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My self-summary
Middle-aged gay male living the life (well, in part) on the West Coast after early life in that heartland that we call the Midwest. I like travel, sunsets, down-to-earth people... blah, blah – but hey, I really do like traveling to the Sierra Nevada in the warm months when you can hike, backpack, and take pictures without worrying about dressing for frostbite if you stay out for an hour too long. Back in SF, I stay pretty active with tennis, running, cultural events, playing pool, and sitting and reading in a coffee shop (yes, I consider reading an activity!). I especially enjoy good, in-depth conversations with close friends and partners. That's become too often marginalized in our modern, online society.
What I’m doing with my life
Well, I'm at a pretty good point in my career and living at a great location in San Fran – how could one complain? – but am missing that one vital ingredient, which is a very significant other man to spend time and perhaps life with. I really enjoy travel, but noticed in my last overseas trip that there was a distinct melancholy when I was traveling alone. After moving out here from the Midwest and taking a detour via a brief episode into another career, I came back to what I was doing before (environmental geology & consulting), realizing that's where I should have stayed all along. I'm happy here with some great friends in my life, and was until recently active in a community singing group (that's where the tenor in my username comes from) as well as tennis, reading, playing pool, backpacking, and exploring, among other things. How about you?
I’m really good at
Ping pong! Too bad nobody plays this wonderful game – San Francisco is too crowded to have space for tables! Not too bad at pool & tennis either.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm somewhat reserved, but friendly and open to new people and new experiences. I'm interested in substance more than image, am a good conversationalist, and like in-depth conversation rather than gossip. Somewhat analytical in outlook based on my background in the sciences. Is anyone else out there maybe a little like this?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
This has to be an abbreviated list, obviously. Fave books include Independent People, Howards End, A Life in Full, Life and Times of the Thunderbolt Kid, Cadillac Desert, The Control of Nature, the Dune trilogy, The Long Walk, among others.

Movies or TV novellas include The Usual Suspects, The Magnificent Ambersons, Inside Man, The Wire, Breaking Bad, Bird Cage, Victor/Victoria, Easy A.

Musical tastes are eclectic and encompass soul, rock, classical, & jazz including Ben Folds, Tony Tone Toni, Prefab Sprout, Human League, Madonna, Hall & Oates, Stevie Wonder, Steely Dan, Tower of Power, Jethro Tull, Joni Mitchell, Curtis Mayfield, Aretha Franklin, Beatles, Smokey Robinson, Caetano Veloso, Gilberto Gil, Tom Jobim, Thelonius Monk, Duke Ellington, Lambert, Hendricks & Ross, Leonard Bernstein, Cole Porter, Rodgers & Hart, Harry Warren, Irving Berlin, the Gershwins, Scott Joplin, Stravinsky, Carl Orff, Paul Hindemith, Debussy, Ravel, Holst, Brahms, Handel, Bach.

Food – pretty open except for fried food; love most of what's offered in Italian, Thai, Japanese, & California cuisines.
Six things I could never do without
Music, tennis, coffee, backpacking, reading, and good friends/conversation (not necessarily in that order). I'm glad they asked for six, because nothing else comes close to those 6!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Where we're all headed, as individuals and as a society. I want to find someone special to help make it all worthwhile and fulfilling.
On a typical Friday night I am
Kicking back and playing pool, or watching a high-class cinematic offering.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Um, let me get back to you. It wouldn't be private if it goes on the interwebs, right?
You should message me if
any of this piques your interest. Especially if you are interested in good conversation about the arts, current affairs, history. And especially if you like cafes.
The two of us