Into astrology, motorcycling, scuba, gaming, bridge, post-industrial shamanism, paganism, chaos magick, occasionally drumming, sometimes photography. NLP practitioner, master practitioner, health practitioner, and certified trainer. Certified Tantra instructor. Hypnotherapist.
You can also find me on a number of other social networking forums under the same name.
I am intense, spiritual, and communicative.
I've been practicing polyamory for over 25 years now and there's pretty much only one very narrow situation in which I'd even consider changing that, even temporarily. If you're specifically looking for monogamy, your time will be better spent elseprofile.
I've been bdsm identified for a similar amount of time, although not all of my relationships include it. My only mandatory fetish is exploration. Both bdsm and polyamory support that very well and so do tantra, shamanic practice, and likely some other things I haven't yet discovered. If you know of any, I'd very much like to hear about them, even if you and I never explore them together.
Also, I'm autistic. Primarily that means I'm creative not just in an "out of the box" sort of way but more in a "what box?" Sort of way, I'm eclectic and somewhat odd by comparison to most people, and I'm honest and direct to a fault, sometimes even terse and blunt and, while I don't always like it, I tend to prefer it and respect it from other people. "No" means "no" and "yes" means "yes" is pretty much the only way I know. When it comes to people, I don't play very many manipulative games aside from any we explicitly negotiate. (Those are fun!)
If you contact me here first then you might never notice I'm any different. Many people don't. But if you've met me in-person at a social event or seen me around then you may have a very slanted perspective on who I am and what I'm about. I've worked hard to develop the social skills I have, (that's a big part of what NLP has been about for me), and I'm generally pretty proud of myself. I do excellently one-on-one but social situations are still typically a challenge for me solo. It takes about 2-3 minutes of one-on-one direct talk with eye contact to calibrate to my nonverbals. If you haven't had those 2-3 minutes, then you are quite likely to be projecting things into my body language that aren't really there. And socially, that causes me problems due to misunderstandings and random stray projections.
The best way to get to know me is to chat a bit online until you're comfortable meeting me in person. I'm happy to meet you in a socially "safe" situation like a munch, a public park, or a cafe and I'll be looking forward to chatting with you directly. But, you know, I'm open to other possibilities as well. Let me know what works for you.
Late last year I published my first two music albums.
Current favorite movie: Lake Consequence. I watch a lot of movies, though, and tend to see all but the most insipid American releases, either in theatres or netflix. Previous favorite movies: Liquid Sky, Choose Me, Tommy.
Current favorite band: Recent discoveries:Florence + the Machine, Girls Under Glass, Alabama 3, Razed in Black, Chemlab, She Wants Revenge, Sigur Ros, Covenant, Imperative Reaction, Interpol, Crystal Method, Rosetta Stone.
Current favorite food: the "combination" pizza with alfredo sauce from "New York Pizza" in Palo Alto. Basic air popped popcorn comes a close second.
So... food, sleep, personal challenges and growth, sunlight, time alone, and good, generative, life altering sex. (Not necessarily in that order).
Possibly out walking or playing Ingress, Pokémon Go, or traveling.
Last thing I listed here is no longer true. Haven't come up with anything else yet.
Aside from that, there are many things I'm looking for from and around my relationships. Please feel free to drop me a note saying "hi" if you might be up for a conversation.