For everyone out there: I'm an Indian; the dot-on-the-forehead, curry & namaste type; not the headdress-made-of-feathers & me-smokum-peace-pipe type. :-)
Oh, for the more beauty-conscious, I have a skin condition that is medically known as vitiligo vulgaris universalis. Go check it out... Yes, I am quite OK with it; and no, I do not want your advice regarding its 'cure'. Thanks for your concern. :-)
"And he could not tell why the struggle was worth while, why he had determined to use the utmost of himself and his heritage from the personalities he has passed...
He stretched his arms to the crystalline, radiant sky. 'I know myself,' he cried, 'but that is all — ' "
- Francis Scott Key Fitzgerald
"Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try again. Fail again. Fail better"
- Samuel Beckett
"Make the most of yourself; for that's all there is of you."
- Ralph Waldo Emerson
I'm also a cynic-cum-optimist a.k.a. optimistic cynic (yes, it's possible; I am!), and I have high standards -- both for myself, and my would-be partner (much higher than those for the Average Joe/Jane).
I do not tolerate BS easily. I am also peevish and cynical, and very good at dialectical discussions, Logic [notice the "L" en majuscule d'imprimerie, eh? ;-)], pattern recognition, understanding the similiarity & difference between determinism v/s causality v/s chaos v/s stochasticity v/s randomness (& accordingly acting upon it), analysis, heuristics, epistemology, risk assessment, decision evaluation/analysis, understanding & evaluating people/problems, and 'solving problems' (yes, I'm a big fan of the Oxford comma!).
I also excel at looking at the 'real' stuff of life; at being 'balanced' and stoic -- and not just the rosy glow or aura you people assume exists, or the crass and rampant misery that you think exists, for your enjoyment/pity/self-pity (depending on which form of personality disorder you suffer from... ;-) ), just because you lack the knowledge/comprehension to understand it all!
I also am damn good at generally being correct about things/people. So there.
Chaos rocks! Randomness rules! The 2nd law of thermodynamics is awesome! There is no purpose, except the one(s) we create... And I like that.
I'm good at expanding, and subtly fine-tuning, my own 'database'... :-)
"Where is the wisdom we have lost in knowledge,
Where is the knowledge we have lost in information."
- T S Eliot
Also, I am good at empathy, but please do not expect any sympathy from me. From time to time, I may be apathetic too, if/when a situation may require that...
I am complex, but not complicated; I am passionate, but stoic; I'm a planner, but love spontaneity. Sounds contradictory? Well, to quote Francis Scott Key Fitzgerald: "The test of a first-rate intelligence is the ability to hold two opposing ideas in mind at the same time and still retain the ability to function."
Another personal favourite/motto of mine would be: "To read. To travel. To slow down his head. To accelerate his wits. To charge and yet stand still; to be as patient as a saint, and impulsive as a child."
As also, “He has achieved success who has lived well, laughed often and loved much; who has gained the respect of intelligent men and the love of little children; who has filled his niche and accomplished his task; who has left the world better than he found it, whether by an improved poppy, a perfect poem, or a rescued soul; who has never lacked appreciation of earth’s beauty or failed to express it; who has always looked for the best in others and given the best he had; whose life was an inspiration; whose memory a benediction.” -- Bessie A. Stanley
(yes, I like quotations! Deal with it.)
I value wisdom over intelligence; will power over talent; and, adaptability over wilfulness.
I almost always speak my mind. Although I like honesty, yet, I know how not to be brutally honest. I know how to be tactful, but would prefer not to be so always; if you have such a low self-esteem and/or such a big ego that you'd want me to be less-than-honest with you (or be 'nice' instead of truthful), then we won't get along. Social politeness/etiquette being an obvious exception...
And if you can't take a hint (or more like hints), then you will hear the whole truth (brutal or not) from me.
"Rather than love; than money; than fame; give me truth."
- Henry David Thoreau
(Perhaps the vitiliginous patches on my face?)
P.S.: Oh, I'm a non-A-list (i.e. non-paid) member, and so cannot even see who's rated me (good, bad or ugly). So, please, if you feel confident enough to rate me, kindly put your money where your mouth (er, clicking finger) is... ;-)
Simply message me. Despite my bark, I don't really bite. Hard. Unless provoked. Or asked. ;-)
I enjoy music that makes me feel - really feel - emotion.
I like both Indian (Hindi/Tamil/Bong/Marathi etc) as well as western music - both classical & non-classical.
Used to be an avid quizzer, cruciverbalist, sports and literary/debating society type of guy, till work took toll of that! So please don't expect any six-pack/washboard abs (anymore)... The normal ageing processes do take their toll. ;-)
A major bibliophile. Was a long-time fiction and comic book fan, but have been for some time now (read: ~15+ yrs) into rather serious non-fiction (science, history, law, art, economics, music & lots of other stuff...).
Now, Fiction just seems so ... puerile! Although cerebral, philosophical fiction -- à la Philip K Dick & Frank Herbert; or Jorge Luis Borges & Umberto Eco, etc; or even comics in the vein of Alan Moore -- are really good!
I used to enjoy TED Talks, but after 8+ years of experiencing their videos, I have now come to realise that it's mostly ivory tower researchers having a pie-in-the-sky approach peddling their own brand of unwanted, un-thought-out wares, often dubbed 'miraculous cures' for some 'evil' or 'ill' the society is suffering from; mostly people are on there to preach & evangelize their own point of view, which can make it a bit (very) unscientific/biased...(Bah!)
All talk and no action! That's what TED's all about... Bored with it now...
And hey, it seems I'm not the only one with that analysis! :-)
Oh yes, although I like thinky shows (I like to detect mistakes in the episodes of "Q.I."! How geeky is that, eh?! :-) ), and documentaries (Nat Geo, Discovery, Fox History, The History Channel, or, general/misc.), or some comedies [bit of a fan of Brit humour & BBC ("Sherlock" is simply awesome! "The Thick Of It" is brilliant! Also enjoy its American counterpart: "Veep") -- but I hate "Mr. Bean"! Also, "Frasier" rules!]; yet, I am not a big fan of the telly, the boob-tube, the ol' idiot box, whatyouwill...
However, "Whose Line Is It Anyway" is awesome(!) -- both the American & British versions! The guys on them are frikkin' geniuses!!!
A recent favourite is "House of Cards" (the American version; the Brit one is not so good...) -- it's simply brilliant!
And, oh yes, if you're one of those who raves about Sex & The City, Game of Thrones, or any of those chick-flick kind of TV series, or those vampire/werewolf/whatever series, then, do both of us a huge favour, and don't contact me!
I don't own a TV, and I'd rather download stuff off the 'Net...
"O great altar of passive entertainment, bestow upon me thy discordant images with such speed as to render linear thought impossible."
Full brownie points to you if you know where that came from... ;-)
If you 'cannot live' or 'can never do' without any of the following, then don't bother to waste my time messaging me:
- make up/'beauty' products (including lip balm/moisturizer/ hand or body lotion, sun block, sun glasses, shampoo/conditioner/shower gel etc)
- high heels or flip-flops (!) (yes, unbelievable that some women can list any/most of these as 'essential' items!!)
- most electronic gadgets (including your f&*$ing iPad, iPhone, Blackberry etc)
- your bloody vehicle
- your bloody pet (pooch or otherwise)
- most materialistic 'commodities'...
People survived fine before most of these were invented, and you probably were introduced to many of them only in the last 10-15 yrs or so of your frikkin' life; so if you have become so dependent on them that you "cannot do/live without them", then you are unfit for decent human contact, and perhaps should consider starting a moe relationship with such things, or living with superficial, materialistic people similar to yourself!
Also, if you 'cannot survive' without coffee/tea etc, then you are officially an addict. Either stop with the hyperbole, or get help!
I have very clearly learned to separate my needs from my wants; the essentials from the desirables, and I hope you have too...
Compatibility, to me, is more about the gelling/overlapping of these needs/wants, rather than trying to change the category of something from a need to a want (or vice versa) for pleasing each other (although that cannot & should not be ruled out...).
'Your perfect partner is not perfect, she's just perfect for you...'
P.S.: Don't message me if you cannot 'live without' 'God' in your life, or, believe in any form of astrology, numerology, palmistry, cheiromancy, Tarot reading, reiki, etc...
P.P.S.: Women who love/swear by Paulo Coehlo, and/or "The Secret" (by Rhonda Byrne), and/or "Eat, Pray, Love": please, please, please, for the love of all the higher deities, please leave me the f*&% alone!
Ditto for the ones who read self-help/pop psychology books like the Chicken Soup... series, or like to read authors à la Dale Carnegie, Robin Sharma, Sheryl Sandberg, David Burns, John Gray, Deepak Chopra, and their ilk...
Message me if you prefer Stephen Colbert over Stephen Covey...
P.P.P.S. (last one, I promise ;-) ): To women who mention on their profile pages,"Please don't contact me if our match percentage is less than x%†" (or some variation thereof), I say this:
a) You have exposed yourself to be stupid/gullible enough to accept unsupportable & very iffy mathematics/statistics,
b) You are not open to the concept that people not like you may actually be interesting/good enough to be (at least) friends, and hence have been revealed to be a close-minded bigot, as well as a supremely egotistical person, and,
c) You are S.T.U.P.I.D. enough to believe that 'match percentages' (or indeed such 'algorithms') can actually measure qualities which, in the best of times, are not even defineable to any certainty! (yes, this merits re-emphasizing!)
And thus, any woman who has defaced her profile page with such f@#%-all BS will not get along well with me AT ALL, and I implore such idiots to save themselves from my embarassing & trenchant reply -- by not messaging me in the first place.
† where 'x' is 70, 80, 90, whateverthefuckyouthink....
(Brownie points to you if you got the reference... :-) )
*** How come women like to indulge in this double-standards game...
...They don't want men to put up pics showing their abs or whatever, but are very happy (proud?) showing off their scantily clad figures (bikini/lingerie/mini/tank-tops/whatever)?
[Mind you, I'm not against any of that. Ladies, believe me, I like the (properly conditioned) female form as much as the next guy; but I'm appalled at the logical inconsistency, and the lack of intelligence to countenance that! Apparently some people never develop a certain level of metacognition...]
...That they themselves will not put up decent photos showing their face/figure (yes, those stupid artsy-fartsy photos of your little toe, your shoes, your pout, or the back of your head are f&*%ing irritating; as are the bloody inspirational quotation photos!), or put up single photos (or none at all!), and yet have the gall to write in their profiles that messages from men not having any/single pics in their profile will not be entertained?
...That women leave their profiles almost blank (or filled with single lines) -- including their basic info (height, ethnicity etc) -- and yet expect to find their 'perfect' mates via this 'strategy'! Why would someone be interested in an almost blank profile, huh?!
And, here's the kicker(!): despite this, they want the guy to write long & substantial messages as an ice breaker! Wow!
Is it that they are just hypocritical, or/and that they are stupid enough not to even realise the inherent contradiction in their 'behaviour'? Such a lack of (self-)awareness is stunning!
I give up!
*** Why there seems, among OKCupid's female clientèle, to be a positive correlation between atheism/agnosticism & smoking? Weird, and interesting...
So this is what feminism (or its stupid-arsed American version) & feminism-inspired more 'freedom' or 'choice' for women has led us to... More COPD, CAD & Lung cancer for women. Bah!
*** Why do so many females (esp. from the Asian nations) ask stupid questions like "Guess where this is", or "If you can guess where I am, you get bonus points", or somesuch, while posing on some random vague-looking beach/river/spring/lake/forest/mountain/building etc....?!
Why the F should I/we guess? Who cares?!!
And, almost all forests, rivers, seas, oceans, lakes, mountains etc look the same! So stop asking frikkin' idiotic questions!
If that's merely to show off that you are so-called 'well travelled', then let me enlighten you: Vacationing in some touristy place in some foreign country is not considered as being 'well travelled'! So there!
*** Another interesting observation is that females from the Asian regions tend to prefer cats over dogs, while the opposite seems to be the case for Occidental females... Weird, huh! What gives?!
*** Based on an analysis of the answers to pet-related questions, it's amazing how many women would not want to be with their 'perfect' partner if all that was 'wrong' in him was that he didn't want/like pets!
So, if I get this correctly, these women would rather put a pet (with an average life span of a few years-to-decade) over & above their potential life partner!!
And then these stupid women wonder why they're still single!
Females are so stupid & illogical...!
*** Also, why so many women here (mostly from Asian nations) have left their "height" column blank? Huh? What gives? And why height? I can understand "body type", but "height"?? Isn't that just bloody silly?!!
*** And why do so many Asian women spell out stuff like "He should treat me nice", or "He should take care of me"?? WTF! Is this supposed to be spelt out?
Aren't these things supposed to be judged by the woman themselves...?
Would anyone announce themselves on their profile saying "I'm gonna take women/you for granted, and am gonna whip your butt!"??
And then there are these 'specimens'........
http://www.okcupid.com/profile/Edithcr?cf=home_orbits -- wow! This one's an extra-special idiot!
http://www.okcupid.com/profile/Carolinebatalle?cf=profile (hoo boy!!)
https://www.okcupid.com/profile/Grumpyberry?cf=home_orbits -- okay, okay, you're fat! There! Happy?!
https://www.okcupid.com/profile/miss_petite09?cf=profile (good for you, honey, but we simply don't care!! Also, boo hoo!!)
https://www.okcupid.com/profile/iamsassycai3?cf=profile (Hoo boy!! Guys, beware of the baggage on this one! You're perennially gonna be on the rebound!)
https://www.okcupid.com/profile/fashionista_lda?cf=profile (if all else fails, and can never satisfy you, then why the heck are you on this site?! Guys, beware! You're gonna be competing with Jesus & his old man here...!) ;)
(I'll keep on adding to this list!)
N.B.: This is a very old-new list, so some of the profiles may not exist, or may have been changed (maybe even drastically), or there may be a few inadvertent repetitions. Don't write to me to crib about this -- it's hard to keep track of so many idiots!
OK, there's some stuff I have to get off my chest, and OKCupid just doesn't seem to have an appropriate column/heading for it, so this space will have to do...
I am looking for a woman (yes, a woman! Not a 'girl' or 'gal'! At 25+ you're still a 'girl'??!! Grow up!) who has more brains than beauty (although I would most definitely be lying if I said that physical attraction were not important to me!), but who hasn't allowed her talents to go to her head. She should be able to inspire me to reach greater heights & to learn new things in life - which may be a tad difficult as I already know quite a bit, and am more than capable of motivating myself...
I do understand that it can be a bit trying, and perhaps a bit humbling, to know someone with large amounts of knowledge & wisdom, a very high self-esteem, and a minimal ego, and who is still trying to improve himself on a daily basis... Not everyone can handle it. I know. It's okay...
Although I do not judge a book by its cover, I almost certainly will form an opinion based on its title.
For example, if you were to give me a book entitled "The psychological perspective differences between males & females", I would most certainly give it a try; but if you were to give me a book named "How to know what Men think", I'd throw it in the trash, and scorn you for being a moron.
How is this seemingly non sequitur-ish tangent relevant?
Well, ladies, fair warning: I most certainly am judging you by your clothes; postures; silly poses, pouts, duck-faces; 'attitudes', quizzes/tests taken; answers to the 'match questions', etc, as all of these give me some clue to your psyche...
If you don't want to be branded an "idiot", well, then, stop being one!
I am quite picky/choosy/pedantic while making friends, and I have quite a long 'hate' list reg. women which includes (inexhaustive):
*any tattoos (if you're willing to deface/defile your body in such a manner, then please give me a miss -- and no, they do not look good on anyone -- not even that stupid butterfly/dolphin/flower/angel/humming bird/Chinese or Kabbalah character which you thought was 'so cool' in your drunken stupor, being egged on by your troglodytic sorority gal-pals!);
[Clarification: I do not consider the following as make up: Lip balm, moisturiser/hand lotion & its ilk, and, sun block/screen. Almost everything else is make up (Yes, lip gloss is make up; as is 'natural' or 'colourless' lipstick & nail paint! If you really want it to be natural, why not let it be natural?!).]. I can perhaps tolerate a bit of kaajal or eye liner (not eye shadow - yes, I know the difference!), but only if done very subtly.
*stilettos (or 2+ inch high heels in general);
*shiny or gaudy dresses;
*non-traditional facial & body piercings
--- (if you are so uncomfortable with your own self and/or self-image that you have to go to such superficial, unnatural/non-natural, unhealthy extent - like make up, high heels, tattoos, dyed hair, piercings etc - to boost your self-esteem, or to stroke your ego, then we will most certainly not get along, and hence, kindly do not waste my time. And no, it is not self-expression; it's a cry for help! Help me, my ego is too big, or my self-esteem is too tiny & fragile! Humbug!) --- ;
*wearing torn jeans/clothes -- if your sense of style includes dressing outside of your home like a hobo (or like a fashion diva -- which you certainly ain't!) or a punk/grunge teen, then don't expect me to go out with you anywhere!
For me elegance trumps style which trumps 'fashion'!
*having a shrill, high-pitched shrieking girly laughter/giggling;
*unnecessary/unwarranted/excessive swearing/gangsta talk esp. to sound 'cool';
*use of Netspeak/Textspeak -- especially LOL(!) [minimal use in SMS's is OK -- because, most of the time, there is a need to save on characters used in order to save on money spent per conversation; use in other messaging/emails is unacceptable (standard/logical abbreviations/short forms are welcome); and I shall puncture your jugulars & bleed you slowly if you actually use these in real telephonic/face-to-face conversations].
Feel free to use emoticons though. :-) ;
*if you use words like "laters"and "anyways" (what the hell is wrong with you!?!! It's SINGULAR, you moron!!);
*if you use the word "y'know", "hello" or "like" too much, and/or inappropriately, or if you use the word "irregardless" -- grow up and improve your vocabulary to the level of a mature person!
*if you use absolutely idiotic 'new age' ways to spell regular words, like: "fren(s)" instead of "friend(s)", "gurl" instead of "girl", "noughty" instead of "naughty", etc!
*if you wish your future BF/husband were like Christian Grey. Hell, in fact, don't contact me if you actually liked '50 Shades of Grey'!
Same goes if you wish your BF/would-be hubby were like some character from some movie/TV series/book/comic...
*if you've answered the question "Are you annoyed by super-logical people" with a "Yes".
We are very unlikely to get along in that case. I would be considered 'super-logical'/'super-rational' (whatever that means!) by most standards!
*if you've written something akin to this in your profile: "Message me if you can make me laugh/smile".
Well, honey, hard as it may be for you to accept, given your massive egocentric nature, we (men) were not really created (No, this is not a hint at me being pro-Creationist. Sigh!) to titillate your funny bone!
It's one thing to say that one must have a sense of humour. Agreed, it's important. But to demand that we be ready to assume the role of Sir Charles Chaplin or Buster Keaton (or Robin Williams, for all you yuppies who haven't seen/heard of the other two) whenever her highness feels like it is just a bit galling!
How the hell do I know whether I can make you laugh or not?! Depends on your bloody sense of humour, doesn't it?!
To make you laugh is not my bloody job -- go read Garfield or something. Or hire a jester. Bah!
*if you've answered the "Sign" section of your basic profile info with "_______ and it matters a lot": Do NOT contact me, for then you're only risking your own humiliation!
*if you've written anything similar to this in your profile: "I'm a typical __________ " [fill any of the generic astrological sun/moon/star signs, or/and any psychometric/personality classification type (the commonest one here seems to be the Myers-Briggs index)].
Yes, you are typical; a typical idiot!
*if you are willing to try stupid, dangerous & almost any slutty thing(s) just because you believe in the YOLO philosophy or are ticking items off your 'bucket list': just stay the hell away from me!
...et cetera (I may keep adding to this list later as I remember more stuff -- Oh boy, this is gonna be one looooong list!).
**Smokers; females with alcohol issues; drug abusers (past or current -- if you are/were stupid enough not to realise that ALL drugs are harmful, and/or do/did not care, and do/did not appreciate yourself & your body, then kindly go find someone as moronic as yourself to cohabitate with!); goth chicks; feminists (not just the ultra/rad bra-burners, even the lame plain Jane variety... Feminism is over-rated, boring & mostly stupid. Self-confident femininity is hot!); girly girls; immature daddy's girls; evangelizing vegans; fat chicks (no, you're not 'chubby'/'full figured'/'well-rounded'/'cuddly'/'Rubenesque'; you are FAT! And this is unhealthy.): piss off!
There's high self-esteem and there's faux self-esteem! Guess which one these fat chicks who are not only comfortable with themselves - but also inordinately proud (!?!) of their obesity - have in copious amounts! Idiots!
After a few failed attempts, I've learned to spell this out clearly: I must mention that I am looking to work & settle in India (not yet sure which part; but probably not Delhi/Mumbai/so-called class-A cities); although I am not averse to a short stint abroad [maybe a Fellowship sometime in the UK/Europe/Japan/Canada (not the US!) - only time will tell.].
It's not easy for someone in my profession to settle abroad at this stage.
Also, I haven't yet decided whether I will settle in the public/govt. sector or the private sector; that might take some time -- the pros & cons of this can be maturely discussed with the relevant people later on. In fact, there may be no 'settlement' in my case...
However, I am not going to allow anyone to emotionally blackmail me on this. As it is people don't understand the difficulties honest & well-intentioned doctors have to face in this country...
Oh, and I am not willing to bear the responsibility of anyone's child but mine. If you were naïve enough to 'love' him so much to have a baby with him, and then were fickle-minded/indecisive enough to divorce him, then you don't deserve me! (Unless, you lost your husband to some tragedy. In that case, I empathise, and apologise).
So moms, thanks, but no thanks.
I am also averse to unduly prolonged long-distance or cyber-relationships as these bring nothing but trouble & heart-ache.
In the end, I look forward to two grey heads juxtaposed in silent & profound understanding.
Que sera sera & all that...
To the FBI/CIA/NSA/Joint Taskforce on Cybercrimes/Whatyouwill:
I was only kidding. Why so serious?
Bwahahahaha-ulp-theygotme! Heeellll.... [forced log off!]
Also, that I am a bit of a misanthrope who thinks human beings are too full of themselves for their own damn good! The ego on them is amazing, yet pitiful...
I wouldn't be surprised (or even sad) to see this self-centred, arrogant, egotistical species drive itself extinct!
Apparently people want something more personal. Okay, here goes: I can't really concentrate on reading/studying if there's good music on. I have to get involved with it... Happy now? :-)
2. You are scientifically oriented.
3. You have very minimal ego/attitude issues; and have a high self-esteem.
4. You are interested in almost everything the Universe has to offer - including (but not exclusive to, and in no particular order) History/Music/Movies/Theatre/Arts/Science/Languages/Linguistics/Maths/Computers/Law/Sports, etc.
(P.S.: I do/will NOT watch/discuss sports -- I just (used to) play sports).
I hate opinionated ignoramuses -- or is that ignorami? (actually it's ignoramuses: the plural is of a singular that is a verb in Latin, not a noun, hence the '-es', and not the '-i' ending; I just did that to sound less uptight! ;-p ) -- who have gargantuan egos & are cry babies to boot!
5. You are very open-minded & an atheist/agnostic.
6. You have very good knowledge of spoken + written English. (I am quite finicky about this! Grammar, punctuation, syntax, semantics, vocabulary etc are (some of) my passions!).
7. You have a good sense of humour, a relatively thick skin (figuratively speaking!) & can tolerate some sarcasm.
8. In short, contact me if you are a level-headed, logical, scientifically-minded, knowledgeable, adaptable, mature woman -- not a teeny, bubbly girl still "searching for myself"; and are looking for a mature long-term relationship.
Do us both a favour: please go through my "explained" answers, as well as the ones marked/deemed imporant, before contacting me, so that we can both save some time, disappointment & perhaps even embarrassment!
(Actually I think I won't get many messages/calls after women finish reading my profile here! :-) But that's OK...)