My wife, of almost 25 years, died in November of 2010. I am looking for a companion who understands loss and is not threatened by the past.
I am currently in treatment for a rare cancer with no clear picture of life expectancy and therefore I am currently living life to the fullest.
I love to sail in San Francisco Bay. I currently am certified to skipper sailboats up to 50'. I enjoy sharing my love of sailing with those on board and commonly have 4-7 on board who are novices and first time sailors.
Most importantly I am seeking a new friends and hopefully a lover/life companion. As part of doing that I am trying out various meetups and social groups.
I am currently exercising twice a week through the Well-Fit program offered by Auburn Racquet Club, which conveniently is just a few blocks from my home. Designed for those with and recovering from cancer it is a great program and my strength, stamina, and range of motion are all improving (I was getting a little slow on the winches).
My life is a bit complicated by my cancer. I wear a pressure garment from toe to chest but you cannot tell that I am physically limited unless you ask me to jump over a fence. I am in continuous cycles of chemotherapy which is surprisingly holding the cancer stable (with a bit of downward slipping). But I constantly confound the nurses - I look so healthy and vibrant that they make comments about how nice it is to be past chemo when I come in for my blood draws. Through good diet and taking just the right supplements my immune levels are now good enough I can freely go to large events and participate in events in a crowded room.
I am not looking for sympathy or a nurse! I am especially interested in someone who has been holding back from a relationship because of a perceived flaw. I still consider myself active, comfortable in my finances, and a fantastic partner in every way that counts. I am looking for someone who sees themselves in the same way, having accepted their flaws and/or limitations. Lets all be honest at 63 years into a wonderful life not everything is going to be working perfectly, cancer or not.
Food - fine natural or organic foods prepared by someone who cares about food as I do. Fine dining in restaurants is a favorite pastime.
Movies - Romantic Comedies, Science Fiction, and Heart Breakers (my feminine side comes out watching movies. I would love to get back into West Coast Swing dancing - with the right partner.
Love and companionship;
A car for traveling throughout California;
Water for my thirst, to kayak or sail upon, and to immerse myself in to relieve tension or dive into to explore a different world;
A home that can hold a gathering of friends, a candle light dinner for two, and is an environment that suits my inner and outer selves;
A job that I feel helps society and enriches me either philosophically or monetarily;
And the ability to always find the silver lining in any situation.