Being a casual libertine is all about valuing and celebrating human interaction. The sexy stuff just happens as a side effect.
I had a wild youth, so I'll be able to match you story for story if you want, but these days I stay healthy, eat right, and while I'll still debauch, I find that a very occasional drink early in the evening is my limit if I want to wake up sharp the next morning. Partners who put effort into staying healthy, and can keep up, are my ideal choice.
Some of my most interesting friendships started as casual hookups; we give each other relationship advice and support even though we're no longer intimate. It's nice.
I hate that it has to be explicitly stated, but I've done the ethical poly workshops. I understand the concept, process well, and consider myself a fellow traveler, I'm just no longer that earnest a revolutionary. For me, the revolution is the dancing (if you recognize that misquote, we should talk).
Who are you?
It's snarky to say that this section has yet to be determined, but dating should be about broadening one's perspective, and reaching out to people you'll learn from. We can be each other's funhouse mirror, and the more different we are, the more interesting the reflections.
I'm a strong believer that difference doesn't equal incompatibility, but some common ground helps. It would be great if; you really do want to get out and about, you're fascinated with human behavior, and you genuinely enjoy analyzing life almost to death. For all of this, an active life of the mind is the only prerequisite.
I love it when people comment on their match questions. I'd always thought of book burning/flag burning as a simple left wing/right wing litmus test. Recently, one of my matches commented that regardless of politics, books have a real utility, flags are just a symbol, so book burning is more wrong. Original thinking, regardless of whether I agree. It was the reason that I messaged her.
If we're talking physical attributes, I'm told that I have noticeably well defined arms and shoulders.
I ride a bike. Bicycling has been so much a part of my professional life for so long that I sometimes forget how much it's shaped me, physically and mentally. I'm looking forward to doing a couple of short bicycle tours to my favorite local spots when I can.
It took a while, but I've just about read through all the stuff that interests me in the SFPL Main library.
I try to zig when others zag. I keep a nonstandard work schedule so that I can shop when the lines are shorter, commute when the streets are empty, and...
Oh crap, party when there's nobody at the club.
On the other hand, thank goodness for SF's service economy schedule, because there's always somebody partying in the middle of the week. On Wednesdays and Thursdays, you can often find me out and about, dancing with myself quite unironically .
I dislike the unicorn hunter label. It's never been an especially compelling fetish, likely because I got it out of my system in college, but being in a relationship with a bi woman can change that. And I get to make snacks while the girls are busy :)
OK, fine. I'm a little bit kinky too, but I've softpedaled it here. I know how to use a flogger and rope, but chain and complicated fantasy play are my passion. I'm no stranger to play parties. Mission Control is a favorite. Ask about my fl activity if you're interested.
Just because I don't send you a message doesn't mean I'm not interested. It just means that absent the equivalent of a smoldering gaze across a crowded room I can't tell if you are. Do with that what you will, but I'd love to hear from you, I won't take it to mean more than it does.
Note that I'm NOT waiting around by the computer for someone to fall into my lap. If you're not going to make the first move, you'll be more likely to interact with me at local events. See "most private thing..." section for hints on what they might be.