59Saunderstown, United States
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My self-summary
For me, life is a fascinating and never ending exploration and journey, and I have always had a deep drive to understand as much about life and ourselves as I can. I am excited to learn anything new, and am especially energized by intelligent and intuitive conversation where we try to unravel the mysteries of the universe, love, and ourselves, which includes exploring philosophy, psychology, spirituality, cosmology and nature. I see reality television, choosing extremist sides in games of political dodge ball, and celebrities as purveyors of wisdom mostly as diverting our awareness from a more real and fulfilling world, though I indulge in plenty of my own distractions, not being so pure myself. :)

I try to think expansively and openly, and sometimes that makes me “contrary” or iconoclastic because I often question dogma and the way things are. I am very easy going though, and when I challenge things, it is often with humor as a good way to share my point of view, and I abhor being offensive or rude. I laugh and smile, sometime too often, because just shifting our perspective slightly can reveal how much of what we all do (including me) can seem so silly.

As a kid, I loved reading and learning about science, and remember spending time laying in kitchen chairs with their backs placed on the floor under the table, imagining being in a rocket that was lifting off on adventures. Back then, science was my key to understanding the wonders of the world and universe. As I became older, I also became fascinated with the mysteries of our minds and things more ethereal. I appreciate both the rational/logical and the intuitive/emotional and I love the feelings that the clouds, sky, waves and nature evoke, simply from what they are, and the beauty I see in the processes that create them. Perhaps that is why my fascination and appreciation for artistic expression and creativity grew as well. I love museums and art galleries, and have a special affinity for contemporary art. After spending time absorbing and experiencing the works in a museum or gallery, it is amazing how my perception of the world outside is affected for some time afterwards. And I indulge in some creativity of my own, though I tend to hold those things somewhat more privately.

Perhaps what I wrote seems amorphous, and it would be better to simply say that the best of the above experiences can often be found when simply sitting quietly on a jetty, hiking an autumn trail, wandering a museum, kayaking on a cove, listening to music, sailing on a sound, having a good yoga class, or reading on the porch on a warm afternoon…not thinking, being in the moment feeling the sun and wind, absorbed in watching the clouds and water, and feeling a deep connection with someone.

I hope that I will meet and share an intriguing and fun journey with someone who understands and is perhaps fascinated by some of the same things I am. I would love someone with whom to travel more and explore places, and of course, each other. It would be wonderful to easily transition from illuminating discussions, to comfortable silence, to living in the present, to sublime physical and emotional moments of reaching and touching the deepest places within each other.

I believe I have learned some simple things that are essential for the wonderful experience of becoming closer and more open with each other, such as using our attention and awareness to sense and feel more clearly what is going on within the person we are with. Noticing that you could use a shoulder massage after a long day, or offering to get a cup of tea when you are already cozy on the couch, or simply caring enough to ask how you are when you seem to be out of sorts are among the simple grains of sand that may eventually build a beautiful beach.

I know that it is more than just a dream. I have been fortunate to experience enough glimpses of the mysterious things we call connection and resonance to be confident that what I am hoping for does exist, and I am unwilling to let go of the dream that someday that “je ne sais quoi” feeling will happen in a profound way with someone very special.

I know this profile sounds too much like I...I...I…, but I guess that is the nature of trying to paint a bit of the picture of who I am. Together I think you would find that I am not just in my own head, and would be surprised how present in the moment and aware of you I am. I still find it somewhat disturbing to go to someplace as simple as the market, and as I am walking around, see how many people pass by without ever looking up to share an acknowledging glance, a nod of the head or smile.

And, after saying all of this, I wonder if it still ends up mostly being in the hands of fate, and if fate will be generous enough to eventually allow that dream to come true.
What I’m doing with my life
Sheesh, talk about being put on the spot.
I’m really good at
Seeing things from many different and often innovative perspectives… Seeing someone without so many of my own filters, and am able to go a little deeper, more easily because of that.
The first things people usually notice about me
Is that in personal interactions, my attention and awareness are frequently in that moment, and I am really there. I think of myself as very relaxed and comfortable, but my focus, especially discussing fascinating topics at times, can portend a certain quiet intensity.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Over the years I have enjoyed everything from Joseph Campbell to Robert Heinlein (science fiction author) to Carl Jung, to books about meditation and zen and so many others. I enjoy writings from anyone who is inquisitive and an explorer of our beings and the world… Over time it becomes easier to see so many common threads running though what I read from many different sources that it does feel that out of that an understanding of underlying truths does begin to emerge.

So many good movies… Let’s try some like “The Constant Gardener”, “Fearless” with Jeff Bridges, Cat on a Hot Tin Roof. And I even like the old spaghetti westerns like “The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly”. I can actually discuss how that movie, which some people see only as a violence fest, is actually an exploration of what happens as a result of different men’s characters when all social limitations are removed.
Six things I could never do without
God, how I hate "top ten" lists of anything. I just don’t feel it is necessary to categorize and rank everything in life.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Wanting to do something productive and meaningful with my life. Not for recognition, but for the sense of feeling as if I've made a positive contribution to a hopefully better world in the future.
On a typical Friday night I am
Usually settled in for a cozy evening after the week. I am more of an early day person, so I may be finalizing plans for what I will do the following morning.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Wow, this one reminds me of going to confession as a kid, where I would make things up rather than tell the priest what I was really up to. I guess that says something about my sense of privacy, and may indicate why I haven't been back since I was a kid. Of course, you would not be a stranger, and I know the importance of being very open with myself, and with each other in order to be closer..
You should message me if
You think perhaps the elements of experiencing a real connection and resonance may potentially be there for us, and are hoping as I am for some extraordinary times ahead with someone precious.
The two of us