tenderoutlaw
64 Berkeley, United States
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My self-summary
The most exciting thing since Occupy, or maybe even in decades:
The worldwide Women's Marches on January 21 !

I used to have a long, insightful, literate self-summary. I erased it. Why? My profile made me sound like every other nice, sensitive guy. I got many responses, but few from women with a hunger for justice and a truly transformative vision of society, and who were attracted by similar ideals in me. It may there aren't many people like that on these sites.

I see myself as communicative, romantic, attentive, adventurous, playful, funny, educated, literate. As a career preschool teacher I get to express my strongly nurturant side; I love to travel and dance, and I seek a long-term, monogamous, and hopefully life, partnership. But the one I seek will love these qualities and also be passionate about justice...

Were you at the Women's March--or would you have liked to have joined it? That would tell me a lot. It was inspiring to feel women's power, the demand and yearning for justice, equality and change, with many hundreds of thousands participating. I hope to hear from a woman of similar mind, who'd be enthused to meet a man sharing her very progressive values and dreams. I seek the unconventional one, a world citizen, a feminist with a vision of democracy (we don't have one!), a yearning for social transformation, a sense of connection with all the world's peoples, and a hopefulness about our future. Are you also non-acquisitive, maybe even a bit bohemian? If so, please write. I cannot view who has "liked" me.

Many women are appealing in a variety of ways. And chemistry is hard to predict. I hope you are kind, compassionate, sensual, affectionate, educated and adventurous. I've sharpened the focus here to the values and visions we share. Let's surprise each other!
What I’m doing with my life
I spent Thanksgiving week joining the water protectors camped at Standing Rock resisting the Dakota pipeline. I may have to return now!! Last summer I trekked solo for 3 weeks across the back-country of Romania, adventuring, camping, hostelling, meeting amazingly hospitable people, and exploring prehistoric archaeological sites. It was the 19th country I've traveled in and whose people I've learned about. I spend my days teaching and caring for preschoolers.

In general: Watching raindrops on green leaves, writing, frolicking in warm waters, visiting museums, galleries and festivals; attending theater & live-music performances; researching science-y things and early education issues; supporting certain antiracist/economic justice environmental/human rights/ anti-war campaigns; enjoying Asian foods; playing basketball; guiding my grown daughter; learning languages; dreaming of bootstrap travel through lands near and far; reading, dancing, making inspired and/or literary puns.

I get around readily by bicycle and public transportation, choosing not to own a car. I could relocate, for the right person!

My activism includes support for justice and liberation for Palestine. I endorse the Boycott, Divestment and Sanctions movement.
I’m really good at
Nurturing young children, supporting their parents, intuiting others' feelings, counseling, appreciating stories and poems, writing, linking disparate ideas and patterns, creating adventure (shoestring) travel, camping, exploring science-y topics. I can also identify songs from the first 2, maybe 3 notes--funny, huh.
I get around by bike, transit and on foot, having chosen not to own a car.
The first things people usually notice about me
Curly hair (when it's longer), twinkly eyes, warmth, confidence, enthusiasm and gentleness. Humor. I'm easy to be around. Oh, OK, I'm actually only 5' 9 1/2". On a good day.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
My favorite novels are Song of Solomon and Alain-Fournier's The Wanderer. I like nonfiction/science/biographies such as Jared Diamond, Brian Greene, Edward Wilson, Richard Feynman, Mary Leakey, Annie Dillard, Tracy Kidder, Richard Leakey. Hope you're fond of some of these: Richard Dawkins, Sam Harris, Howard Zinn, Rebecca Solnit, Arundhati Roy, Christian Parenti, Katha Pollitt, Naomi Klein, Amy Goodman, Greg Pallast, Noam Chomsky. Lucretius' On the Nature of Things is a taproot for the Renaissance and for enduring secularist/humanist thought. Recently, I liked Swerve by Stephen Greenblatt, and Julian Jaynes' book on the neurological origin of consciousness.

In fiction, Alain-Fournier's Le Grand Meaulnes is my fave. Kingsolver, Alice Walker, LeGuin, Toni Morrison, Nin, Crowley, Stegner, Piccoult, Hartup, Fleming, Proulx, Naipul, Atwood, Rushdie, Munro, Marian Zimmer Bradley, Octavia Butler, Kim Stanley Robinson...

Film? Fairly recently, Arrival, Spotlight, Birdman, Wild, Life of Pi and Grand Hotel Budapest. I also liked Gravity, which was powerful despite some treacly moments, sci-fi with a female protag. Music? Poetry? Let's enthuse over our favorites together.
Drinking? maybe white wine occasionally, with a restaurant meal.
The six things I could never do without
My friends
Light and shadows
Bodies of water and the sound of it flowing
Good writing
Music and a stirring beat
My social conscience and activism
Touch, texture; silky skin and other tactile delights
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What makes a good relationship, and how my love and I would play. How children develop, and how to best raise and teach them. The places I want to travel and share with my love. The world's problems and how we can help transform our societies so they are just, equitable, humane, nonsexist. The science of how consciousness unfolds and functions.
On a typical Friday night I am
Out with friends, reading reading reading, dancing at Ashkenaz, watching the sunset, seeing a play, playing pickup basketball, writing my i'll get to it soon book about early education, manning the barricades, staring musingly into the middle distance, cleaning my apartment, dreaming of true love.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Some mystery is a really good thing. Come find me.
You should message me if
You seek an enduring relationship; if you're fit & healthy; if you're a freethinker; if you're progressive. Subversive, even.

(Optional): I'd love it if you're one of the 3% of US residents who identify as atheist, or the 4% who identify as agnostic.

Beyond that, if you're creative, sensual and playful with a sense of style and allure (maybe even wear dresses with flair), and are GGG, it'd be wonderful.
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