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My self-summary
Three decades and seven years ago, my parents brought forth on this continent a new child, conceived in liberty and dedicated to the propositions that all persons are created equal, that the burrito is glorious, that costume parties are awesome, and that fighting for justice is everyone's responsibility and requires healthy doses of love, humor, and joy in your life.

Now I am engaged in a great war to see whether any person so conceived and dedicated can endure without becoming a completely pretentious douche. It is towards this end that I seek the companionship of those who want to suck the marrow of life, fight the good fight, engage in silliness, and call bullshit on each other.

I like to understand how things work. I am very interested in how the brain works and how it works against our best interests. I like to build things. I like to talk about big ideas and the nitty gritty that stands in the way of implementing them. I like to dance. I like to flirt. I like to learn about people and what they're passionate about.

Before you proceed: I am polyamorous (see related: ethical nonmonogamy). I'm currently seeing a wonderful woman who is also on this site. If you're not open to this, then we're probably not a good match, but best of luck to you!
What I’m doing with my life
Still figuring that out, but I like helping people and being around people, so I do a lot of that. Ideally I will find a job where I'm earning money while fighting for social justice. Right now I'm a commercial litigation lawyer, so I have a ways to go.
I’m really good at
My French toast is really damn good.
The first things people usually notice about me
It'd probably be my smile or laugh. Lately it might be one of the several Bernie shirts I might be wearing. Otherwise I have no idea. What did you notice?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Predominantly nonfiction. I just got into audiobooks, which I'm kicking myself for not doing before. It's not as good as reading the book yourself, but holy crap it makes roadtrips more productive. I listened to Ta-Nehisi Coates's book Between the World and Me. Twice in one day. It set my brain on fire. Love the prose and the truth in it.

Movies: Used to be a fan of everything under the sun, but I've gotten pickier with age. Faves include Die Hard, Shawshank, Swingers, Office Space, Fight Club, American Beauty, Children of Men, The Princess Bride, Bullworth, Ace Ventura, Tropic Thunder, The Dark Night.

Music: Too many to list, but I like all music (and art generally) more if it expresses the artist's personal experience and connects to change the artist wants to see in society. And if it has a good beat to dance around to. For the past several months, I've been going gaga for the Hamilton cast recording. Also, while I really enjoy live music and dancing, I am not an audiophile or whatever the word is for people who know the cool bands and are going to shows constantly. I love having friends like that and tagging along with them and learning about these new bands, but I'm just not the person who discovers them.

Food: All of it. Give it to me. I do love a good burrito. I'm still waiting for an Indian burrito that uses a naan-like tortilla. If you know of one, please share. And I love beer. I marvel that we're living in a golden age for beer. Seriously, in all of human history, there has never been better beer. And each year it gets better.
The six things I could never do without
Passion. Passion. PASSION.
Intimate connections (friendship, love, lust)
Learning and other forms of discovery (e.g. lectures, documentaries, travel, discussion, debate). I'm super-curious about the how's and why's of the world.
Something to fix or improve
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to make things better. I know that's not descriptive, but I really just think about how to make just about anything better. Or at least anything I can understand. For example, why do people put "tl;dr" summaries at the end of really long posts? Why not put it at the beginning?
On a typical Friday night I am
Yes, I am. [nods solemnly]
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
You should message me if
You want to meet in person to see whether there's a spark. I'm not asking for a private meeting in a dark alley - just a simple meeting in a public setting. I can tell more about our potential chemistry in 5 minutes of in-person conversation than in dozens of emails. Hopefully you have that confidence in your judgment as well.