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My self-summary
For my 50th birthday I bought myself an expensive new bicycle and my first tattoo - custom work, upper arm. I think that sums me up remarkably well.

Into astrology, motorcycling, scuba, gaming, bridge, post-industrial shamanism, paganism, chaos magick, occasionally drumming, sometimes photography. NLP practitioner, master practitioner, health practitioner, and certified trainer. Certified Tantra instructor. Hypnotherapist.

You can also find me on a number of other social networking forums under the same name.

I am intense, spiritual, and communicative.

I've been practicing polyamory for over 25 years now and there's pretty much only one very narrow situation in which I'd even consider changing that, even temporarily. If you're specifically looking for monogamy, your time will be better spent elseprofile.

I've been bdsm identified for a similar amount of time, although not all of my relationships include it. My only mandatory fetish is exploration. Both bdsm and polyamory support that very well and so do tantra, shamanic practice, and likely some other things I haven't yet discovered. If you know of any, I'd very much like to hear about them, even if you and I never explore them together.

Also, I'm autistic. Primarily that means I'm creative not just in an "out of the box" sort of way but more in a "what box?" Sort of way, I'm eclectic and somewhat odd by comparison to most people, and I'm honest and direct to a fault, sometimes even terse and blunt and, while I don't always like it, I tend to prefer it and respect it from other people. "No" means "no" and "yes" means "yes" is pretty much the only way I know. When it comes to people, I don't play very many manipulative games aside from any we explicitly negotiate. (Those are fun!)

If you contact me here first then you might never notice I'm any different. Many people don't. But if you've met me in-person at a social event or seen me around then you may have a very slanted perspective on who I am and what I'm about. I've worked hard to develop the social skills I have, (that's a big part of what NLP has been about for me), and I'm generally pretty proud of myself. I do excellently one-on-one but social situations are still typically a challenge for me solo. It takes about 2-3 minutes of one-on-one direct talk with eye contact to calibrate to my nonverbals. If you haven't had those 2-3 minutes, then you are quite likely to be projecting things into my body language that aren't really there. And socially, that causes me problems due to misunderstandings and random stray projections.

The best way to get to know me is to chat a bit online until you're comfortable meeting me in person. I'm happy to meet you in a socially "safe" situation like a munch, a public park, or a cafe and I'll be looking forward to chatting with you directly. But, you know, I'm open to other possibilities as well. Let me know what works for you.
What I’m doing with my life
Working and keeping my head down, playing a few games. Thinking about how to expand my social and interpersonal life, working social media.

Late last year I published my first two music albums.
I’m really good at
Techno-computer stuff. Trance. Direct interpersonal and online communications.
The first things people usually notice about me
Blue eyes. "intensity". During "summer" months, a shaved face & head.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I used to read a lot of scifi. Now I read a lot of internet discussion stuff instead. Terry Pratchett and Jonathan Carrol are favorite authors.

Current favorite movie: Lake Consequence. I watch a lot of movies, though, and tend to see all but the most insipid American releases, either in theatres or netflix. Previous favorite movies: Liquid Sky, Choose Me, Tommy.

Current favorite band: Recent discoveries:Florence + the Machine, Girls Under Glass, Alabama 3, Razed in Black, Chemlab, She Wants Revenge, Sigur Ros, Covenant, Imperative Reaction, Interpol, Crystal Method, Rosetta Stone.

Current favorite food: the "combination" pizza with alfredo sauce from "New York Pizza" in Palo Alto. Basic air popped popcorn comes a close second.
Six things I could never do without
This one is tough. I want to believe that I can do without just about anything aside from the basics.

So... food, sleep, personal challenges and growth, sunlight, time alone, and good, generative, life altering sex. (Not necessarily in that order).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
On a typical Friday night I am
On a dinner and/or movie and/or play date. Otherwise sitting at home in social forums, playing computer games, or working on personal projects.

Possibly out walking or playing Ingress, Pokémon Go, or traveling.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
How about... er, no. Hm...

Last thing I listed here is no longer true. Haven't come up with anything else yet.
You should message me if
At this moment I'm primarily looking for a submissive, possibly a slave or property, a toy, or an lg. If you are or might be one of these and are looking for someone, I'd enjoy hearing from you so please say "hi".

Aside from that, there are many things I'm looking for from and around my relationships. Please feel free to drop me a note saying "hi" if you might be up for a conversation.
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