65Auburn, United States
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My self-summary
My whole profile was edited or rewritten on 9/22/14, so this is the real me as of right now.

My wife, of almost 25 years, died in November of 2010. I am looking for a companion who understands loss and is not threatened by the past.

I am currently in treatment for a rare cancer with no clear picture of life expectancy and therefore I am currently living life to the fullest.

I love to sail in San Francisco Bay. I currently am certified to skipper sailboats up to 50'. I enjoy sharing my love of sailing with those on board and commonly have 4-7 on board who are novices and first time sailors.
What I’m doing with my life
What I am doing with my life is very simple -- moving forward one step at a time and trying not to step on the alligators. Life is ever changing and none of the plans I have made over the last 30 years have come out as expected. So I am now looking at life for today, this week, this month, and the next 1-2 years. I am trying to do the things that were put off until there was enough time or money. I now know that there is always enough time and money for the important things and if you wait they may never happen.

Most importantly I am seeking a new friends and hopefully a lover/life companion. As part of doing that I am trying out various meetups and social groups.

I am currently exercising twice a week through the Well-Fit program offered by Auburn Racquet Club, which conveniently is just a few blocks from my home. Designed for those with and recovering from cancer it is a great program and my strength, stamina, and range of motion are all improving (I was getting a little slow on the winches).

My life is a bit complicated by my cancer. I wear a pressure garment from toe to chest but you cannot tell that I am physically limited unless you ask me to jump over a fence. I am in continuous cycles of chemotherapy which is surprisingly holding the cancer stable (with a bit of downward slipping). But I constantly confound the nurses - I look so healthy and vibrant that they make comments about how nice it is to be past chemo when I come in for my blood draws. Through good diet and taking just the right supplements my immune levels are now good enough I can freely go to large events and participate in events in a crowded room.

I am not looking for sympathy or a nurse! I am especially interested in someone who has been holding back from a relationship because of a perceived flaw. I still consider myself active, comfortable in my finances, and a fantastic partner in every way that counts. I am looking for someone who sees themselves in the same way, having accepted their flaws and/or limitations. Lets all be honest at 63 years into a wonderful life not everything is going to be working perfectly, cancer or not.
I’m really good at
I'm really good at problem solving and dealing with practical matters. I'm not so good at empathy and showing my emotions. Both areas I'm really good at trying to improve in. I'm really good at getting things accomplished and providing the right level of support friends, colleagues, and groups I am working with.
The first things people usually notice about me
When people first meet me in a crowded room I normally don't stand out, on purpose. After a while people notice that I am an intent listener. Afterward the first meeting most people remember me as someone who could talk intelligently on many subjects. I also usually get remember for being polite and doing something extra that was helpful.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Music - anything but rap.
Food - fine natural or organic foods prepared by someone who cares about food as I do. Fine dining in restaurants is a favorite pastime.
Movies - Romantic Comedies, Science Fiction, and Heart Breakers (my feminine side comes out watching movies. I would love to get back into West Coast Swing dancing - with the right partner.
Six things I could never do without
Not necessarily in the order of importance the first six things that come to mind that I could never do without are:
Love and companionship;
A car for traveling throughout California;
Water for my thirst, to kayak or sail upon, and to immerse myself in to relieve tension or dive into to explore a different world;
A home that can hold a gathering of friends, a candle light dinner for two, and is an environment that suits my inner and outer selves;
A job that I feel helps society and enriches me either philosophically or monetarily;
And the ability to always find the silver lining in any situation.
On a typical Friday night I am
I am preparing to spend the weekend sailing or attending a concert or event - or just relaxing for a "stay at home weekend".
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Ask when we are together -- I am an open book to the ones that care about me.
You should message me if
If my profile and the way I have answered the questions strikes a chord with you, please message me - particularly if you are a widow and cancer has affected your life.
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