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My self-summary name is Jeff and I seek love, sharing, laughter, conversation...substance...connection. Is there any of that out there? Let be perfectly clear I am POLYAMOUROUS, VEGAN ANTI-CIVILIZATION, RADICAL FEMINIST, ARTIST, and AWAKE. You do not have to be anything just open minded. I am in one committed non-monogamous relationship of 22 years and 1 of a year. We share 4 children. My mind is free from the lie of this toxic infected culture. Like Camus said,

“The only way to deal with an unfree world is to become so absolutely free that your very existence is an act of rebellion.”

And I say,

"Rage against the onslaught of enslavement
Brighten the light of being
Look into the darkness of domination
See with being made whole
Fight the forces that slice us up
Embrace what connects us to life
Share the nourishment of living and dying
Walk walk walk the path of being"

The questions I ask you is; Can you share love, are you open to deep connection, and do you seek nourishing relationships? If you can answer yes...we should have coffee immediately 😃

I seek the truly open minded, sharing, poly friendly, passionate, intelligent, radical feminist, rebellious subversive, and humorous people to share my life and love with. To act as a tribe of people caring and sharing.

I work from a position of total respect. Everyone matters. I spend my time examining, depicting, thinking, conversing, working with youth and at times teaching philosophy at a college, loving my family, and exercising hard! I am a verbose, head full, passionate, empathizing, deep thinker, tall (6'6"), fit (a strong 190lbs...P90X Graduate!!! Twice!!! P90X2 twice!! Did P90X3 three times. I did Rushfit and it was awesome. I just finished the Utlimate P90X Hybrid. I feel amazing. I follow a deep spiritual practice of meditation and yoga.

I am POLYAMOROUS and PROUD. I see committed non monogamy is the way. I know, how controversial! It is really not. I don't even like the word polyamory, I prefer "committed non-monogamy". I am a father of four future resisters to the corpratocracy. Radical feminism is my guide and as a Male Ally to women I am learning to listen, be silent, and understand my male privilege. I renounce patriarchy and ALL violence against women and children. It is an absolute moral wrong. I am a mercurial, complex, compassionate, and deep thinker. I have a serious stoic face I am told until I smile (whatever!). My health and well being is very important to me as is my spirit. I love yoga and it is part of my weekly workouts and I am mindful of everything I do.

That is the SIMPLE SHORT version. You can stop now if you like, but if you are interested or like reading, please read on into my essay...

I work to live a life without ownership or possession of people or the living world. I believe in sharing love, life, and deep connections. Few seem to want that without the possessiveness and insecurity that follows. The narrow keep the blinders on and the same mistakes get made over and over again. The psychology and the people in this toxic culture see everything as a commodity - serial monogamy is no different. Everyone weighs everything and need to possess at all costs. They do not live for love and balance, they seek only consumption. I understand the mono view extremely well and get that the training is very very deep - patriarchy. I do however, oppose it, challenge it, and argue against it for many reasons (perhaps we can converse about it.).

The two questions I get the most are often are; Why am I on here? And what is polyamory? Both excellent questions. As for why am I here. The simple answer is for CONNECTION, not just sex or as you young people call it, “hook ups”. I seek substantive relationships that are nourishing and meaningful. That can mean anything the connection expresses. I am open to sharing love, intimacy, friendship, conversation, commitment, understanding, ideas, and life long caring. Commitment!? People often say, how can you do that. Okay, it's like not I am defying physics, but I am defying this deformed programmed culture. Its called sharing, responsibility, and loving.

People in this system of life only seek possession and ownership. It is toxic and ludicrous. We must stop possessing and dominating and share our love and our lives. This is what nourishment is and sharing is the key! This leads nicely to the the second question, what is polyamory? As I said, I don't like labels and polyamory is definitely one I don't care for. It is about committed non-monogamy - multiple loving relationships. Seeking love from "many sources" makes such sense just as giving love to many nourishes human existence. Those who have been in long term relationships know how it goes and you need to share your life. Why would I discard love when I can share love? We believe in sharing love not possessing it, which many seem to think is the only way to love, at least until they divorce ;-)

We have been together 20 years and have learned what keeps love alive, sharing it. I "live thoughtfully, love recklessly." By reckless I mean freely, unreservedly, unconditionally. I am hopeless passionate romantic and in a committed open non-monogamous relationship.

Working to be open and honest with each other has made our lives so much more real and true. We love each other so deeply and we understand that no one person can be everything that we need to love others and share commitments. I understand that is an absolute turn off for many, the "standard narrative" is strong, but I always encourage the opening of one’s mind and see if there is a connection worth exploring.

Philosophically, I am a slave to industrial civilization and so are you. I am a militant radical that survives in the conventional world and works subvert the banality, domination, propaganda, and abuse that clouds our hearts and minds and allows to think atrocity is commonplace. Check out my radioblog:

I am seek "honne" (Japanese for the truth) a world of "tateme" (Japanese for the surface). People do not want to see beyond the tateme (See Upton Sinclair quote below). I work to see truth in sharing all transparently. TRUTH and NOTHING BUT THE TRUTH!!!! Intense! Right?

Here are some quotes that illuminate and stir me to reflection and working for a moral existence:

"It's difficult to get a man to understand something when his salary depends on his not understand it."
- Upton Sinclair

"None are more hopelessly enslaved than those who falsely believe they are free."
- Goethe

"There are two ways to conquer and enslave a nation. One is by the sword. The other by debt."
- John Adams

"Love is an ideal, marriage a real thing; confusion of the real with the ideal never goes unpunished."
- Goethe

"When the past no longer illuminates the future, the spirit walks in darkness."
- Tocqueville

"To fear love is to fear life, and those who fear life are already three parts dead."
- Bertrand Russell

"We are enriched not by what we possess, but by what we can do without." Immanuel Kant

"He is richest who is content with least, for contentment is the wealth of nature."
- Socrates

"Men are rapists, batterers, plunderers, killers; these same men are religious prophets, poets, heroes, figures of romance, adventure, accomplishment, figures ennobled by tragedy and defeat. Men have claimed the earth, called it 'Her'. Men ruin Her. Men have airplanes, guns, bombs, poisonous gases, weapons so perverse and deadly that they defy any authentically human imagination." -- Andrea Dworkin
What I’m doing with my life
Thinking, resisting this toxic life system, writing, and talking. Devoted to the living world and it inhabitance. Working to dismantle civilization, exploitation, possession, and power anyway I can. My partner and I are working to reindigenize our lives.
I’m really good at
Thinking deeply, learning, loving, being a "master of caring", laughing, joking, being honest, open, thoughtful, kind, being rejected, making an argument, writing, reading people, challenging assumptions, verbally expressing myself, and enduring the trauma of industrial civilization with a smile.
The first things people usually notice about me
My height, I am 6'6"
My smile
My manly curly hair
My red beard
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
The most important books:
Darkness Is Not Now
Forbidden Dimensions: Primitivism, Prehistory, and the Posthuman Era
Against Civilization
Sex at Dawn
End Game vol 1 & 2
Deep Green Resistance
Unlearn, Rewild
The Necessity of Madness
A Brief History of Thought
All Things Shinning
Twilight of American Culture
Psychology's Ghost
Loneliness as a Way of Life
The Sane Society
The Art of Being
The Myth of Mental Illness
The Medicalization of Everyday Life
The Brave New World

I love documentaries. Here is a great website to watch important documentaries free:
War on Kids
Subconscious Wars
End of the Road
Forks Over Knives
The Corporation
End of Suburbia
Slavery: The 21 Century Evil
Gas Hole
The Story of Our Enslavement
Age of Stupid
The Crisis of Civilization
The Fuck-It Point
Six things I could never do without
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The meaning of life, the coming collapse, fighting back, creating a culture of resistance against patriarchy and civilization, the human condition, alienation, understanding, connection, compassion, forgiveness, clarity, wisdom, and freedom.
On a typical Friday night I am
Relaxing and spending time with those I love and enjoy.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I secretly love all babies and puppies.
You should message me if
If you're a person seeking nourishment and sharing. If you are seeking a deep abiding connection and do not wish to merely possess, but open to seeing something more than what we are trained to see. You love to laugh and share your life, your interests, and your mind. At the very least have some excellent conversation. Read some books, poetry, write a book together or paint a picture with our connection. Let's go for walks, hike, or run some stairs! Bring it! Can you share love? I hope so ;-)
The two of us