tenderoutlaw
64 Berkeley, United States
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My self-summary
I used to have a long, insightful, literate self-summary. I've erased it. Why? My profile talked about my qualities. I sounded like every other nice, sensitive guy. True, I AM communicative, romantic, attentive, adventurous, playful, funny, educated, literate. As a career preschool teacher I get to express my strongly nurturant side; I love to travel and dance, and I seek a long-term, faithful, monogamous, and hopefully life, -partnership.

Now I simply hope to hear from women enthused to meet a man who shares their very progressive values and dreams. I seek a world citizen, with a vision of democracy (we aren't living in one!), a yearning for social transformation, a sense of connection with all the world's peoples, and a hopefulness about our future.

Of course, I seek other qualities in her beyond these ideals. Are you also kind, affectionate, sensual, compassionate, fit and literate?

Many women are appealing in a variety of ways. And chemistry is hard to predict. But I've sharpened the focus here to the traits most desirable to me. Let's surprise each other. Let's see what happens.
What I’m doing with my life
I spent Thanksgiving week joining the water protectors encamped at Standing Rock resisting the Dakota pipeline. Last summer I trekked solo for 3 weeks across the backcountry of Romania, adventuring, camping, hostelling, meeting amazingly hospitable people, and exploring prehistoric archaeological sites. It was the 19th country I've traveled in and whose people I've learned about.

In general: Watching raindrops on green leaves, teaching in a fine preschool; writing, frolicking in warm waters, visiting museums, galleries and festivals; attending theater & live-music performances; researching science-y things and early education issues; supporting certain antiracist/economic justice environmental/human rights/ anti-war campaigns; enjoying Asian foods; playing basketball; guiding my grown daughter; learning languages; camping on my Sierra acreage; dreaming of bootstrap travel through lands near and far; reading, dancing, making inspired and/or literary puns.

I get around readily by bicycle and public transportation, choosing not to own a car. I could relocate, for the right person!

My activism includes support for justice and liberation for Palestine. I endorse the Boycott, Divestment and Sanctions movement.
I’m really good at
Nurturing young children, supporting their parents, intuiting others' feelings, counseling, appreciating stories and poems, writing, linking disparate ideas and patterns, creating adventure (shoestring) travel, camping, exploring science-y topics. I can also identify songs from the first 2, maybe 3 notes--funny, huh.
I get around by bike, transit and on foot, having chosen not to own a car.
The first things people usually notice about me
Curly hair (when it's longer), twinkly eyes, warmth, confidence, enthusiasm and gentleness. Humor. I'm easy to be around. Oh, OK, I'm actually only 5' 9 1/2". On a good day.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
My favorite novels are Song of Solomon and Alain-Fournier's The Wanderer. I like nonfiction/science/biographies such as Jared Diamond, Brian Greene, Edward Wilson, Richard Feynman, Mary Leakey, Annie Dillard, Tracy Kidder, Richard Leakey. Hope you're fond of some of these: Richard Dawkins, Sam Harris, Howard Zinn, Rebecca Solnit, Arundhati Roy, Christian Parenti, Katha Pollitt, Naomi Klein, Amy Goodman, Greg Pallast, Noam Chomsky. Lucretius' On the Nature of Things is a taproot for the Renaissance and for enduring secularist/humanist thought. Recently, I liked Swerve by Stephen Greenblatt, and Julian Jaynes' book on the neurological origin of consciousness.

In fiction, Alain-Fournier's Le Grand Meaulnes is my fave. Kingsolver, Alice Walker, LeGuin, Toni Morrison, Nin, Crowley, Stegner, Piccoult, Hartup, Fleming, Proulx, Naipul, Atwood, Rushdie, Munro, Marian Zimmer Bradley, Octavia Butler, Kim Stanley Robinson...

Film? Fairly recently, Arrival, Spotlight, Birdman, Wild, Life of Pi and Grand Hotel Budapest. I also liked Gravity, which was powerful despite some treacly moments, sci-fi with a female protag. Music? Poetry? Let's enthuse over our favorites together.
Drinking? maybe white wine occasionally, with a restaurant meal.
The six things I could never do without
My friends
Light and shadows
Bodies of water and the sound of it flowing
Good writing
Music and a stirring beat
My social conscience and activism
Touch, texture; silky skin and other tactile delights
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What makes a good relationship, and how my love and I would play. How children develop, and how to best raise and teach them. The places I want to travel and share with my love. The world's problems and how we can help transform our societies so they are just, equitable, humane, nonsexist. The science of how consciousness unfolds and functions.
On a typical Friday night I am
Out with friends, reading reading reading, dancing at Ashkenaz, watching the sunset, seeing a play, playing pickup basketball, writing my i'll get to it soon book about early education, manning the barricades, staring musingly into the middle distance, cleaning my apartment, dreaming of true love.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Some mystery is a really good thing. Come find me.
You should message me if
You seek an enduring relationship; if you're fit & healthy; if you're a freethinker; if you're progressive. Subversive, even.

(Optional): I'd love it if you're one of the 3% of US residents who identify as atheist, or the 4% who identify as agnostic.

Beyond that, if you're creative, sensual and playful with a sense of style and allure (maybe even wear dresses with flair), and are GGG, it'd be wonderful.
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