Let me say that again:
I'm fat - no, really; this is changing, slowly, but I will likely always be fat to some extent.
I'm also physically very masculine; hairy, often sweaty, muscular - but my masculinity is not of the fragile type so often seen in popular culture.
I'm married; we are not monogamous, and have been together since 1993, married since 1995 and non-monogamous since 2000.
If any of the above is a deal breaker for you, you probably ought not read any further.
Here are a few other potential deal-breakers:
I'm a leftist; an atheist and a skeptic; a feminist; moderately tattooed; a gun owner; a gearhead; a gamer; a diabetic.
Again, I mention all this because I really don't want either of us waste our time here - if any of that stuff is a deal-breaker, then click that "hide" button.
I identify as a queer pansexual sometimes (pan rather than bi, as gender is *not* a binary condition) and as a queer bisexual (because I'm concerned about bi visibility) other times. I'm ethically non-monogamous, mildly kinky, and sex-positive.
I'm an oddball; my views on politics, culture, sex and other things are often decidedly different than those of most people I meet.
I am often amusing; if our mutual senses of humor line up, it's likely that I'll keep you laughing. If they don't, you'll probably be confused. A lot.
I work in tech. I am also a professional artist.
I am a traveler when time & money allow for it.
What I'm looking for: OkC's short description doesn't really cut it. It's true as far as it goes, but doesn't go far enough. In addition to being okay with the stuff above, for us to get along well enough to become friends (at the very least) you need to be:
Trans- and gender-nonconforming friendly
To be even more specific, what I most want is what is often called in poly circles a "strong secondary" partner or two; someone with a fair amount of availability, who is preferably bisexual or pansexual, has a significant libido, is sex-positive with an interest in or curiosity about kink and body modification. It'll help if we match at 90% or better. None of these are absolute requirements, and I'm open to other types of connections, but this is what I'm most interested in finding.
In more concrete terms:
I'm a former sysadmin, attempting to change career paths to become a full time project manager. In the past, when employed, I typically spent a lot of time working; I expect this will start up again once my classes do (late June '16) and continue once I become employed again.
I spend a fair amount of time either behind a camera lens or sitting and drawing weird things with ink on paper.
I spend a goodly amount of the time left over from the above with my lovely wife and my other sweeties, socializing with other people and indulging in my other hobbies. I sleep less than I really ought.
I've become fairly adept at scheduling.
Relationships (I think so anyway).
Befriending cats, dogs, horses, mules, ferrets and rats.
Cooking things, often with lots of garlic and chilies.
Open and clear communication.
Ranting and snarking, as necessary.
My hair, which is very long, very thick, very curly and streaked with grey.
My eyes: they are hazel - brown most of the time, changing to green.
I've also been told on occasion that I have an imposing physical presence.
(Movies) I don't see as many movies as I'd like these days. Given the amount of socializing and projects I'm immersed in, this is one of the things that had to go. My current all-time favorite movie (this changes with mood and season) is Hopscotch.
(Music) I have far too many "favorites" to list. A small sampling would be Stan Ridgway, Warren Zevon, The Clash, The Mermen, Jethro Tull, Chris Smither...
(Food) - Yes please. Bonus points for strong flavors and spiciness. I'll cook, if you like.
Drawing pens and paper
Emergency asthma inhaler
A way to carry the above items
I feel like I need to add a few caveats here (I have in the past, overreached these boundaries, and it never went well):
* First things first: if you are in any way homophobic, transphobic, racist, sexist, anti-immigrant, interested in slut-shaming, body-shaming or any similar behaviors, you are not allowed to ride on my bus. If your answers to any of the questions that I look at indicate these things, I automatically hide your profile.
* If I am out of your age range, I will not contact you and I will hide your profile. If you contact me I will likely be somewhat suspicious, and I'll ask you about it.
* I will never contact you if you are only looking for single people (even if you otherwise list yourself as non-monogamous) and I will hide your profile. If you are looking for single people and you contact me, I will be not just suspicious, but wary - and it's the first question I'll ask you.
* If you are strongly mainstream religious, I will not contact you. If you are strongly non-mainstream religious and you're Very Serious about it, I will also not contact you, as you don't need my derision about your life choices.
* Lastly, if you haven't any photos, don't bother - I will hide your profile. If you have a privacy concern regarding photos, then you ought not be on an online *dating* site.
So, if you think of a reason that suits you, please do send me a note. I will answer it.